A friend of mine was molested ( not sure if i spelled that right...sorry every-one) this person was really close to her. she talke dto him everyday and told him every-thing. we were talking today and she said she wishes she could talk to him agian. ( he was charged..no time done just probation) she says she forgives and still loves him and is always going to love him ( he was in her family) well she got his e mail and e mailed him. now i think she is crazy do you think she is wrong to forgive him and give him another chance?
2007-08-09 16:01:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Molesters rarely change and stop what they do. She can forgive but she needs to be aware he is probably still preying on other children.
2007-08-09 16:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong to give him another chance.
The nature of molestation is, that an older person takes advantage of a younger person sexually, because the younger person is too young to really understand what is happening. Therefore, no matter how she feels right now, she is in no position to have any contact with him.
I have no doubt that he was friendly and gained her confidence only for the purpose of molesting her. She's young and it's hard for her to believe that.
It may be okay for her to "love" him and "forgive" him, but she should never give him another chance to hurt her. No matter what he says, that is what will happen if he gets the chance.
2007-08-09 23:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant and wont forgive the monster that molested me and i am a christian. I was badly abused for 8 long years and my mom didnt believe me and if my dad had found out he would of killed him. I know the bible says forgive but he changed me in ways i dont like he took away my innocence and he took my trust and that is hard for me to get back. I think if she needs to forgive him than good for her but dont let her have alone time with this guy or who ever and dont let her go to him at anytime by herself,or he may repeat the pattern cause they say once a molester always a molester... good luck and l hope this helped...
2007-08-09 23:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving is what she should do but never forget. Remember he did her wrong. he does not deserve another chance.
2007-08-10 02:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by gemini.cookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because he won't forget that even though he did not serve time , he was charged. I think that he will be furious at her and he will try something again.
2007-08-09 23:10:12 · answer #5 · answered by Emily R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋