hi if you read my last question ull understand more but i need advice on how to start a break up i mean i honestly dont know what to do if i do - what do i say..,im quite scared to be honest and really worried - how would i go by it?
2007-08-10 02:07:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just tell the guy why you want to break up, and then break up with him...if he says he'll change he's lying and tell him that
2007-08-10 02:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
just say it, its hard to do but if you really dont want to go out with the person then go for it. Are you likely to see him after you have broke up, if yes then do it nicely just explain that you need time alone or your not reasy for a relationship.
if your not going to see him again then just tell him straight.
go somewhere quiet away from friends family etc so you can just walk away, a pub is always a good place a few drinks down you neck will pluck up your courage
good luck
2007-08-10 10:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by Rubyroo'smum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my perspective, if you are close with your family like you say you are, no guy is worth hurting that relationship. Gf/Bf's come and go but family is in it for the long haul. Believe me when i say that there are better guys out there for you, it might be hard to believe and it might take you a little amount of time to find one, but it will be worth it in the end. I can't give you a definite answer on HOW to break up with him. But be strong and straight forward and one of your biggest arguing points should be that being with him is affecting your relationship with your family. Also, tell him he doesn't treat you well enough for you to tolerate severing those family ties.
2007-08-10 09:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by Eric S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and find a public place where it is just you and your boyfriend. Its never easy doing this but tell him, you've been thinking alot about this relationship and right now you feel its time to break it off.
Also be willing to explain in detail why it is not working out - that way you're showing him respect by giving reasons and not leave him high and dry.
2007-08-10 09:26:06 · answer #4 · answered by Salsoul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can maybe start it like this, "i have to be honest with you, i'm not really feeling this relationship and to be fair to you and myself it would be better if we went ahead and ended it" then of course you will probably reassure the person that they are great, but you just don't like them like that etc... give a little encouragement, but be up front and honest, if the relationship is done make sure they understand that, so they're not hanging on hoping it will work out. breaking up isn't easy, but if you are in the world of dating you'll have to know how to do it. good luck
2007-08-10 09:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have some big brothers that is easy. If not just be honest; tell the guy that you are going tobecome a nun and sex is the last thing you want and so this should effectively end the relationshsip. If you are not a Catholic ask God for help.
2007-08-10 09:11:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell the truth, with compassion, but make it definite. Do not draw it out.
Don't do any hinting around. That will lead to anxiety for both of you and also in the future, he might wonder if he has a chance to get back with you.
2007-08-10 09:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and upfront,if he doesnt like it,tough.
Sounds to me that he could be the aggressive type going off what you said? If this is true,then have someone with you when you tell him.
2007-08-13 13:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say that you cannot see yourself in 5 years time in the same position/circumstance that you are now - and that if you stay with the same person you think you will be therefore to be able to move on - that's exactly what you are going to do.
2007-08-10 09:12:57 · answer #9 · answered by Kev R at work need beer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to be cruel to be kind.I also wonder why you are so scared.If you're afraid to finish with him because of what he may do,then wait until you are in a public place with a friend as a witness.
2007-08-10 09:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by irene s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"It's not you, it's me"? LOL! Just kidding. I think if you just sit the person down, and say look, I am having a hard time right now in my life. I think it's best we spend some time apart. Just let them know that you need to move on, and need your space.
2007-08-10 09:11:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋