Please explain to me?

Question

I'm not being arrogant..but I'm wondering, well my grandpa was a really great, kind loving man, and he died of a brain tumor, and well I was wondering, if there is a god, then how come he took my grandpa in such a cruel way?

When god does take people, how come he sometimes takes them cruelly (if they were good people)? thank you for answering.

Answer 1

I'm so sorry for your loss. We are all going to die, but when someone we love dies, it is so easy, and natural, to get angry with God.

Some people die in horrible accidents, murders, long suffering diseases, or die at birth. Very few people die in their sleep after a wonderful day. We all wish we could chose a better way for a loved one to die. But, you have to remember, your grandfather had a wonderful life. He lived into an age where he had wonderful, loving grandchildren.

I totally understand why you are upset. But please don't blame God for his death. Let God's word comfort you in your time of need. Remember that God's promise of eternal life will let you live in Heaven with your loved ones. Life on this Earth is short, but life in Heaven is eternal.

Answer 2

The problem of the 'cruelty' and apparent injustice of death has puzzled many people and you are certainly not alone!

There certainly is (in my experience) a single being who is intimately loving and caring of all His creation but all religions will teach you startlingly different things about Him. Some will describe Him as loving, some as vengeful, some, even, will tell you that He has no concern with us as individuals. Each has sought the Truth and has found a part of it, perhaps.

I think that what you perceive as cruelty - the pain that your grandfather suffered and the sadness that his loss caused you and people who knew him - is something like the pain that your body experiences after, for example, an operation. For your grandfather, whose tumor wasn't curable, death came as a release. For you who are mourning his loss, the pain should be seen as a healing or as an experience from which you can learn something. Often a death will bring those left a little closer together, more loving and understanding of each other and of others around them and therefore closer to God.

I would say that you should ask God your question (even if you are not sure there is a God). In your heart, address yourself to Him and ask Him to show you the goodness that came from your grandfather's life and death. Then be quiet and listen for an answer. It takes some practice to find the way of listening but you will get an answer in some way.

It is the good that comes from a situation which is God's work, not the pain and suffering (which can indeed be healed and may often be the start of a path of discovery). The more you meet people who have that genuine 'something' that makes you know that they are worthy people, the more you will see that all of them have at some time been very deeply wounded by life and their scars are intimately connected with their inner light.

Answer 3

You're Grandfather was a great guy. I'm sure he loved and loves you very much. God did not give him the tumor, we all did. God's greatest gift was/is will. Together, without war, we can create miracles and feed the world. "It takes a village to raise a child." - African Proverb

It also, takes a village to kill a man. I know there are ways to cure tumors. With love, good will; vs. ill will.

Your Grandfather's time had past. He developed a tumor from cells that stopped working properly, as far as I know. Some only live a few years, some more. The average lifespan I believe is at around 75.

It is now your time to live. Life is for the living. We are one. Heaven is here, now; all around us; for those who can see. Your Grandfather lives through you. Love is the key. We are all a small & big part of God experiencing life through our very own eyes, through our breath, with our limited bodies and minds.

We live in a 3-D world with a timeline, and certain apparent limitations. God who is the endless omnipotent consciousness of all the; known, to be known, and the unknowable. He, "he" because He is above time and space looking down with thought/math/presence we cannot begin to comprehend even when we look to the sky. He is with love, is always looking out for us unable to interfere; because of will, his gift, his love. Like a father.

We are very special, we haven't even tapped into our full brain, muscle, and spirit potential by far.... if Einstein only used 10% of his brain, the average person 4%; who or what could we be at a 100% application; towards good will.

Forward. :)

Your friend

Answer 4

This earth is under a curse.After the Fall in the Garden of Eden both earth and all living things were cursed with death and diseases due to Adamic Sin.Christians are not exempt from bad things.And this world is only temporal.We have a heavenly hope,so do not worry about the pain and suffering in this life.[Romans 8:28-32].And certainly do not believe anyone that questions your Grandpa's faith.People that endure greater hardships in this life will be rewarded justly by God.Spend some time studying the Bible and you'll find passages that confirm what I'm telling you.

Answer 5

I'm very sorry for your loss. It's always painful to lose someone you love and your concern over how he died is only natural. However, the question you are asking has been asked by countless individuals from the beginning of time. The answer is that life, all life, will eventually end and one reality of life is that some lives are easier than others, just as some deaths are easier than others. It has nothing to do with the the person or how good or cruel they are. It has nothing to do with God controlling how difficult or easy someones life or death is. That's not God's job. God creates us and God receives us when we die. Everything that happens in between is determined somewhat by our actions and somewhat by simple fate. The way that your Grandfather died was not, in any way, a judgment on him. It was just his way to die.

Answer 6

Because of the sin nature in the world there is sickness and death. There is also disease which alot of people die from. This is a great question, because we here on earth cannot explain all the things about God. We have limited understanding. We can say that God loved your grandpa very much. God never promised that earth would bring forth perfection after Adam and Eve sinned, just death. When Jesus returns, earth and creation will be restored back to perfection. There will be no more death, illness. If you really want an answer and your sincere pray and ask God. He can explain it to you personally, so that you can understand.

Answer 7

I'm so sorry you lost your grandpa. He obviously meant a lot to you.

It is hard to understand, but it's all part of a larger plan that God is working for good. Sometimes we see the plan right away and sometimes it takes longer. Sometimes we die with unanswered questions.

Who knows how he may have touched lives through his illness? Maybe someone he came in contact with during his ordeal was changed forever because of something small he did or said, and maybe they will in turn go on to change others' lives because of it.

The point is, God can use the suffering of others to change people in ways that we just can't see or understand.

I'm glad you have good memories of your grandpa to hold onto!

Answer 8

Have you ever seen a child cry because she dropped her ice cream? The poor girl is in a fit a tears. Her parents console her with smiles. They know this may be her world right now, but is only a minor event in her life. And they can get her more ice cream than she can possibly eat!

Your loss and his suffering hurts. If you have faith in your religion and your God it may be apparent that in the big picture of what is being offered to you such pain is not so bad.

Please don't think I am trivializing your hurt. Just trying to put it in a different perspective. It's by far not the best analogy, but the first one that comes to mind.

Answer 9

Therein lies a mystery beyond understanding, sweetheart; unless it is to show us and everyone, that we are nothing without God. If they will not believe, as many will not, they must be forced to believe. I think that no one, who took a tumble skiing as Clint Walker (he was the big guy in Dirty Dozen) did, and found their ski pole stuck through their heart would fail to call on the name of God, atheist or no. And as the apostle Paul said, how can they call on a God they never believed; they did believe in God.
I am a grandpa, who had a tumor removed from my head, and I can tell you, that when you have finished with family and work, the prospect of death is not so daunting as it is when you are young with many things to do; especially, if you leave no loose ends, and are confident of a mericiful God.

Answer 10

I think your grandpa's mission on earth was completed and it was his time to meet with the Maker in heaven. I can't say what God's intentions were because God works in mysterious ways but there is a story in the Bible regarding a man who was good and kind, and he was given a lot of suffering to see if he would turn away from the Lord, and he never did and was rewarded in the end. I know your grandpa is in a good place now.

Answer 11

If you truly believes that Divinity determines when and how each of us die, then you must also realize that there must be a plan or reason.

The human mind is not capable of understanding Divinity. We just do not have the mental ability. We are too weak? too illogical? too ignorant? too unable to understand? No one can explain this action to you because nobody understands exactly what happened.

Did time speed up in your grandfather's mind so that he experienced the briefest moment of pain? Could the alternative have been years of dwindling with loss of bodily functions? Who can say? What you observed was from the outside. You may not have known what was going on inside.

You saw this as cruel. If you had done this it might have been cruel. Just because it happened does not make Divinity cruel.

Some people can easily see and relate to a typical comment about sex. "One moment of pleasure for a lifetime of misery."
Could the same people understand "one lifetime of problems for an eternity of Heaven"? I am not saying that either comment is correct, but rather that Life is what you make of it. You can do this with Faith or without Faith. The choice is always yours.