I have social anxiety, and i think i'm in depression, my parents would think .....?

Question

i'm just starting something out of nothing.
i tried telling my mom, she didn't take it seriously.
she just joked around. my dad, i don't even want to know what he would think. he would just be like ok.... and end of story.
if i tell another adult, and they try to talk to my parents , they wouldnt take him/her seriously. what should i do?

i'm about to go to a doctor to take my shots, should i say something to my doctor? because my parents wont do anything, im going to have to do something myself.
my parents won't let me take pills, by the way.

Answer 1

Hi Sunshine--I like your avatar name, that means you ARE an upbeat person even though you don't feel like one now. You have a couple of choices.....forget your parents...you made it perfectly clear that they would not believe you and that's sad in and of itself. You are scheduled to see your family doc? Do you go alone or with your mom? If alone, definitely discuss all your anxieties with him.....write them down before you go so you can remember all that you have to tell him. Write down your scenarios--what happens when you are with your friends in crowds, how it makes you feel, etc. Your feelings are very serious and I'm sorry honey that your parents aren't taking you seriously, but your family doctor will....and pills are not the only answer to help you. If your mom goes with you to the doctors, then I suggest that you call the crisis hotline in your town-- it is totally anonymous-- they will give you an appointment with a psychologist and you can go on your own---your parents will never know and it's free......if that can't happen for you, tell your guidance counselor at school--she will have to act upon it and get you a school psychologist to speak with but remember the crisis hotline will talk to you ANYTIME OF THE DAY OR NIGHT--so if you are feeling depressed and lonely, they are ALWAYS there for you and they don't even ask your name........good luck to you sunshine---brighter days are ahead for you.....please try to tell your family doctor because, I'm guessing you're either 13-15 and you can have a hormonal imbalance that could be causing some of your problems and he can take a simple blood test to rule it out.

Answer 2

People tend to be uncomfortable / treat lightly that which makes them nervous. It's easy to just get upset with your parents, but they *are* only human.

I would definitely bring it up to my doctor, if I were you. School is about ready to start up again, perhaps you could see a guidance counselor. Additionally, consider this Teen Help page: http://www.teenlineonline.org/ (it's a start.)
Whoever you talk to, let them know your concerns about your parents not taking this issue seriously. Your parents need to understand this. I believe another adult approaching them about the issue will turn your parent's attitudes right around.

Good for you for realizing you must handle this on your own! Which leads me to another thing -- you can actually take care of this without pills. I had pretty big social anxieties (I dropped out of school over it once, and I even ended up in the hospital for some days.) Over the years, I have gradually grown to a point where I have few issues at all. I made myself face my fears, and worked on my self-esteem. I asked myself if I wanted to be paralyzed with fear all my life, or go ahead and be happy? The answer was clear.

In my early twenties, I couldn't bear to even order a meal for myself. A couple years later, and here I am, running my own business, constantly dealing with people and situations I've never dealt with before. I still get scared. Only today, I realize that I'm going to make it through just fine, and that everything will work out.

It's terrific to have someone by your side in this painful and confusing time, but in the end, you will see you have ALWAYS had all the power and strength you need right inside.

Best wishes, and peace to you!

Answer 3

Were you watching a lot of antidepressant commercials lately? You know, they actually target people who are easily influenced into believing they have a disorder and need the drugs. Teenagers are a large market for that kind of crap. Remember, it is a commercial like anything else.

Your parents probably know you well enough to realize that you're not actually very ill although, I don't doubt you are feeling down or even anxious.

It wouldn't hurt to talk to someone. You don't need to take drugs to cope with and cure social anxiety and depression. In fact, therapy has a better success rate and a lesser relapse and side effect rate especially in those who have mild to moderate depression and anxiety. If you can bring yourself to ask a doctor or anyone about social anxiety, it's unlikely that you are so socially anxious that Paxil is the only thing that can help you.

Of course, asking your family doctor may get you a prescription because those drugs are overprescribed and the easiest treatment option (for the doctor not for you.)

Answer 4

It sounds as if your parents are skirting the issue because they don't know how to deal with your problem. As a result, they deny its existence. Maybe they are not educated about mental health issues. Many baby boomers tend to brush off concerns about psychological health because they didn't have knowledge about depression and anxiety disorders when they were growing up.

If you want your parents to take you seriously, perhaps you could let them read literature about your problems, or invite them to family counseling with you. Even if they refuse to listen, at least you are trying to involve them in your life.

If they remain obdurate, find a counselor on your own. He/she might be able to give you advice on how to proceed. I'm not sure what legality issues might result if you buy meds on your parents' insurance without their permission. It seems odd that they will let you get shots, but not pills. If that's the case, respect their wishes, but visit a school or outside therapist. In many cases, talk therapy is actually more effective than pills.

Answer 5

Hello Sunshine,
My parents didn't believe in taking medicine, either. But they do love you, and they want you to be happy. We have all seen the commercials for social anxiety, and your parents may think you have see just a few too many. If you are serious about thinking you have it, you need to sit down and tell them how you feel. Remind them of your doctor's appointment and suggest you should mention it to him or her.

Before you talk to them, write a list of your symptoms to show them. Then you can build a more serious basis for your relationship while you solve a challenging situation for yourself. You can change this obstacle into a solution for your relationship and your mental health. Good luck.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

For sure say something to your doctor. Im sorry your parents arent supportive. thats gotta be hard

Answer 8

Just talk to your doctor, he will probably know what to do. You have to care about your health.

Answer 9

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