I just spent 2 weeks with my fiancee and his family. After seeing everyone in his family, I am seriously considering backing out. I love him more than anything, but my mother married into my father's crazy family and they have made her life miserable. These people, my fiancee's family are absolutely crazy, disrespectful, rude, illmannered. They actually thought I was weird or strange because I say "Mister" and "sir" or "ma'am". I cant even talk about all the crap I went through. His mother constantly was in our business, never gave us privacy, and tried to invite herself everywhere. It's really not something I want to deal with forever and they aren't people I want to see again nor would I want my kids around. However, I love him and he treats me like a queen.
2007-08-09 22:38:41 · 8 answers · asked by brittneyafoster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hahaha... same situation as I was. But sadly I wasn't able to be with them before marriage... If I had the oportunity, I would have backed off without any doubts.... BUT then I would have lost the wonderful husband I have. We did arguee coz of his family for 3 years. EVERY SINGLE DAY. I don't know how I was able to go through that, but I am glad I did. SInce you still have a chance, why don't you talk to your fiance about it? After marriage things can get worse, and some men tend to think that after marriage they can just drop off the guard coz the lady has an "owner" already. Talk about all the details you can think of with him before you get married. Make deals and agreements through e-mail, coz once things start to mess up, you can show him all the e-mails you both sent to each other. Once you get married to him, you are getting married to all the goods and troubles he has with him. But think like this, if you choose someone else, he will also have problems, maybe not with family. So instead of running away from the problem, find a way to solve it. As my mother in law would never leave me alone, I would just lock the door from my bedroom (we used to live together), when I was going out with my husband and she invited herself together, we would say that I was going to visit my foreign friends and it would not be very nice to take them along. Believe it or not, she asked me to have babies for the 2 years we lived with them. EVERY DAY twice a day, once at morning and once at afternoon. If you really like the guy and think it is worth it, I can tell you to go ahead. I ended up just fine, but I needed to move out of country, coz in my husband family culture, he can't make himself to opose his parents. Hope yours is not like this. Sorry, I need to go, my husband arrived at home and he is hunrgy. Best of wishes for u.
2007-08-09 23:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are right, if you marry him, you marry his family too. But you can always move away, if he's not too close to his family. Like say he doesn't have to be there at their door all the time. Then you could only be around them and their crazy ways during the holidays. Good luck girl, ur gonna need it.
2007-08-10 05:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely you marry not only him but his family too - that is how the real world is - BUT the big question is what your boyfriend had to say about their behaviour and how come your bf is from the same family but is different . Is it only a put on? how long have you known him?
After you get your boyfriend's respnse write again .......til then hold off......no hurry no worry
2007-08-10 05:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by nightingale 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn girl that's hard. I would give it a shot. If it still bothers you then back out. At least you gave it your full effort. Just keep in mind....would you want the man of your life not wanting to be with you because of your family?
2007-08-10 05:54:09 · answer #4 · answered by JB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly you married him then you marry his whole family. been there, done that and are now living in hell with my husbands family. i find that one minute everythings fine and then bang they slap you in the face again with disrespect and just rudeness everytime you let your guard down. if you love him then thats all they matters. steer clear of them. love will win at the end anyway. good luck
2007-08-10 05:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough call. Only you can decide if he is worth it. Maybe you could move across country or to another continent!! lol
2007-08-10 05:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep him if the two of you will live in another state.
2007-08-10 05:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can say to him that you love him and not wait for his answer
2007-08-10 06:18:48 · answer #8 · answered by edward w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋