Just the other day we wrote down a discipline plan for our (just turned) 2 year old. He's overall a well-behaved child and we would like to keep it that way. (We do have our bad days though.) I tend to be pretty lienent and permissive--that's just my parenting style I guess. Anyway, looking for feedback from experienced parents (or whomever cares to answer). What do people think about this? What's missing? Anything that won't work?
1. Save yelling 'no' for dangerous activities.
2. Instead of saying 'no' or 'Don't...', show or tell the correct way to do something, or simply distract with something else.
3. Three strikes--meaning that he gets two warnings to stop a behavior and on the third he gets the object of misuse taken away.
4. Reward for good behavior--verbally or with hugs, etc
5. Be consistent about what is and is not acceptable behavior.
Not strict enough? Any suggestions? Thanks!
(pardon my spelling errors--my checker never works on here)
2007-08-09 16:43:04 · 18 answers · asked by blooming chamomile 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Brilliant, love it. Also conside the idea of house rules.
Pick three rules and stick them on the fridge. Leave them there.
Choose really important things that are simple. Mine are: No hitting or hurting others. 2: We listen to each other. 3: No arguing after mummy says enough is enough.
But at the same time, don't be afraid to show controlled anger if something really inappropriate occurs. Not anger which belittles the child, but anger which is a firm, absolutely disapproving emotion. Mostly because kids do need to understand that humans have a range of emotions and when a child sees that an adult can be angry and still not lose their cool, still be respectful and not throw a tantrum, then they understand better how to handle their own anger. It's a principle of modelling anger management, because all kids do experience anger and rage and they need to see safe, productive ways of handling and directing those negative emotions. Good luck!
Oh, and I agree that there should not be three strikes. It's like saying someone can get in a free hit, you know? In life, we often do not get three strikes. If I hit someone, I won't be given three chances, I'll be charged and prosecuted. Serious misbehaviour should be given its consequence immediately, on the first occasion, after two or three occurrences. Cheers.
2007-08-10 21:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by thunderboltsimone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds fine. I mean... what can you really expect from a 2-year-old? I don't think spanking teaches a kid anything except that hitting is acceptable.
I'm not sure about number 3... I guess at the age of 2, this is reasonable, but as he gets older, you want him to listen the first time you say something, not keep pushing it. When my daughter was about 4, we started implementing the "if you don't listen the FIRST time, you're in time-out" rule. The thing with this is, you have to make sure they hear you the first time. By the time she could talk, we insisted that she say "Yes, Ma'am" and "Yes, sir" when we told her to do or not do something, and then we were assured that she heard us. But at age 2, I think a second warning may be needed (their memory tends to be short-lived).
2007-08-09 17:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
For a 2 yr old.. that seems to be very constructive.
. the rule of thumb for misbehavior is to take their age X 1 minute...
and stand or sit in the naughty corner.. .. just thought I would pass this on.. so may parents do the same for all age children..
and ur speeling.. ur spell ck.. up at the top rt hand corner should work.. .. if not complain to yahoo..
Good luck with ur child.. u seems like a awesome parent...
2007-08-10 03:10:16 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like my house growing up for the most part. My parents made my sister and I sit at the side of the pool on a couple occasions for fooling around instead of getting ready for family swim at the local rec centre. My husband things I will have the guts to use that plan and make it stick with our son. Of course I can't leave a 2 year old at the side of the pool, but I am sure that punishment will come into effect in time.
I think you have a good set of rules there.
2007-08-09 16:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it would work as long as it is consistant. When a child knows what to expect from a punishment it makes it easier for them to remember. When something is extremely dangerous just yelling NO might not be fast enough to stop them. My son rarely gets a pop on the butt, but when he ran into the road when a car was coming he did because when I yelled NO he just kept running. I just barely got him in time and gave him a pop on the butt, and he hasn't done it again.
2007-08-09 16:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds great to me, also try 1 warning when he gets a bit older, around 3 or 4, he wil know better than to do some things by then, and always talk to him in a way he will understand, get on his level ask him to look at you that way you know he is listening, good luck
2007-08-09 17:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by Heather H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your point on consistency is great. It's a difficult one to stick with, but definately is important.
The only one I'm not so sure of is your two warnings rule. While you can be consistant with that, your child may learn that it's ok to disobey twice, but not three times. At our home you listen the first time or you're in trouble. And sometimes, if we know for sure that they know what they did was wrong the first time they did it, then that's wrong too.
2007-08-09 16:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by average_american_superhero 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I under no circumstances gave timeouts, I spanked or yelled. My dad did the comparable ingredient. i think of time-outs are reliable, I ought to of used that extra somewhat of spanking. i'm raised from the 70's and eighty,s. i think of spanking is positive specifically situations. specifically situations timeouts do no longer artwork. I did too lots spanking. i do no longer propose that. My son is nineteen now and he's a sturdy youngster. so O wager it labored for him lol. additionally i became right into a mom while i became into 21 so youthful mothers have much less endurance than older ones. purely an opinion.
2016-10-09 21:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is awesome!!
It is great that you are laying down a plan for yourself on how to keep things going well. Fourth though is so much healthier than hindsight!
However, understand that mistakes will happen and don't beat yourself up too much just start again tomorrow and do better than yesterday.
**HUGS**
2007-08-09 16:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
most of these things I did however, your #3, if it is an object of misuse yes this is good however if he is hitting or something moredistructive(as long as he knows what he is doing wrong) I recomend just 1 warning....Gl
2007-08-09 16:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by suzzanlynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋