If we were together, it was never at my house unless my children were gone. This is the second guy. My children are not the best behaved but not the worst. I'm thinking of putting dating on hold until they are all grown, but I get lonely and down. Any ideas?
2007-08-10 06:37:21 · 11 answers · asked by Snively 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's not the mother and he has no right to tell you how to parent.
2007-08-10 06:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by Becca 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this the 2nd guy who you have separated from for the same reason. Putting dating on hold sounds like an impractical way to avoid disciplining your children. Not the worst but not the best sounds to me like you know there are discipline problems here. I would work on those and continue to date.
2007-08-10 07:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are a mother,,, and you know what
YOU SHOULD ALLWAYS COME FIRST !
only when you are happy that you can be a good mother,lover, and stuff,, if not you will be one of those ppl who hates everybody else because they did everything for their parents,,kids,, and ending up having no life and lonely
funny huh,,, i live for my parents which i am not complaining but i realise that i have to be happy to be a good son
so my point is dont post pone your own happiness,,,,
the guy who dont understand how tough is it to be a single mum doesnt need your attention and you dont have to change your kids to suit another person,, he should accept you and them all together,,,but of course do see if he did make a point because you do in a way need to control your kids,,,,
dont post pone one area of your life ,, you cannot do that,, you will do that and fail miserably in your love life,, you have to juggle all of them together,,, grow a back bone,,, learn the magic word NO,,, dont worry you are a good mom if you learn to say NO,,they might not appreciate you now but when they are grown up they will adore you,, how i know about this ? I LOVE MY SIBLINGS,, and allways tough to them when i need too,, and now guess who is the cool bro ?
2007-08-10 06:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being disrespected by your children (especially in front of strangers or your date) is a sign of weakness in character and a lack of discipline on your part towards your children.
2007-08-10 06:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have dated men who have said the same thing--that they ended relationships over unruly kids. For one thing, they didn't like it and it also is a reflection on you as far as how you handle it. As men get older it seems to be an important thing for them to see.
2007-08-10 06:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take care of your children. Get them into some sort of afterschool program that will give them teamwork and structure. Call Social Services, they've got great ideas on how to get your kids to respect you. Better you call them, than them calling you.
2007-08-10 06:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by nemorino147 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This will be a repeating problem until you reign the kids in, instead of defending them. They've been negatively involved twice. They are a problem. It just depends on how you handle it.
2007-08-10 06:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to your kids. Get them on track, because they are stopping you from gettin some. You need to TELL, not ask, them to be on their best behavior when your boyfriend is around.
2007-08-10 06:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by This Is Radio Clash 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your better off without these guys, if they really loved you, they would of hung on in there. you got teen raring that's bad enough, without an **** hole guy giving you grief, concentrate on your kids. their more important, and if a nice decent guy comes along. well done. but never let a guy come before your kids.love me love my kids
2007-08-10 06:46:30 · answer #9 · answered by valda54 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah: reign your kids in. You are the adult, you are the parent. They shouldn't be able to drive people away like that.
2007-08-10 06:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by Alecto 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋