Where in the Bible does it say pre-marital sex it wrong?

Question

I've found teaching against prostitutes, adultery and lust, but these are very different than pre-marital sex in a loving, trusting adult relationship. Similarly, there are verses that say that sexual immorality is wrong, but pre-marital sex is not neccessarily sexual immorality, and there are other Bible verses that speak of this as meaning homosexuality - again, not necessarily applicable in a relationship with pre-marital sex.

Can anyone indicate any Bible verses that teach against it SPECIFICALLY?

Okay, I am torn between the answers of Martin S, Dreamdress2 and K716, so i'm going to put this to the vote...

Answer 1

patrone cited Galatians 5, where "fornication" is listed among the "works of the flesh." The Greek word here is rather broad and includes a lot more than "straight sex." Here is an excerpt from a dictionary entry for the Greek "word group" which comes to us in the English New Testament as "fornication."

"The word-group can describe various extra-marital sexual modes of behaviour insofar as they deviate from accepted social and religious norms (e.g. homosexuality, promiscuity, paedophilia, and especially prostitution)."

Another passage:

1Corinthians 6:9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the SEXUALLY IMMORAL nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor practicing homosexuals 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

==> 11 AND THAT IS WHAT SOME OF YOU WERE. BUT YOU WERE WASHED, YOU WERE SANCTIFIED, YOU WERE JUSTIFIED IN THE NAME OF THE LORD JESUS CHRIST AND BY THE SPIRIT OF OUR GOD.

I often see verses 9 and 10 quoted, but people seem to forget verse 11... I set it in ALL CAPS to make it easier. In it Paul writes, "THAT IS WHAT SOME OF YOU WERE. BUT..."
The point? These things ARE NOT PERMANENT. They CAN BE FORGIVEN.

Answer 2

It is called fornication in the Bible and there are many verses...but it doesn't have to even use that word,,these verses below make it pretty clear.

"Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion [literally, "be inflamed (with anger, grief, lust)" - see Strong's Greek Dictionary]." (1 Corinthians 7:8-9)

"Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body." (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)

"But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people." (Ephesians 5:3)

"Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God." (1 Corinthians 6:9-10)
"We should not commit sexual immorality, as some of them did--and in one day twenty-three thousand of them died." (1 Corinthians 10:8)

"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." (Hebrews 13:4)

"But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars-- their place will be in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death." (Revelation 21:8)

"Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman [or, "It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman," according to the NIV footnote]. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband." (1 Corinthians 7:1-2, KJV)

Fornication is also mentioned many times in the New Testament (Matt. 5:32; 19:9; John 8:41; Acts 15:20, 29; 21:25; Rom. 1:29; 1 Cor 5:1, 6:13, 18, 7:2; 10:8; 2 Cor 12:21; Gal 5:19; Eph 5:3; Col 3:5; 1 Thess. 4:3; Jude 1:7; Rev. 2:14, 20-21; 9:21; 14:8; 17:2,4).

Notice that after you are married, then sex is appropriate between you and your spouse. But before you are married it is still premarital sex (fornication). So if premarital sex is a sin, then it is a sin up until the moment you are married. The New Testament never says that if you're totally in love with each other and you're committed to each other and you're certain that you will get married and spend the rest of your lives together, then premarital sex is okay. The New Testament also never says that premarital sex is okay if you're over a certain age limit, or if you had previously been married before, or anything like that. Sorry, but there are no "loopholes"!

Also, consider that there are many people who were engaged to be married, and who expected to spend the rest of their lives together, but then they broke up. Some of them gave their virginity to each other because they were certain that they were going to get married, and they ended up regretting that they gave up their virginity to the wrong person. Life is full of uncertainties, and you're not married until you're married!

Answer 3

Hello, EM:

The Ten Commandment law says: "you must not commit adultery" (Exodus 20:14).

If you were caught in the city fornicating, both people were to be killed unless the lady was yelling for help. In the country where she could not be heard screaming, only the man was to be killed.

Paul emphasizes that the immoral will not inherit the Kingdom. 1 Corinthians 6:9 "Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind.

Jesus never let sin go unrebuked--His job was to save sinners, and that includes repentance and turning away from bad practices. For the woman caught in adultery, He forgave her, then said, "Go and sin no more" (John 8:11).

So you see, EM, God is mighty in forgiveness, but will not acquit the guilty. We need to ask Him to help us lead chaste lives, and He is more than willing. Yes, it is the sick who need a physician, said Jesus.

Shalom, peace in Jesus, Ben Yeshua

Answer 4

When it repeatedly says that Fornicators and Adulterors will not inherit the Kingdom of God.

Fornication, by the way, is the same as pre-marital sex. Sex between unmarried people.

Answer 5

1 Thessalonians 4:3 For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:

Matthew 19:4 He answered, "Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, 'Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh'? 6 So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate."

1 Corinthians 7:2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. 3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Answer 6

What do you think fornication means? The word is used consistently in both the Old and the New Testaments. There is no need to quote chapter and verse; you ought to be able to find plenty of references to that word in the Bible.

Answer 7

Heb. 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

"But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." (Matthew 5:28)

Answer 8

1Th 4:3 For this is the will of God, [even] your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:
Eph 5:3 But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;
Col 3:5 Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry:
1Cr 6:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
1Cr 7:2 Nevertheless, [to avoid] fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
1Cr 10:8 Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand.
Act 15:20 But that we write unto them, that they abstain from pollutions of idols, and [from] fornication, and [from] things strangled, and [from] blood.
Act 15:29 That ye abstain from meats offered to idols, and from blood, and from things strangled, and from fornication: from which if ye keep yourselves, ye shall do well. Fare ye well.
Act 21:25 As touching the Gentiles which believe, we have written [and] concluded that they observe no such thing, save only that they keep themselves from [things] offered to idols, and from blood, and from strangled, and from fornication.
Rom 1:29 Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,

Answer 9

Here you go. I think this is very clear. Hope this helps.

1 Corinthians 7:8-9 -- 8Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Answer 10

The bible doen't say any thing about pre-marital sex. The bible was made by Man in 1611,not God so wake up and quit beliveving all the church crap. They only want your $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$