What should I do? Ive tried and tried. I cant seem to be attracted to any guy. Ive tried looking and liking..but I CANT! Im attracted to girls and I want THAT TO STOP..I try not looking at girls but Im attracted to everyone I see(Hot girls,of course) I want to be attracted to guys but they dont have anything which is good about them.wha should I do?
2007-08-09 21:49:01 · 25 answers · asked by Stacy M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, I'm gay, and guys are overrated. You have any idea how many times I've stopped and just stared at a guy who said something increadibly stupid? Just thinking "....how...did..how did your brain make up that thought??" It is a bit hypocritical coming from a gay man, but really we are overrated.
If you are attracted to girls and not boys, that is never, ever going to change. Nobody can fix you, because you are not broken. There is nothing wrong with you.
The sooner you accept who you are, the sooner you can start being happy.
2007-08-09 21:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have gay friends, and I don't see what the problem is. If you've got this much problem with this then you might want to see a shrink. You can't just force change on yourself. The sad thing is, society accepts lesbians before they'll accept gay men. It's sad but it's true. I don't understand why you have such a problem with this, but like I said you might want to see a shrink if you think this is such an issue. Or there might be someone out there who has gone through the same thing that might be able to help. Be careful though. The best advice I can give you is just accept it.
2007-08-09 21:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by Baybee D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront the problem head on, but dont do as many people say and "embrace your sexuality because you cant fight it" you can fight it if you think you can fight it. accept that you are attracted to women and then you will know what you dont want to be. If nessicary, find a freind to help you with this, and if nessicary, see a counselor. It might just be a hormonal thing that you must wait out. but it is a mental battle against your urges and cravings, do not give in to your urges because then your urges will control you.
2007-08-09 22:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think there is anything you can do. If you like girls, you like girls, so what? you can't help it. I am assuming you just don't want to be lesbian because of what people will think of you, or because you are religious.
1. Don't care about what people think. You have the right to be your own person.
2. If it is because if religion, (even though I am atheist) I don't think a god would make you a lesbian and then punish you for it.
2007-08-09 21:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by Haley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend annie had the same problem. But she turned out to be bi, so maybe your just reveing for one and not the other right now. You're still young, it could be a phase. You could lock it up and explode at 40, leave your husband, shave your head and call yourselve Duke. Or you could accept that it is a natural part of who you are right now and just explore it.
2007-08-09 21:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by Alexis Plancings 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why must a natural attraction stop? If that is what is true for you, then what is wrong with that? You can't change who you are, and even if you could, why should you? You need to work out why this is a problem for you... its okay to be whoever you are.
2007-08-09 21:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want that to stop as you say the only way i can think of is to go celibate and devote yourself to God.Your thoughts wont change but your actions will.What you speak of is in the Human nature but it is an abomination onto God.There is no judgment on my part.
2007-08-09 22:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you like guys with more feminine features. Just to let you know no one is born gay or has a gene that makes them gay. You aren't gay, people just convince themselves that they are because they think that if they are gay that they will be happy. So, you're straight maybe you just haven't found that guy that you are looking for. Don't think that because there is no guy you like that you are gay because you're not. Just keep looking eventually you'll find that guy you've been looking for.
2007-08-09 21:58:24 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to accept who you are and be happy don't worry about what any body says i work with a couple of lesbian girls and they are great people and no they don't hit on me or any one else. really if that is what turns you on then go for it and no i am not a lesbian i am married to a man and have two boys. so do what you want to and (GOOD LUCK)
2007-08-09 21:56:43 · answer #9 · answered by jd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make it stop. You're a lessie. Some people are just like that, and the more you try to change it, the more unhappy you'll be until you accept it.
2007-08-09 21:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by Pink_lemur 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋