I Agreed To Meet This Woman For Sex?

Question

But when I got over there I changed my mind because I have a
girlfriend. Somehow my girlfriend found out anyway that I met
the woman and she left me. I feel it it shouild have been OK
since I didn't actually do anything with the woman. It shouldn't be my fault for that reason. What should I say to make my
girlfriend understand that?

Answer 1

It is over ... mistakes were made ...lessons learned. Move on to the next life experience and apply what you have learned.

The three choices were there and the results could have been different.

A. If you had not made any arrangements you would still be with your girlfriend.
B. If you had decided to have sex with the other girl, you would not be with your girlfriend now, but at least you would have had sex. A slightly better position than you are in now.
C. The choice you made to bail out on the hookup left you without a girlfriend or the free sex (maybe a relationship with the other girl).

Looks like you made the worst possible decision that was available. Better luck next time!

Live life, enjoy life, be safe and have fun.

Answer 2

The matter of the fact is she found out that was what you were goint to do. If this is what your relationship is about then you don't ned to be in one. Remember whatever is done in the dark will come to the light sooner or later. And besides just think if you did go through with this and came up with an STD and gave that to your gf as a present for forgiving you, you would really feel bad. Something pulled you back, I don't know what it was but be glad it didn't happen. Good luck...

Answer 3

There is nothing you can say. You were wrong, and you have to accept that you were wrong.

In your mind, you had already committed the act--and your intent was to cheat when you agreed to meet with that woman. That is how it starts---and who's to say that it would end the same way if you were in the same situation again?

Bottom line, if you don't want to get burned, then don't play with fire. Hopefully you learned from this situation.

Trust me, what is done in the dark will come to the light--if you wouldn't do it around your significant other, then don't do it at all.

Answer 4

Give her time. She's in a shock. Just a week or so. Not so much that she actually starts seeing some one else. After she's cool, just give her a call n say u wanna speak to her ONE LAST TIME. Say please. When you meet her, tell whatever happened. N tell her at that moment you realized that u love her. And give her a choice that after hearing the truth whether she wants to leave or stay... Ask her to think about it. N say, you will always be there for her.. irrespective of her decision

Answer 5

well can't blame your girl for being upset. After all put yourself in her shoes, if you found out she was going to meet some guy, yet she tells you that she couldn't go through with it.... the point is the thought crossed your mind before thinking about your girl. Very proud of any man who realizes tho. So gotta give you that much. Just tell her that for a split second you were an idiot to even concider being with any one but the one you love.

Answer 6

There used to be a show called Dateline Predators, and it was all about men who set up meetings with underaged girls for an intimate encounter. Of course, when the cameras came out and they learned they were busted, they tried to back their way out of things, just like you are right now -- "Oh, I changed my mind" or "Oh, I only came to say hello", or "I came to share the love of Jesus with this poor hot teenage virgin girl!"

Come on. Nobody believes it and your girlfriend ought to dump your sorry behind. You went because you agreed to meet the woman for sex. You got busted. Now be a man and walk away with your shoulders hunkered down and your head hung low. Bad dog!

Answer 7

wow, even though you did not follow through with the action, you still had full intention of doing so. otherwise you would have never went in the first place. Nor would you have made the arrangement.

Your gf has every right to be finished with you. There has to be something going on the encouraged you to look elsewhere.

Answer 8

Sorry to go all "Men are from Mars..." on you, but while men respect or disrespect each other because of their actions, women think differently on this matter. With her, the fact that you were even seriously thinking about the sex is the offense, whether or not you actually went through with it. It was, to her way of thinking, disrespectful to her, as if sex with her wasn't good enough. I don't know if you can get her back or not, but you have to start by apologizing for even considering sleeping with another woman.

I know, I know, all men think about sleeping with other women. You know it, I know it, most women know it, but its different with your girl because it was HER man thinking about it. So apologize first and see where you can take it from there.

Answer 9

One. What business did you have sneaking around your girl? Two. It's not the fact that you turn away that should make it all okay. It's the fact that you considered it. How would you feel if she went and had 100% intentions on sleeping with another man, got there and backed out, and you found out?

Answer 10

I'm sure that the fact that you met another woman and got to the point where you agreed to have sex with her was a betrayal the same as if you had fully carried it out. The intention was there.