Why do so many ugly men have attractive girlfriends/wives?

Question

I'm 36,haven't had a proper relationship in over 10 years,haven't had sex or even kissed a girl for 3 years,and I consider myself to be reasonably good looking yet I still see right mingers with beautiful women-what's that all about? And you can forget all that crap about nice personalities-you've got to wake up next to them,remember

sofagrrrl-i'm not sure what planet you've just arrived from but you're ways must be very different to ours

Answer 1

They could be rich and those women are just gold diggers.

Answer 2

Someone on this site asked something about men and whats important to them....looks or other things, like personality.

My opinion is men are visual...the other stuff I think comes much later.....but I do believe with all my heart men have to be truly turned on by something you've got to look at.

I'm a female and I also notice this too and I think I can safely say that we woman are much more interested in the character of a man. I mean we really would like this wonderful guy to be somewhat ok looking but I don't believe its really the thing were looking for in a person. However sometimes you can get the "whole" package, looks and a good guy, but thats just a big bonus to us.
We aren't as particular as men and thats why you and alot of others see a good looking woman on a not so great looking guy.

Answer 3

Yeah I know what your talking about.

I see many beautiful girls on the street with questionable looking guys, and I wonder "How did that happen?".

Well, what I hear from many of my guy friends who claim to be a "player" or "pimp" tell me that the reason why they meet so many woman is because they simply use their personality.

The guys I know have a way of talking and being funny at the same time, which as a result, helps them pick up chicks. And quite honestly their pretty attractive ones too.
Even one of my friends had admitted that he ain't the best looking guy, but he uses charm.

So I think maybe u gotta keep searching for the right girls because the ones that ur referring to are probably the eccentric girls that tend to go for the odd looking guys. Ex. Look at Britney Spears & K.Fed b4, Carmen Electra with Dennis Rodman b4 as well.

There is plenty of fish in the sea so its possible ur "good
looks" would only be the thing a girl would want to have a relationship with u for. Because than again, as I was told, their are shallow ones.

Answer 4

Money. Woman of certain appearance know that to maintain that appearance one has to have considerable financial means. (cosmetic procedures, gym, sleep late, eat well, vacations, expensive clothes and jewelry).
Good looking guys are great, but Men with Power and Money are better. They work hard to keep us gorgeous.
That is why we are with them.
You wanted the truth.
Mind you, aside from all above said, the reason you may have not met the one for you, is that you may not be doing all you can, actively, to do so.
Try this:
Volunteer with a charitable organization.
Join a gym.
Take night classes.
Put your profile on dating sites. You will be surprised they can work.
Let your friends know you are single and available.
Keep a good positive attitude about yourself and what you have to offer, don't look at what other men have, useless jealousy is just wasted energy.
Go to different cultural events like art galleries opening, exhibits, photography shows, music festivals. The atmosphere is usually open and friendly and the event itself gives you a reason to chat up anyone and break the ice.
Good luck.

Answer 5

Women don't always look at the outside first like men. they see the inner long before they see the outside. If you have not been lucky in love yet give thanks. someone is there waiting for the inner you. develop that person know yourself, learn what love is natural man is ruled by lust, and therefore is blind to love.
When you wake up in the morning have a look at yourself through the eyes of a good female, do you look good, are you a nice person to be with in the morning. What comes first for you your woman or work.
I think you have a lot of growing up yet, I have met the wrong women many times, The best looking woman is not always the best to with, look inside yourself as you find someone you find is attracted to you, do not rush into any thing take your time. this is a person to share your life with. Perhaps you take more time buying that car or house than you would with someone who you will share all with, She will know all about you in time, so take your time and learn who that person is, what they like, how they feel and listen to this person and don't give all your demands. life is give and take in all things.
ugly men learn they need more than looks and work on what they need to keep a good woman. but what is ugly to you is OK to some others, I wish you well with learning about yourself and love, You must love to be loved, that includes yourself.

Answer 6

Im attravtive and i think my man is beautiful even tho others might not.

I ended up with my HUSBAND because of his awesom personality his royal friendship and his respect and the way he treats me.

he is not ugly but he is not a supermodel either. But all his great features has made him americas numebr one husband.

You must have a very bad flaw that u havent gotten laid in 3 years. Something is really wrong. I mean good looking or ugly men get laid.

Unless u are exactly like someone i know then yeah work on yourself dude whats up with u. Its not the girls its most likely a defect with you

Answer 7

I would have to say that its something that attracts the girl. Yeah he could be ugly, but it could be the eyes, the smile or just something else that you wouldn't think of. Yeah the guy could be ugly but its the way he treats the girl. If he treats the girl like a queen he got her. Guys could have good game, such as conversation, make them laugh. Some girls like guys with great sense of humor. If you don't have a great sense of humor forget it. Another thing if you are trying get a girl don't be all on her. Meaning dont beast all over her. Some girls dont like it when guys try hard to get there attention. If a guy could be himself dont give a flying F*** then you know what a girl could see that. Another thing it could be there convenience then they could see that. If you dont have that then good bye. Not for nothing but this questions apply to you guys too. How come ugly girls get good looking guys? See if you could answer that and if you could answer this question then you just answer your question.

Answer 8

A guy that's responsible, financially stable, determined, has their priorities straight, trustworthy, funny, sweet, gentlemanly (etc) can be just as attractive or more attractive to a lot of women than a guy who is stereotypically good-looking but lacking the aforementioned qualities. A lot of times, what will happen is we're more initially attracted to the hot guy but the guy with the better personality becomes more attractive, because if you really love their personality, their looks become much more acceptable to you over a while. It's true.

ALSO:::::::!!!!!!!
Personally, I've liked guys that I wasn't really attracted to because of the way they treated me and how I felt about myself when I was around them. If a guy shows that they genuinely care about you and they're genuinely interested in what you have to say and in your life, then that makes me feel special and I want to be around them as much as i possibly can, even if they're not the most attractive guy you know. Actually, this has happened to me twice already this year.

Answer 9

you call it crap about nice personalities but there it is, those personalities are waking up next to those beautiful women and you are waking up alone....maybe there IS something to be said for all that eh? Seriously, when a man knows how to treat a woman like she is the only thing that he will ever want or need again, he could look like Shrek and Love is blind...there's truth to all those old cliches. Good looks may get you started but you gotta have something behind all that or you really have nothing but good looks...and lots of alone time

Answer 10

Beyond the issue of nice personality is the issue of good treatment, these guys must treat their women well. It's hard to appreciate a cute face if it's turned away from you or has a fist in front of it.

Gender difference. Women care less about looks than men do. Ugly guys always have an advantage over ugly girls.

Answer 11

Ok you need to get something straight!!!! in the long run personality DOES matter. maybe with initial attraction good looks matter but, later on a good looking guy with a shitty personality wont get any woman. no offense or anything but you need a attitude adjustment then you'll get a girl friend. the girls who are really great girlfriends dont care as much about looks as they do about personality. I am guessing by ur attitude that u put looks higher than personality in a girl and thats not good. girls HATe guys like that. so if u want a girl friend change ur attitude.