okay, so i had a sexual dream about my husband's friend who apparently fancies me (this came up a few weeks ago & we don't speak to him anymore--my husband almost picked a fight with him. i didn't have any clue! but i guess my husband suspected it for a while) but anyway, i remember being uncomfortable about the situation during the dream & didn't really want to do anything with him but he kept trying & for some reason i didn't really stop him...
i dunno, i feel guilty though...
what does it mean??
2007-08-10 04:32:51 · 14 answers · asked by it's me again 2 in Social Science ➔ Dream Interpretation
it came up as in my husband brought it to my attention.
i don't "like" this guy like that at all, btw. i considered him a friend but i've never even consdiered him attractive in that way.
2007-08-10 04:45:07 · update #1
(i dreamed it last night, yesterday he came up breifly in a convo between hubby & i, the situation didn't but his name was mentioned)
2007-08-10 04:46:24 · update #2
oh, and actual penetration never happened, but almost did. and i wouldn't touch him or tell him to stop, but i kept moving away & he kept follwoing me.
2007-08-10 04:47:38 · update #3
No reason to feel guilty- your subconscious mind was just trying to process the information that the guy was interested in you, and that it upset your husband. Nothing more. That the dream did not occur until AFTER you found out he fancied you shows that you had not even considered the idea until AFTER you were told he was interested in you. Obviously, you are not attracted to this guy, so why feel guilty?
2007-08-10 04:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by Phoenix Dell'incrocio 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert but I think it is just on your mind and now you realize that he probably thinks of you in a sexual way where before you thought he was just a friend. You were uncomfortable because you knew it wasn't right and something you really didn't want to do. I think you probably didn't stoop him in your dream because you previously viewed him as a friend and not a threat. It will eventually pass but if I were you I would keep it to myself. Your hubby might take it the wrong way and think you are attracted to this other guy also. Think about it though, if the guy was hot for you he has probably always been nice to you and now all of a sudden he is no longer a friend but you really had no clue so in your mind you have no reason to suddenly dislike him now.
2007-08-10 06:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by CINDY J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One school of thought is that you are all the people in your dream. I think it is your brain dealing with the fact that he liked you, which can make you feel good. Also, now you have also lost a friend. Which reflects the loss. It is a bit of a passive aggressive feel. You still like him, but now cannot be his friend and it was his fault. You are aggressive to him in the dream (remember you are both people) for what you lost, his friendship, and passive about losing him for the sake of you husband. It is the two parts of you dealing with the whole ordeal. Lastly, do NOT tell your husband. Two reasons. One, he will never understand what the dream meant, and will think you want to sleep with the former friend. Second, dumping your guilt on him is just cruel. Remember, he lost a good friend. Just get on with your life. Love your husband and forget the past.
2007-08-10 05:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by Songbyrd JPA ✡ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Feeling guilty over the dream?? Nah its just a dream, but if you do it with the friend in real life then you should feel guilty as hell!! Anyway the dream could mean anything, like any dream it could just be a dream, then, it could mean that you are thinking of a lil fling with your husbands friend, maybe he will be the guy you end up cheating on your husband with, lol, okay i think i said enough. PS if you get any more sexual dreams of the guy it definitely means something
2007-08-10 04:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by darkangelbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In our waking lives, we have a lot of control over what we do, partly because of our upbringing and partly because of what we feel is the right thing to do. However we do sometimes wonder, what if.... things were different. Well the sub conscious mind, picks up on these clues and lives them out in our fantasy, just like the dream you mentioned. In this dream sequence, we not only live out our fantasy but also weigh the pros and cons so that you are better prepared and equipped to face the consequences, if it were to unfold in real like. So relax, it is just your hidden self, letting off some steam. You are OK and normal. Nothing of the sort is going to happen real life. This is just another way to fulfill your secret dreams.
2016-05-18 22:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just resolving the conflict that came up between husband/you and this man. Maybe dealing with your own sexuality...being a sexual entity outside the context of marriage (not talking about cheating... just the concept of you as a sexual being) but that does not mean you secretly want to have sex with that particular individual. - His attraction is his issue... what this brought up for YOU doesn't necessarily have to do with him personally.
2007-08-10 05:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by Bentley 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were probably flattered slightly by the fact that this other man fancied you and your subconscience manifested a situation for the two of you being together. It doenst mean anything other than you had a situation with this man in reality and your subconscience brought it to sleep with you. You should't feel guilty we can;t control our dreams.
2007-08-10 04:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by Rin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, so let me get this straight, there's this friend of yours & your husband's that is interested in you, but you were totally naive about it until your husband told you what he saw, right?
and in this dream, this same guy that was interested in you kept following you around trying to have sex with you or whatnot & you just walked away. were you not acknowledging his advances? were you walking away as if nothing odd was going on? or like you wished there was nothing going on (deliberately ignorant of it)? perhaps the dream has to do with the fact that you didn't have a clue what was going on, but that it must have been obvious since your husband picked up on it. perhaps you felt guilty BEFORE the dream, for not stopping his attraction in its tracks; perhaps you feel like you didn't do anything to stop him from liking you and inadvertently enabled it to become an issue. the dream seems to mimick what went on in the situation--this guy that liked you was following you around trying to woo you & you were oblivious, as if nothing was going on.
2007-08-10 07:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by Ember Halo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be feeling guilty because you sort of want be with your husband's friend but are afraid to admit this to yourself. Dreams are a way for us to work this kind of stuff out without really having to do it.
It is normal to have these kinds of feelings sometimes but it is dangerous to act on them.
It was innapropriate for your husband's friend to let you and your husband know that he is attracted to you. With friends like this you sure don't need any enemies.
2007-08-10 04:52:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To dream about sex with someone other than your spouse or significant other, suggests dissatisfaction with the physical side of your relationship. On the other hand, it may be harmless fantasy. In such situations, you may find that you are less inhibited sexually and you can even bring that sense of adventure to your existing relationship.
Hope I've Helped!
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2007-08-10 04:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by little.miss.hot.lips 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋