Do You????

Question

Do you control what/how your kids/people living with you dress, what they eat(meat), what music they listen to, who they hang out with or other things?? If you do, why?

Answer 1

My step-kids are adults and live at home (They pay rent) I do not allow rap music as I do not want my son (He is turning 3 tomorrow) exposed to that garbage as it is nothing but sex, drugs and talking about killing people. They can listen to whatever they want in their cars, but my house, my rules. I do all the cooking, so if they don't like what is served they are welcomed to go out and buy their own as I am not a short order cook in my home. Also, my step-son hangs out with some people that have spent time in jail for theft and my husband and I do not allow these people in our home, for obvious reasons.

Answer 2

I think it really depends on the child in question.

I think we as parents have to control the way our kids dress to a certain degree (the clothes keep getting skimper and skimper). We have to watch what they eat and make sure they are healthy , maybe not excatly just meat per say. Definately music , I mean some of that should be band of the shelf and teens that already have problems shouldn't be listening to that crap.
Who they hang out with is hard, but we do have to be aware of who our children are hanging out with.

I am controlling of my kids. Sometimes I think I may go overboard . Something I just realized over the last couple of months that maybe i am way too protective. Being mom is a hard job, we all just want what is best for our kids.I believe I am controling because i feel if i watch these things I can protect them from this big bad world, and I have learned that sometimes we can't protect them and that we have to allow them more freedom to grow but grow within limits.

Answer 3

I control these things with my kids because they are special needs and one is in a wheelchair. They don't need to be exposed to music that swears, talks about sex, or violent behavior. They don't need to advertise what they are not selling (dressing provacative), and they eat what is served because I make sure they get the nutrition that they need. Who they hang out with is also up to me (they are only 12 and 13).
The adults in my household is old enough to make their own decisions, and the only thing that I ask is that they dress respectfully,and not watch or listen to music that is harmful to my children. If they feel they must listen to that, then they should wear headphones.

Answer 4

When my daughter is old enough to make certain decisions on her own, we will discuss the ground rules of the house. First, you don't dress like a hooker. Too many little girls running around advertising something they have no business showing. Secondly, you eat decently, good hearty meals that will fill a human, not a bird(oh, I had a piece of lettuce, I must be full....whatever!) and have nutritional value. A healthy lifestyle. Third, no rap. Bottom line, you can listen to whatever you want, except for that garbage. There is no value in that "music". It is degrading to women, encouraging boys to treat girls like filth, beat them, pimp them, and kill them. I don't think so. Fourth, there friends are their friends, unless they are disrespectful, poor influences, negative personalities, etc. Why? Because that is parenting, you teach them what is right, and what is wrong, and how to surround themselves with good positive people, and how to get the most out of life. Simple when you think about it.

Answer 5

Pretty much... she's 5. :)
And... we're vegetarians (eat dairy, eggs, and fish, however) and so is our daughter.
She wears a uniform to school-- that's out of my control.
And I don't want her trying to emulate Britney Spears, so her music is monitored too.

I guess you're talking about an older child, right?

As your kid grows up, part of helping them grow up is to give them more freedom and responsibility. Little by little. You can't let a teenager do whatever they want. Much as you probably hate to hear this, it's been scientifically shown that teenagers' brains are DIFFERENT from adults in that they lack a certain level of rational thought and tend to act without considering consequences. If you let a teen do whatever they want, you're inviting trouble.

That said, I think teenagers are old enough to wear what they want (within reason, as long as they can't be mistaken for prostitutes), eat or not eat meat, as long as they're being healthy, listen to what they want (as long as I don't have to hear it), and choose their own friends (as long as they're not juvenile delinquents).

Answer 6

my parents were very controling when i was in texas (birth-8years) i could only listen to country music.. couldnt watch the simpsons/rugrats exc. i still wasnt old enough to pick my clothes out. but now (14 years old) i live with my mom and step dad (parents were married back then) and they just flat out dont care. they let me wear what i want (even though my mom thinks i have boring style because i like shirts that button half way so i can wear a cami under it and be cute.. anyways.. she doesnt like my music but she doesnt say i cant listen to it. eating.. she makes dinner.. so thats what i eat most of the time.. she doesnt realy care if i eat or not.. she doesnt like me hanging out with my guy friends down the street.. she thinks they are bad news.. but i still hang out with them.. they are my friends! :]] tehehe

so overall she doesnt realy care at all about me or what i do.. hmm.. i wonder..

Answer 7

not a WHOLE lot as some other parents i know do. my daughter is 10 and my son is 13. for my daught: i don't tottaly control what she wears although i don't let her wear shirts that promotes drugs and sex and that crap. other then that i let her wear almost whatever she wants, like she does have a stewie shirt from family although i don't let her wear it to school. and i don't really control what they eat because usualy they just make their supper(i'm a lossy cook lol) and we'll usualy go out to eat once every 2 weeks. and with her music the only music i don't really let her music are those kinds of bands like eminem and those other bands that swear that swear constantly. and with her friends the only friends i don't let her hang out with is if they steal other then that she can pretty much hang with who she wants..well and as long as they treat her well. son: dinner same with my daughter except he goes out to eat a little bit more usualy 3 times every 2 weeks(the other 2 times are usualy with his girlfriend), and music pretty much the same although i let him listen to weird al which my daughter won't be able to listen to him until she's 11. dress: same as daughter. people he hang's out with: same as daughter. but he is able to go on dates with his girlfriend, go to more parties, and have a cell phone and laptop and have a small widescreen tv in his room with dish network in his room(the laptop was from his foster parents and i bought him the small widescreen tv).

Answer 8

Heck no, i'm not gonna inslave my kids once i have them. My mom didn't to me and i loved my childhood so why should i make their childhood miserable. I went to all the parties, but promised my mom i'd get into college. I did any now i have my own buisness that i share with a friend. Incomes really good! My mother raised me at the edge, but we came to terms and there were bounderies and punishments, but there were always awards for my acheivments. My mom did however control what i ate. If it wasn;t for her i'd order pizza everyday. She cooked for me and thats how shes controlled what i ate. She never forced me, i just loved the smell of her home cooking. She let me dress in whatever i wanted, but she'd tell me if i ever looked like a nightwalker& She'd strongly discourage me to go out like that except if i hit up the club. My friends were always my buisness and they never are somone's to choose. Every child has to find there own place. My mom didn't control what we listend to. She loved salsa music and i loved hip hop, but i loved it when she played it and the music ringed throughout the house. All i wanted to do is dance. Me& her signed up for salsa lessons when i was 14! Even though our life sounds perfect there were the random arguments & there were some money problems. We broke through. If your strict your kids will run from you when their older. Please be reasonable with them. A 8 year old can act childish and thats when you spank them if it gets out of control, but if your 14 year old wants to hit up a party let her go, she/he is a young adult and can realize there are consequences. Tell them they'll be grounded without televisionor computer if they get in trouble with the law. Trust me thats enough to keep them away from doing stupid things to get cought. Some of them can't live without their tv( my neice)!

Answer 9

Up to a certain extent yes, but not go overboard!!