2007-08-10 03:15:01 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LMFAO...So true, so true.
2007-08-10 03:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's equality under the law and there are social customs. These are two different things. If the guy's making a lot more money than the woman is (and, unfortunately, this is very often still true), then it seems OK. But I dispute your basic premise that everyone thinks the man "has to" pay for everything?
Shoefly, do you really think it's a woman's world? You're delusional. Who's running the country? Middle-aged white guys. They're running the world, for that matter. I'm the library director at my college, but very often people here will go to one of the male librarians to ask something, even though I'm their boss! Live one week as a woman and then see if you think it's our world. It would be in a lot better shape if it were.
2007-08-10 03:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good question. Men don't necessarily have to pay for everything,but in the beginning of most relationships that's what happens. The man is supposed to be able to take his girlfriend out, if he doesn't then he's viewed as unmanly..cheap..and disrespectful.
Just like men look only for VIRGINS to marry, but supposedly it's okay for a man to have had sex with several women before settling down..if a woman isn't a virgin she's viewed as promiscuous, slutty, and having little or no potential for becoming a wife.
So no..we haven't come to pure equality just yet.
2007-08-10 03:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by Candicexx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that men have to pay for everything. Personally a believe things should be 50/50 as much as possible. Whoever asks the other for the date should pay. On a date where the lady was asked out, if she is a new millinium woman, should offer to pay for something during the date. Such as the tip or a round of drinks. If I ask you to the movies, I'll pay but it would be nice if you bought the popcorn and candy. See what I mean? But I will say, at the end of the day, we as woman subconsciously seek our Alpha male to provide and protect or atleast show the ability to.
2007-08-10 03:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that men (today) are necessarily required to pay. I think that in a long term relationship it is def more equal. But when it comes to first dates and things like that, I think that some men still can be chivalrous. I like a man to take me out and treat once in a while...but its also nice to spoil each other. However I do know some women that take advantage of guys and their paychecks and that's not cool.
2007-08-10 03:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by aliali 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In 2007 and women's definition of equal is they get to decide everything and they win an argument if they found out that you carried just one less sock to the washing machine. Wether or not you cooked supper and worked two jobs has nothing to do with it. And if you yell at her because you walk in on her banging your brother and best friend your a control freak.
What a shame -- tis better now days to be gay.
2007-08-10 03:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They aren't. That's an old superstition. Women who expect guys to pay for everything are pushing themselves back into the stone age, because paying for stuff has nothing to with chivalry. If you open a door for me, I won't object, but I have issues with my boyfriend trying to pay for dinner all the time. Both men and women perpetuate the myth of the man being the provider; it should change, but who knows when?
2007-08-10 03:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by ChaosDuchess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's called cultural heritage. Go to Sweden and see what they do.....there has never been any difference between men and women there as far as life choices are concerned so they just pay for themselves and treat each other as equals......i guess histrorical trends just take a while to be phased out in countries where women have been previously treated as just home makers
2007-08-10 03:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by Big Dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are these men who pay for everything?
Just kidding. Seriously, if it's a problem in your relationship you should discuss it, but if you are talking about first dates, it's just polite--you will come across as cheap if you expect someone to split the bill and you have asked them out.
I think whoever initiates the first date should pay, because what if the other person can't afford the restaurant they are being taken to?
2007-08-10 03:18:10 · answer #9 · answered by jenni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most women don't really want equality, that's just a slogan.
If they truly wanted to be equal (the way a man defines it, anyway) they wouldn't expect him to pay. This is only one example, of course... The toilet seat is another classic. Also, there are women who want to be firefighters but expect to be held to less stringent physical requirements to be accepted. Things like that.
They only follow that 'equality' mantra so long as it suits them.
Edit: I find many of the ladies' responses heartening, but not all are so enlightened. I don't mean for any of this to be interpreted as a blanket condemnation of all women, by the way.
2007-08-10 03:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Alowishus B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all women believe that men should pay for EVERYTHING. When he is courting the woman he should pay for everything. Once in a relationship things should become 50/50
2007-08-10 03:18:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋