Okay I'm noy a **** or anything.
Honest I don't sleep around but I always flit or find new friends outside my relationship.I find it hard not to because guys always show me attention and my guy don't all he do is work and hang out with his guys.But my question is am I cheating or not?I amitt I have friendswho I know wants to be more and I enjoy being liked by them,even though I'm in a committed relationship
2007-08-10 04:38:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you're not cheating really, but if i was your man, i'd be a little pissed. you gotta talk to him and tell him what's up, how you need more attention and stuff. don't do it behind his back.
2007-08-10 04:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by shoefly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In your situation, it doesnt sound like you're having in problem with it at all. I think it's more how you would like to interact with your beau than it is whether or not you're "cheating" on him. I mean, think about this: how many ppl can honestly say when they're with someone else, they dont find other ppl attractive? it's acting on base impulses that defind the difference between just hanging around the opposite and actually thinking about or actually following thru on those base impulses. If you have guyfriends that want more and they arent making a move, you should be thankful because alot of guys cant take a hint to save their lives. I think it's alot easier to be faithful than some ppl think as long as your arent "greedy" when it comes to the opposite sex
2007-08-10 11:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by Saiyanman3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are cheating if you are physically intimate with someone else, or verbally intimate discussing sexual acts or feelings or desires to be with someone other than your partner.
It's okay to have opposite sex friends, that's not cheating...but you have to draw a line where your words or behavior will not cross, lest it become cheating.
Monogamy isn't natural to humans, but after being taught for so long that it's how we should be, many do seek to have that kind of relationship. If you want multiple partners then be honest about it, and date someone who is willing to have an open relationship or a swinging one (if being faithful is so difficult for you). Some people can love with their whole heart, but still desire variety in their sex life...
Don't do anything you wouldn't want your partner doing with some other woman.
2007-08-10 11:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to the question "why is it so hard to be faithful" is, it isn't. But what you're describing isn't an issue of faithfulness anyway, but one (currently) of flirtation. Flirtation isn't cheating in itself (but done wantonly it threatens to dance along the edge of that fineline). I can appreciate that you're in a committed relationship, and that's great as far as that goes. But it doesn't sound as if your committed relationship is sustaining you to your satisfaction. I would caution you against alliances that don't serve you well....and when you discover they aren't meeting your needs (emotionally, physically, intellectually, whatever) it is better to sever those ties and find unions that will sustain you and make you thrive.
2007-08-10 12:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your obviously not with the right guy. If you think your not getting enough attention of coarse your going to start looking elsewhere. Your not cheating, but your on your way to something more happening. Maybe you need to ditch the guy your with and find what your looking for.
2007-08-10 11:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your man and advise him how you feel. See where that goes. Also if you feel like you have to cheat then maybe you aren't getting what you exactly need in your relationship, therefore y'all probably wasting each others time. I say voice how you feel ...a closed mouth will neva get fed.
2007-08-10 11:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by Diva4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not hard to be faithful, and if you have to ask this question, then YOU are not in a committed situation.
Guys see some thing they want a piece of and fill your head with complements (bull crap) they know YOU will fall for, then your undies come down and . . . . .
"If you don't stand for anything, you'll fall for everything"
2007-08-10 11:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by smurfee68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets say he does the same thing to u.he has all the same charming advances from the Lady's how wud that make u feel flirting is not cheating when it's Innocent but we can flirt with others to check the Waters to see if he or she is interested in me.i can say this if in a relationship with someone i am supose to love flirting is ok but no contact
2007-08-10 11:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by Frank d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may not be satisfied with your current relationship. Talk to your BF and tell him your needs. The only way things will change is if you confront the issues.
2007-08-10 11:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by Get Your Ex Back 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never hard to be faithful. It is very hard to look faithful when you aren't. Likewise it is very difficult to lie or cheat and show you didn't. Be honest in relationship and enjoy bliss.
2007-08-10 11:44:24 · answer #10 · answered by sv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend is busy ALL THE TIME. we hardly see each other. i got guy friends. i talk to them on the phone, exchange text msgs and we even hang out. my boyfriend doesnt know about this and i dont consider it cheating at all because i know im not doing anything wrong. they are just my friends and i still got one boyfriend that im faithful to. so if you believe that too then dont fret, its ok :)
2007-08-10 11:43:23 · answer #11 · answered by baby_rose21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋