I've met this guy and we have been out on a couple of dates. On the second one, he kept checking out this other girl (who was very pretty). Does that mean he's not really interested in me? I find it quite offensive and hurtful. I am not insecure, I do consider myself reasonably good-looking, I just prefer the guy's attention on me, as I don't oogle other guys when I am with someone.
I know a lot of guys do this, my ex used to do this as well and said it was just eye-candy. But I still find it hurtful and rude and I don't like it. And I also know some guys don't do this (at least not obviously). But why? Do they realise they are doing this? Can they help it??
Also, he is still asking me out for further dates and making arrangements to see me again in the next couple of days. I'm just a bit confused.
2007-08-09 23:42:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Boys are going to look at other girls, whether they are totally smitten with you or not. I don't think they can really help it. I've heard it described as like watching a ferrari drive by, it doesn't mean you're gonna go steal it, you just wanna watch it go by.
Guys also have the tendency to look at girls without realising they are doing so. This is a lesson I have learnt from my good friends, one in particular who subconciously checks out girls, all the time, and doesn't know until we tell him later.
If he's trying to make arrangements to see you, then he wants to be with you. Just accept that this is what boys do and have fun.
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2007-08-09 23:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by alexandra. 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Shygal...guys will ALWAYS be guys, no ifs, ors, about it. I agree...checking out another girl on a date is rude, however, he is still asking you out, right? Guys do like to gawk, and are weak when it comes to a pretty girl..that is in their nature, and being visual creatures, that will always be. But, at the end of the day, when they are alone, I do believe it is the girl (you) he is truly thinking about when he is laying in his bed with the lights off. Try not to let him see it bothers you, although I know it is hard not to...it really is fuel for the fire when you bring it up...trust me, I know this first hand.
With regard to the eye candy comment, or when you see your guy looking at another girl, simply try to be objective as to what it might be that attracts his eye to her. There is no doubt guys appreciate a well dressed girl, so, if you see something that perhaps she is portraying that you may be able to emulate, do it! However, don't dress to the point you cheapen yourself...ever!
If you've truly grabbed this guys attention, and it appears you have or he wouldn't be calling for another date, he WILL be there for you. Good luck!
2007-08-10 00:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal for guys to look at other women my bloke does it all the time it annoyed me at first but now I just laugh I look at other blokes he knows I wouldn't run off with them because I love him and only him as long as they look and don't touch then it's fine if this really hurts you talk to him and ask him why he does it I think you'll find all men do it and they don't realize try to chill and enjoy being together
2007-08-09 23:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by ROCK CHICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys do that, they think we're not looking. it's a begining relationship don't worry too much. if you're not happy with it in a couple of months and he's still doing it then bring it up to him. but right now just keep it in mind if that's the kind of guy he is maybe he's not the right guy for you.
2007-08-09 23:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.. well they are guyz they need to have that eyecandy .. ya its not decent . . n rude too , just try chking out if he's a genuine guy otherwise . . then u can overlook this n let him know how u feel abt it some time later , .. otherwise if he's not upto ur level , .. just move on . . thats away from him.. .
n if u r actually interested in him then let him know that .. n its the same with him too , then m sure u'll find the habbit a " lil' less ", . . coz they are guyz .. n probably they cant help it ..
2007-08-09 23:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by starsparkles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen very carefully:
ALL guys look. ALL guys notice a cute blonde walking down the road, etc. We mean NO disrespect to you. We just do it.
He calls looking for further dates. He is interested in you. He didn't run off and get this other girls number did he?
2007-08-09 23:46:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, you guys aren't really ATTACHED, or in a relationship, so technically he's allowed to look if he wantsa to.
still though, im sure he's interested in you, or he wouldn't keep pursuing you.
boys will be boys.
boys's eye's will wander.
thats what boys do.
dont worry about it for now.
but if he ever actually DOES anything with them, dump his butt and quickly.
good luck!
2007-08-09 23:50:45 · answer #7 · answered by chaos211 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I was going to answer one way until I saw that it's only a couple of dates.....he's keeping his options open. one thing you have to realize about guys is that we are very visually stimulated....that's the reason most of us like to keep the lights on during sex and look at porn......as opposed to the gals who are more emoitionally stimulated. this one probably is just still mulling over wheter you are going to be the one he wants to settle with but is looking nonetheless just in case. at any rate, we'll always look....it's in our gentic makeup......this is a proven fact in most psychology and physiology texts.....just be vigilant and don't get complacent....trust your gut because it's almost never wrong.....you'll kow if he's seriously looking or fantsizing
2007-08-10 00:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by #1 bossman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's common 4 guys 2 do tat. if he doesn't oogle at other gals then he's not strait(he's gay). by asking u out 4 further dates shows tat he's interested in getting 2 no u, i'm sure u've oogle at other cute guys b4 rit? d only difference is d way guys n gals oogle. u r jealous as u care 4 tis guy n u really 1s 2 no more about him. i've experienced tis b4 wit couple of my exes n my husband.(my hubby used 2 b like tis b4 n after we get married. he only stoped after we get our 2nd child. now, he only look at me)
2007-08-09 23:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It simply means the other girl got his attention. It does'nt mean he likes that girl. She just got his attention. Maybe, she reminded him of someone, or maybe she was wearing something wierd, or maybe she looked good, but the point is you're the one he's dating.
2007-08-09 23:48:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋