am I a bad person?

Question

I worry if an action I take could cause a horrible reaction, like if I call my mom and she happens to be driving i don't want my call to cause her to crash or if I accidently snap at someone I don't want to make them upset and sometimes i accidently do make people upset I worry that people may do something like hurt themselves or someone else because of any action I take or a if I wake my brother up a bit early for school he'll perform worse and fail a test or the class I don't know what to do does doing these things make me a bad person could I worry that anything I do could hurt someone and I don't want that to happen, I'm talking small actions like a I mentioned above I'm not saying I do anything extreme like hurt people I just worry if small everyday actions could hurt my loved ones and if im a bad person for thinking this or doing these things

Answer 1

Brandon,

For a while, when I was younger, I too used to think about such things. Now, many years later, I have realized that there are things in the Universe which control the destiny of every one of us. It is true, that we must be responsible for not only our acts, but also our thoughts, as they influence our choices. Human shoulders were never made to carry the burden of worrying about every thing we do. It is obvious that you care a great deal about the others in your life, which is a very good thing. Try thinking only positive thoughts about those you love, and quit worrying. Worry is a destructive emotion, and in my experience, carries no benefits whatsoever. The Universe will unfold exactly as it is supposed to. Try to enjoy your life, and the time you spend with your loved ones. They will pass from this world at the appointed time, whenever that might be. Make the most of what little time we have here, and try not to carry too many deep concerns. Everything will be OK. You will see. Peace be unto you.............
Will

Answer 2

No you are not a bad person.
You do think and worry too much.
Keep in mind that other people are responsible for what they do and how they react to a situation.
For example, If you call your Mom and she chose to answer her phone while driving ---SHE is the one who is responsible for her action of talking on the phone!
You can't hold yourself responsible for the way someone reacts to something you say or do. Especially an adult.
Every adult must take responsibility for his or her own actions.
YOU cannot be responsible for the way another person Acts
If you wake your brother three houris too early-then that would be unreasonable. If you wake your brother a little early and he has chosen to do badly in school that day -that is his doing , not yours.
You need to be a lot more easy on yourself- you are not all that powerful -that you can have an effect on others lives, such as you are fearing that you can.
I can tell---you are a good ,caring person, try not to worry about others os much ---Really one person DOES NOT have that kind of power over other people.

Answer 3

You simply cannot predict the future. Period. You are obviously a caring and sensitive person for worrying about not hurting your loved ones. You are not a bad person. However, it sounds to me like you might have a problem with obsession. You might want to consider professional help. You will never know what reaction your actions have in the universe. Just try to be kind and helpful and continue caring, just don't let it affect your life like this. You have to live your life.

Answer 4

I think you will drive yourself crazy if you think like this all the time. Life happenes, we do things that do and don't affect others, not sure if you have kids but if you do you will go INSANE because they worry the hell out of every parent. It's very kind of you to care so much that you may hurt others, but live life too..

Answer 5

It sounds like you may have an anxiety problem. You worry way to much sounds like you cant concentrate on anything and you get hyped up for nothing. The fears you describe are often called "sweating the small things" maybe you should see a doc about it. and ask him/her if you have an anxiety problem. There are meds to help you cope for a while.

Answer 6

You're only being bad to yourself. Nobody can carry the world on his shoulders. Get out, have fun with other people instead of worrying about them! If you carry on this way you'll cause others to have justifiable fears for your mental health.
Maybe you should talk to a professional before you get worse.
" Hey Jude, don't make it bad...." . The Beatles.

Answer 7

you way over analyze yourself, it is called fate and we do what we do and things happen the way they do because that is just the way life works, it is good to be thoughtful and think to yourself no i shouldn't wake him up yet because he may do better if I wait but you cant live your life afraid to live your life, and sometimes we get these feelings like well maybe I shouldn't do this or maybe I shouldn't do that and that is OK, but if you feel that way all time it may be anxiety so its best to get a hold on it now and start letting go, doing things and not being afraid of what will happen, unless you know directly that you shouldn't do it, like deliberately

Answer 8

OCD is my guess. You worry about things happening before they occur. Your mind is stuck on that fear and you actually think you might cause something bad to happen.
I could tell you that's absurd all day long but if you have OCD you'll still process it your way.
Get your family to take you to a doctor and tell them all this. There's medicine that can help you function and you can get on with other things.
Peace.

Answer 9

falls down to intent baby!

if your intent is to have your mom get in an accident so you call her for this to happen then yes you are a bad person
but if your exited and what to share some news and you call you mom and she get's in to an accident that's not your fault! your intent wasn't to hurt her your intent was to share good news or talk..

when your intent is bad then the reaction is all for you when your intent is good then the reaction is placed on that other human!!

for example I wanted to break up with this guy i dated but i really liked more like a brother we moved to fast and i wanted it to end. so a close friend of mine i was talking with i was telling him this story and the possible outcomes! I said i don't want to hurt him i love him like a bro buti need to break it off!
my friend said!
it's the intent if i break up with him because of what was listed above and he goes and kills his self that is his problem he don't know how to handle rejection. Hardly my problem yes it would have sucked
but if iwas going to break up with him to hurt him and he goes and kills himself that's now my baggage! not just his ! grant you he still may have issues but if my intent is to hurt him then i have issues too!

I hope this clears a few thigns up for you! \

Answer 10

You could possibly be a little paranoid. If it's taking over your life you should think about seeing a doctor. If it's not then you'll just have to accept that everything eveyone does has an effect. That's just life.