Is it okay to let my 4yr.old daughter spend time w/her dad and his new girlfriend?

Question

I'm just kind of worried that his new gf won't be nice to my daughter.

Answer 1

You will never know unless you let her go. Besides she needs to spend time with her daddy too. I would never be mean to my step daughter and she is in the terrible TEENS! ugh! haha Just make sure you ask your daughter questions when she comes home to see what is going on if you are concerned. Good luck!

Answer 2

It would be mentally damaging for you to prevent her from seeing Dad as often as she wants to. You must reconize what you had with him is gone and now it is best for the sake of your childs mental stability that the two of you remain on a friendly basis. Give a respectful hug at Christmas time etc. On the long road the fact Mom and Dad can still come see her together as she reaches different mild stones in her life will make all the difference how she emerges into the world as an adult.

Answer 3

It's important for your daughter to spend time with her dad & a girlfriend is part of the package now, just as it's important for your daughter to spend time alone with her dad. Believe me, if your daughter is mistreated by the girlfriend, you won't have to ask questions, she'll let you know. Children know when adults don't like them & even if the girlfriend is nice on the outside, your daughter will be able to lick up on the gal's body language. I hope all goes well. If your daughter cries & doesn't want to visit her dad, when she has been okay with it prior to the girlfriend, then it's a red flag going up for a reason.

Answer 4

I am sure everything will be just fine. I am pretty sure that her Father will keep an eye on her. I doubt that his new girlfriend would be cruel, afterall the quickest way to any parent's heart is through their children.

Just stay positive and give your daughter lots of positive energy. Say things like, "Your going to have so much fun with Daddy and his new friend!. You will have to tell me about all the fun things you did when you come home."

Answer 5

I would talk to your ex, about having a lot of different women around your daughter, same with you if you are dating, I would try to keep my dating life away from my daughter until I know I am serious about the guy I am with. Same thing for her father, if he is dating this women for like a year and they are serious then I say its OK for your daughter to meet her. Anything than that can cause confusion for her. You don't want her to get attached to someone one of you has been dating and then their gone, she is already dealing with being in two separate house holds with one parent in each.
Even if that person has kids of their own, like I said keep your dating life separate from your child's, unless you are getting married.
My ex-boyfriend, when he was 11 was raped by the 2 sons of the woman his father was dating at that time. He was visiting his father. He told me that his father had only been seeing that woman for like a month, and they ended the relationship shortly after that incident. So you never know.

Answer 6

I would worry too....I would not agree to this unless I had spent some time with the girl first. I know it might be awkward but it is your daughters happiness at stake...I would insist on you having a meal out with the girl and your ex...(Not your Daughter) to see what your instincts are. You could go out twice with them before you let your daughter stay with them (I WOULD) and if they dont like it...then tough...no deal. Just because your ex likes her that doesnt mean she is suitable company for your child. Good luck.

Answer 7

You can't shield her from every girlfriend. Just try to stay on good terms with your ex and maybe his gf and you should be fine. Keeping good ground will help insure that you are all on the same page with your daughter.(Whether you want another woman involved with your daughter or not, anyone she's around will influence her life.)
Good Luck.

Answer 8

I wouldn't worry about that. If your ex is a good dad, he will make sure that anyone he is with is good to his daughter. Also, the girlfriend will probably be really nice to your daughter if she really wants the relationship to work with your ex.

Answer 9

"what ought to I do" you should step down the goddam drama a notch; it somewhat is a sturdy start up. Moan moan moan approximately this guy's lady pal -- who cares -- and yet you're fairly the drama queen your self. If, at any ingredient on your existence, you finally end up surrounded by using fairly some drama? it is because you your self are becoming some drama... "I suggested get the money asap for dna as i do no longer think of there is any ingredient of you seeing her till you comprehend for particular." What a pissy, propose, small area of do to a guy you knew to be the daddy. "He needs to make certain her, i suggested ok yet one after the different from the recent lady pal purely for a three hundred and sixty 5 days to make certain how issues circulate, with the aid of fact she actually did no longer bypass on a message" it is ridiculous. it is not how adults take care of those issues. you're ruining your youngster's relationship along with her different make certain. seek for counseling for your self to locate why you are able to no longer circulate previous this guy and would't be a grown-up approximately this; seek for separate counseling for you and the daddy so which you would be able to hammer out a co-parenting plan.

Answer 10

Well she needs to spend time w/ her dad. She's old enough to tell you if the girlfriend is mean to her or not.

Just remember if she is mistreating your kid you can always make it to where she can't be around the kid during visitations.