Two years ago, My grandmother was recovering from breast cancer, and moving into a brand new house. I was helping her with her foster children, because she wasn't able to do much. She got a call about a new baby she was getting. We got him straight from the hospital, 3 days old. I moved in so that I could take care of him. I tended to him, while my grandparents watched the older kids. I became really close to him, singing to him at 4 in the morning while he mumbled along during feeding, taking him to parent and tot classes. I miss the feeling of when he was laying on my chest, feeling his little chest move up and down with each little breath, knowing that this person I cared so much about was so close to my heart, the overwhelming feeling of peace, the feeling that time stops and that theres no wrong in the world. Do I sound completely psychotic? Every week, they treatened that he was going to be moved with his family, that day always came and passed. Until the last time, july21 06.
2007-08-09 18:16:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So, How do I get passed this, and am I being foolish or idiotic for reacting this way to a child that was never mine, and I knew that.
2007-08-09 18:17:15 · update #1
I haven't seen him since the day before he left. I couldn't bring myself to be there when he was taken. I wasn't allowed to see him, because they thought I'd interfer with his new life and family. They said that they would set a day for us to visit but never lived up to calling us back. So I haven't seen him since, the child services said that the only way I could see him was if we randomly bumped into each other in town somewhere.
2007-08-09 18:32:51 · update #2
It would be very hard to love a child as your own and have him taken away to be placed back with his family. I don't think you're being foolish. You and this child were close. It's just like he was yours and he got taken away. Have you ever loved a dog so much that when it died you cried for weeks? A dog becomes a member of the family. So does a foster kid. Blood or not, they're still family.
2007-08-09 18:31:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really, you got too attched which you should never have let happen but i know how hard it would have been and i would have done the same in your shoes!!!
its hard not to get attched and love an innocent child who depends on you for everything but i guess you do need to let go.... pining after him wont bring him back, is it possible to visit him?
i thnk that will probably make it worse though.....
anyway, just try to keep yourself occupied and know that even though he may not remember you in 10yrs time, you have done a good deed and god is watching.
2007-08-10 01:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in a way u are going overboard but on the other hand it is ok want to feel needed and want to nurture a baby most woman feel the need to do that wether they have a baby of their own or not.
2007-08-10 01:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by kiwi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not being foolish, It,s normal for a mother to feel that way.
2007-08-10 02:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by hatch_53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dealing with grief. Get some grief counseling.
2007-08-10 01:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋