My sister in law had a baby shower a couple weeks ago and I just got my thank you. I realized when I read it it was my mother in laws writing. I find this pretty rude that she couldn't take the time to write everyone thank yous, her mom did it for her. She's 24 years old, pregnant with her first child and doesn't work. I see no reason she couldn't do it herself. What do you think?
2007-08-09 15:42:17 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
That is very, very tacky. I guess I should have my mommy do everything for me. LOL
2007-08-09 15:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
She's pregnant. There could be a lot of things going on that you are not aware of. Besides while she is pregnant is the one time people should be doting on her, because once the baby arrives, no one will pay her that much attention any more, the baby will take priority. If doting means writing thank yous for her, then so be it. So what if someone else did the writing for her, at least you got a thank you. Look at it that way.
2007-08-09 16:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
For my bridal shower my mother helped me write the thank-you's but I wrote the ones that I knew would recognize my writing. I had over 100 to send out & my penmanship is terrible, however, the messages were all thought up by me, from the heart! Considering she's your sister-in-law she definitely should have hand-written it herself.
2007-08-09 18:10:04 · answer #3 · answered by Another baby boy! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is either very lazy or doesn't feel well enough, the fact
that it took so long to send out the thank you notes sounds
like she is also inconsiderate to boot.
Let it go for now, i am sure you will find out more of her selfish
ways and some day you can call her on it. if it is indeed the
the reason.
2007-08-09 16:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I think it is tacky. But are you SURE it wasn't your sister-in-law's writing? I had a similar instance with a birthday gift from my sister-in-law, but then I found out that my MIL and my SIL have virtually identical handwriting. Weird.
2007-08-09 15:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by SHSHSH 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Traditionally it is the responsibility of the mom or dad-to-be to write the thank-you notes. Unfortunately, I have given wedding, shower, house-warming, and graduation gifts worth hundreds of dollars with no thanks ever forthcoming except a general thanks at the event.
If you gave the gift from the heart don't ruin the spirit of giving because of the manner of the thanks, at least there is going to be a little baby blessed with your gift and good example!
2007-08-09 15:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by madieraskye 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Some Girls are Spoiled and Mom's are Great like that....
But no I dont think it was tacky, and really not that serious, as long as she said Thank you in person.
2007-08-09 15:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by mscute1lori 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Count yourself lucky that you got a thank you note and stop worry about something so trivial. The mother-in-law was probably just helping her out. Just because she's a home-maker doesn't mean she's not busy.
2007-08-09 15:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by Shiomi Ryuu 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Maybe your mother-in-law offered to write the thank you notes and your sister-in-law felt it would be rude to refuse her help?
2007-08-09 15:47:50 · answer #9 · answered by gracie 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think it is a character flaw that her mother recognizes and is trying to cover up.
You are probably among the few that recognized that and the family will be much happier if you don't blab it to everyone (excepting us Yahoo people of course).
2007-08-09 15:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
maybe the mother in law was the one who threw the party and felt it was her responsiblity to make sure everyone got the cards. having a baby for the first time is a big responsiblity because you are jumpping into it blind unless you grew up around babies. right now she may feel she has more important things to worry about than thank you cards. you should be supportive.
2007-08-09 15:49:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋