nths behind on the mortgage.. & we want to keep the condo in the family..My moms ( his sister) name is also on the condo & if he cant pay up by next wednesday then he will be out on the street & we will have to make back payments as well as the current payments.. My mom has paid his way for years & can no longer help him out..She is 2 years widowed. He has a on & off job so he has had income...I dont know what he does wiht his money.... I would hate to see him out on the street. I have no idea where he would stay... but I would hate to see the condo be sold. My grandma wanted it for her grandchildren.. I could stay there & make the payments but I would feel bad for my uncle. Should I even approach him about it?? I feel stuckk...
2007-08-10 04:01:54 · 5 answers · asked by raisin4362001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He is a loser. If you help him, you are only enabling him.
2007-08-10 04:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this issue is between your mom and your uncle... it's not your responsibility right now.
i would like to say that, if your mother's name is on some mortgage for the place, the non-payment is going to affect her credit terribly.
your mother could buy him out.... she and your uncle need to talk and straighten this issue around. if your uncle doesn't have the funds, it's not realistic for him to live there, or even have his name on the place...
you could stay there and make the payments, if you want. but don't do it if you don't want to... sometime you have to consider YOU too.
i dont know what your uncle is doing with his money, and it's not really the point.
if you're concerned ask your mom how she's coping, and offer to help if you can... otherwise it's not your issue, hon.
i sure do hope something works out.
2007-08-10 11:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MYOB. He is 48 and has a right to fail. Even though that sounds harsh, it is a right we each have as individuals. I can only assume he has found a way to make things work out for the last half century and just because you are scared, does not mean he has to do things your way.
The condo is HIS, not "the families." I can understand you want it for posterity, but that is not the way the property laws work. She gave it to him. It is his. If he loses it, you have an opportunity to purchase it outright and keep it that way. If you do not want to wait, make him an unsolicited offer right now. Other than that you are only "trying to teach a pig to sing."
2007-08-10 11:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by Moose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon with you all helping him all the time he won't help himself.... let him see life as it is.... he is a grown man and can't expect everyone to keep helping him... that is why he is not worried about anything.. because he knows you and your mum will fix it up.......... your mum is right .. there comes a time when you have to say no more, even though you love your uncle you can't carry him.... let him start being responsible ............
2007-08-10 11:09:44 · answer #4 · answered by belle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your problem........have your mother talk to him
2007-08-10 11:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋