Can you help my sister.?

Question

I really don't know what to do and im really worried for my sister.
she is not eating and im worried that she will fall into the grip and anorexia.
she just wont eat for days she is not fat she is in between chubby and normal.
she looks pale all the time and laughes and brags that she is not eating, im constantly telling her to eat but she says that she is not hungry but she has gone 3 days without eating.
three days without eating and not hungry, im thinking to myself there is a promlem.
she won't listem to anyone because my mum has noticed it as well but there is nothing that we can do do to eat, when she does eat she will pick.

please can you give me any advice on how to help her without putting pressure on here.

Answer 1

Well there could be a dozen reasons why your sis is acting like this mate, but if it is the worst case scenario and she is developing an eating disorder (and it is likely by the sounds of it) then you need to do something.

There are a lot of counselling services through NHS direct and many other sources (easy to look up on the net), but a lot of people find these embarrassing or intimidating and wont use them. But they are handy sources of info for you both if you want to use them.

First thing is to let her know how worried you are for her without putting pressure on her. Maybe a good way to do this (and I know it sounds soft but try it) is to write her a letter. Just say that you care about her and are really worried about her health, and ask her to please just come to you if she needs to. Don't get too heavy and start talking about how bad it is or anything, just keep it at that. Then leave it on her pillow so she can read it, digest it and use it in her own time without anyone there to put pressure on her, then hopefully she will trust you and come to you for help.

Secondly she needs to be aware of how to live a healthy lifestyle and eat a healthy diet. Why not do this with her? She may need that extra support of someone doing it with her to give her a kick start?

You can both make a pact to eat 4 or 5 small meals a day (you cook at first and make sure you both eat it) containing a small ammount of carbs (pasta, rice, spuds), protien (chicken, fish, eggs, etc) and vitimins, minerals and antioxidants (fresh fruit and veg). The 4 or 5 small meals will suit her grazing habits, but ensure that her body is getting ALL the nutrients it needs.

Then try joining the gym and working out together? Combined with a healthy diet, this will really kickstart a healthy lifestyle for you both, and keep your sister lean and trim and negate her need to lose weight in other ways.

I really hope my advice helps in some way, and I hope that everything works out for your sis. She's lucky she has someone looking out for her.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Oh Honey, I am glad that you are asking for some help, and you are right you do need to worry about your sister, what she is doing is harming her health in so many different ways, she really does need your family to come together and intervene and get her some professional help, with her bragging that she hasn't ate in 3 days and she is not hungry that is just asking for help, if she doesn't take you and your mom advise then get her into a doctor, there could be so many different things that could be going wrong, a chemical imbalance, fear of being on the edge of being called fat, if she would like to loose weight here is what i did, tell her to go to the grocery store and pick up Healthy Choice TV dinners, they are awesome and good and if she eats three of them a day and veggies in between she will loose weigh quickly without taking harmful diet pills, I kept my calorie count between 1200 to no more than 1500 caloriesa day. Take a good Vit. when you are doing that, it worked for me I lost 75 pounds in one year,tell her that you will workout with her, go walk/run with her, joined a gym with her just don't let her feel that she is facing this on her own, she will need of encouragment, make a goal with her, say okay if you loose 20 pounds here is what we will do, have a make over, go to the nail salon get a manicure or pedicure, a faical, make goals and we yall meet them be rewarded, that is what keeps the moviation going. also maybe your mom and you can get her out of the house and have some fun, watch a movie, go do bumper cars, putt-putt, go carts anything to make her relax and get her mind off of certain things, I hope this helps you and I will keep you and your sister in my prayers for healing.

Answer 3

I agree with the answer above.

Also, your sister could be trying to call attention.

In any case, get together with your mother, talk things over, and get her to a doctor because it sounds as she needs help.

Yes, she has rights, but it seems to me she is under age, so other have a responsibility on her, that means the can make her go to the doctor and get help!

Or at least you and specially your mother can get some professional advice on how to handle this situation.

Good luck and Congrats on being such a good brother and nice person. Hope this world had more people like you.

Answer 4

Get her to read your question and the answers, let her know how worried you are about her, how much you love her, and how much her not eating is getting you down. Play the selfish approach, explain that when she's not eating, she's hurting you. If she loves you as much as you obviously love her, she might see that she's doing everyone in the family harm by not eating. A bit devious, maybe, but might be worth a bash.

Your sister's very lucky to have such a caring brother, good on you!

Answer 5

To be honest mate, get ourself onto a anorexhia clinic and ask their advice, their the guys that can you give you real help.

Try ringing the channel 4 help line, they've got people lined up to help with that kind of thing. Particularly as its a heavy story of Hollyoaks at the minute.

Good on you for trying to help. Best of luck mate.

Answer 6

Talk to your Mom and get her to contact the eating disorder association.
www.edauk.com
Help line 01603 621 414

These problems are now officially recognised and there are self help groups out there who have experience in helping individuals and families
Your sister is lucky she has a brother who cares, one day she will realise it.

Answer 7

Tell her that not eating can make her gain MORE weight- if her body goes into starvation mode her body will store more of what she eats. See if that works. I'm so glad you are watching out for her! Call your local health department if things don't improve to find resources.

Answer 8

http://www.youtube.com/user/eniwekwe
Information is the cure. Watch these videos yourself so you have a better understanding. Then show them to her, or share the information you learned, tellher that if she is uncomfortable about her weight there are better, healthier ways to loose it, and if you truley think she doesn't need to loose the weight tell her that. She has to want to get better, and if she's not making any progress she may need a therapist. I'm praying for you and your sister.
Good luck.

Answer 9

you should get your sister over to a counselor. whether or not she is developing an eating disorder it sounds like your sis is crying for attention.
until you determine what the underlying issue is I suggest you urge her to talk to a professional and do not be overly concerned with pressure you could possibly be putting on her. your sisters health comes first.

Answer 10

We can't help your sister, man. We're all are virtual heleprs here... and she needs help from a REAL person----take her to a phsychiatrist. Or bring one over to your house. It is their prerogative to treat anorexia. It's hard to tell..maybe she is having some serious problem..??? Sometimes anorexia is just the tip of the iceberg, and hidden is a serious situation