Females and Males have sexual needs, which is why I think you shouldnt wait till Marraige, I think you should atleast try sex to see if you like it. Because what if you do wait till marriage, then you have sex, and you dont like it, you say its uncomfortable and not pleasurable, but your other partner likes it but you dont. And because yall are married, yall cant seperate that easly like a bf/gf can. So what do that leave you with? If your partner isint being satisfied with you then it may lead to cheating and damaging the relationship. But if you wanna wait, then theres nothing wrong with it but you have to think of the things that may happen.
2007-08-10 03:45:17 · 14 answers · asked by ♥♥904SOUTH♥♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Two sayings come to mind
1) "Do you buy shoes without trying them on?"
2) "Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free?"
You will get opinions on both sides. This is such a personal decision, if you approach it with maturity, protect your health, and use contraception, no one has the right to judge what you do with your body.
2007-08-10 03:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by surfbum68m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think that waiting until marriage is a good idea.
Marriage is not all about sex. I mean, that is part of it, and a large part too. But that is not all there is.
I think that is you are married, you should be able to communicate with each other and tell each other what does and doesn't feel good. You can work on it together, the more the better. Sex should feel good, and be fun. And loosing your virginity is a big thing. It is something that you can never get back, ever! So if you are not going to wait, at least choose someone that you love, and you know that they are not just going to walk away after they get what they want.
And this is just my opinion, so please don't get on my case about anything that you don't like.
2007-08-10 04:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by Amy P 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no... depends. Yes, because "trail marriages" which is what sex and a relationship really our improve the chances of a good marriage. But no, if the guilt factor is huge, i.e. if you are religious and you can't handle these factors. As you point out, our sex drive is powerful. It can be controlled. And it isn't bad to control it. The easiest way to make this decision is to pretend it's ten years later and ask yourself what do you "feel" about "what you did 10 years ago? Trust your instincts on this one. It knows things you don't.
However, you should be at least 17... both of you. Or he can go to jail and do some hard time. Sorry, but that's the law.
2007-08-10 03:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ideally, waiting till marriage is good. It's so hard in our society though. Just wait until you know that you are ready and that you want to be with that person for more than the physical stuff. If that happens to be when you are married, then good.
2007-08-10 03:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by I love cookies 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should wait until marriage. If you are not compatible with the person you married when it comes to sexual needs and pleasure then the marriage will be very rocky. I think before you marry someone you should know them very intimately on every level.
2007-08-10 03:48:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your religious beliefs and standard of morals. But marrying someone first and then having sex, deciding you don't like it after one or two times is just wrong. Don't marry just for the sex. And you'll find that if one variation of sex isn't doing it for you, there are numerous ways available to have it that may just punch your ticket. It's trial and error in that department, too.
2007-08-10 03:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a personal preference and there's no right answer.
In my opinion I don't think it's a good idea to wait for several of the same reasons you mentioned.
2007-08-10 03:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by Peter N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in some religions it's forbidden but these days i don't think you'll find anyone who actually waits...
i believe that it's not wrong to lose your virginity before marriage so long as the person with whom you are engaging with is someone you really trust, someone you love... not just anyone...
2007-08-10 03:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by Lil Curvalicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT! ive herd so much that ppl do have sex and either wish they would have waited or the relationship ends shortly after....thats my opinion tho.
2007-08-10 03:52:11 · answer #9 · answered by im_lovin_him 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should wait.
How many aids cases where between marriage couples and single non married couples?
2007-08-10 03:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋