An adult work assosiate that is now a great friend of our teen son, sent us an invitation to his wedding. It is addressed to Mr. John Doe (name changed for privacy) and guest. Should I (the wife) take this as an insult or just a lack of refinment on the senders part??? Been married for seven years, there is no doubt of his kowledge that we are a couple!!
2007-08-09 13:04:47 · 36 answers · asked by califgypsy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hi..
He probably gave a list to a family member to write out..It's not an insult..I would just respond..Mr.& Mrs..... ...... will attend..That's it!
Take care and have a fantastic time at the wedding!
ps..Wear something fabulous...so they remember who you are..lol
2007-08-09 13:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it is an insult. I would not expect young men to know these things. If you think he has had past problems with you and your husband then maybe it is a hint that he doesn't want your husband to come BUT Young people rarely know the proper way to address any invitation. Perhaps you could ask your son if there were bad feelings or ask the groom himself. I would be happy that the teenager wants to get married and wants the world to know about it. Good luck. I haven't been invited to one of my children's friends weddings. Seems $$$$ is the reason most think they have to provide a sit down dinner for all they invite and just cannot afford it here in very costly southern calif.
2007-08-09 13:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by Joni K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's certainly addressed incorrectly, but unless you have reason to think this is a deliberate slap, I'd try to be charitable and assume whoever addressed it isn't clear on how wedding invitations are properly addressed.
Wedding etiquette confuses a lot of people, and very few folk write letters anymore. These two facts mean that there are a great many people who just plain don't have a clue what the rules are.
Accept or decline the invitation as you please, but don't go looking for insults. If it was meant as one, you'll find confirmation soon enough, and if it wasn't (far more likely the case) a negative or agressive reaction could ruin an otherwise perfectly good friendship.
2007-08-09 13:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't take it to heart. It isn't worth the energy. I expect they just don't know how to address the invitations. Writing out invitations for a wedding can be really difficult. Knowing whether to put Mr and Mrs or Mr and Guest or Mrs and Guest or first names. Do I remember the name of this person or that. You could be making something out of nothing. Don't worry about it. It's not important. Just go to the wedding, eat and be merry. Chill, lifes too short to waste our energies on such meaninless things.
2007-08-09 13:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by DONNA MIA 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you, it is inconsiderate and lack of ethics to address the wife as a guest, it should be address as Mr. And Mrs. John Doe. But may the life style is different now,mostly couples are not married.So I guess it is okay.
2007-08-09 13:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by Vannili 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
usually one name goes for a couple.
when u choose ur wedding invitations u choose the way they are written. some people aren't married so the most polite thing to do is have the same invitation for everybody.
those usually go with one name and Guest.
nothing personal. when my best friend got married my husband went with the Guest too :)
2007-08-09 13:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by Vicky Z 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. Maybe it's a misprint. Anyway, this is a work associate, not even family. I would not be too offended. I'd laugh it off actually. Mistakes happen.
I recently went to a wedding w/ my boyfriend. Our place card had Mr. and Mrs. John Doe.......We are clearly not married and this was his family.
We had a good laugh with it though. No biggie.
2007-08-09 13:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to remember that a wedding is a very stressful time , where alot of things need to be done. therefore u should not take that mistake as an insult . its just an invitation, stop reading so much into it. an insult is when u dont get an invite
2007-08-09 13:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by karpricorn 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They probably had help doing the invitations and they didn't do 'qaulity control' on the invitations.
I wouldn't worry too much about it. If this sort of thing gets to be a recurring theme, then you can start thinking it's an intended slight. But at this point I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-08-09 13:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by Barb B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the people that addressed the invites knew that you were married it was probably just an oversite or didn't know how to address it to a Mr and Mrs. I wouldn't take offense to it.
2007-08-09 16:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋