2007-08-09 15:16:33 · 36 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It depends on what type of man he was. If he is loyal, kind, honest, sweet, respectful, has good moral values, works for a living, and other good things, I would marry him. It's not the ring that matters, it is the person and the qualities he exhibits. An engagement ring is lovely and I would surely appreciate one if it was given but, if it was not affordable and I wanted to have this man in my life, I would forego the ring for the honor of having a wonderful man who wanted to share his life with me.
2007-08-09 15:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by turkeybrooknj 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow.
Toughie - since you don't want to appear greedy and materialistic. We men are very sensitive to this - and your response to this age old gift so tread carefully.
In my opinion - and this is just me - a guy needs to dig deep and feel the pain, the reality of how much something like this costs...what the ring symbolizes. You put out some major cash - certainly staying within your means to a point - and you both will think things through a bit.
I do not believe in buying on credit. Get a second job, do without a flat screen, etc. Be a man and suck it up. Now gals also need to be realistic - suck it up - and appreciate that although it might not be the biggest rock in the world - your man worked hard to get it for you.
Tip for the guys - Go for cut quality 1st (sparkle and fire of the rock), color, clarity and the biggest rock size you can afford. Then get a solitare mount. You can get a nicer blingy mount down the road at an anniversary or something.
2007-08-09 15:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by Delay 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would accept the idea that we would one day get married, but would not call it an engagement until there was a ring. I wouldn't go around telling people that we were engaged, just that we are very happy with each other and that we can see ourselved marrying each other if asked. Well I am engaged now, but that is what I did leading up to it.
Rings don't have to be large and expensive... smaller more inexpensive rings are done often and then replaced later with an anniversary ring of some sorts once there is more money available. You don't have to start out with the big ring.
2007-08-09 15:35:11 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't marry someone because they can or can;t buy you and engagement ring. Have you ever seen the movie "the count of monte cristo" I highly recommend you watching this. Love is so much deeper than the price of an engagement ring. Do the two of you have a deep and intimate love relationship? Something that you could never put any kind of a price tag on. Believe me don't put a price tag on a material thing like an engagement ring, although it is an extremely important symbol of the two becoming one rent the movie and you will be able to come up with another solution I am sure.
2007-08-09 16:50:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has a job with decent savings, he should be able to buy a nice affordable ring. An engagement ring does not need to be expensive, if he can not afford it, would you guys have financial problem after marriage? This is beyond the question, but something to think about.
2007-08-09 16:12:36 · answer #5 · answered by Iris C 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you marrying him for his money? If you're marrying him because he's honest, hard-working, loving, thoughtful, funny, kind-hearted, treats you like a queen, then you go right ahead and marry him; even if he can't afford an engagement ring. If you have to have one, buy a CZ. If it's about the lifestyle you want to lead and the ring you want to show others and the financial security you want for yourself, do the guy a favor and move on without him.
2007-08-09 16:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my husband was a uni student at the time and couldn't afford a ring. We decided to have a long engagement because of this and when he could officially afford a ring we went a brought one. Eventually we had an engagement and got married.
I would marry a guy who couldn't afford a ring- but maybe hold off with the wedding if you both can't afford it. I waited till we could afford it and it was the best thing possible.
Good luck.
2007-08-09 15:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by CC 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
it depends...why can't he afford a ring? does he not have a job? if not, why not? but if he does have a job, even if he doesn't make very much money at all, he can save a little bit here and there, if he isn't living outside of his means. It might take time, but I would wait. the ring doesn't have to be expensive, but the fact that he sacrificed a few things and spent time thinking and saving would mean a lot.
so, except for in extreme situations (if he or a family member was disabled so he can't work) , I guess the answer is no.
2007-08-09 15:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by jennyvee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
an engagement ring is nice, but its not the whole reason you want to get married, its just a nice bonus. its the man who matters not the ring. if he cant afford a ring now chances are in a few months he will. my fiance had the same problem (short on cash) and proposed to me with a cheep $15 claddagh ring he bought me at a fair and i love it more than any diamond he could have bought at a fancy jeweler.
2007-08-09 15:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would . Not everyone could afford the nice ring , if I truly loved him I would still marry him with or w/o a ring.
2007-08-09 15:36:50 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋