okay I'm talking to this guy and he's a really good guy...opens doors for me, hold's my hand, spend's time with me and takes me out! what more could you ask for?! I've never been treated the way he treats me, I'm used to being treated like crap from men...but I'm confused! I don't know what I'm feeling..it's like when I'm around him I'm so happy and I like him a lot, but when we're apart I have no feelings what so ever! and to me that's weird! and I'm trying to figure out what my heart is saying and what my mind is saying...and I can't figure out what my heart is telling me, I don't listen to what my mind tells me usually cause my mind seems to lead me in the wrong direction sometimes...I just don't know what to do and I need someone's help!
2007-08-09 12:50:07 · 9 answers · asked by beautifuldiva1986 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU NEED TO GIVE IT TIME YOU ARE HAPPY W/ HIM WHEN YOUR W/ HIM SO GIVE IT A CHANCE HE SOUNDS LIKE A KEEPER HE'S TREATING YOU THE WAY YOU SHOULD BE TREATED LET HIM JUST BE HAPPY AND BE A QUEEN GOOD FOR YOU I KNOW IT'S DIFFERENT KEEP HIM ..........................YOUR NOT USED TO BEING TREATED THIS WAY IT'S ABOUT TIME YOU ARE BEING TREATED LIKE A QUEEN JUST ENJOY IT AND BE HAPPY AND HAVE FUN TIME WILL TELL ...............................................
2007-08-09 12:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you said that when your not around him you have no feelings, it sounds like you just like that extra attention he is given you. If you guys are holding friends and are not together, its possible that he may think you are interested in him. I have never had a real real close guy friend where as friends we hold hands. Hang out and stuff yes but holding hands is relationship status.
As far as what you should do is talk to him and see if he is looking for a relationship. I may be wrong but it doesn't seem like you are interested in one or maybe you don't see it as serious. Ask yourself whether you would go out with him? And if not let him know because like i mentioned earlier, he might be thinking otherwise.
Hope I somewhat helped, good luck missy.
I forgot to mention something about how you were never treated as good. It could be that your not used to it. I had an ex who was not used to being romantic and I was used to that and wanted that...so I would always bring it up. In your case its the opposite. You may be feeling something deep for him but your not unleashing it.
2007-08-09 19:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by artsygal_cc86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have subconsciously put your heart on guard. Since you say you have been treated like crap in the past you are probably not letting yourself get too attached because you are waiting for the jerk hidden within this nice guy to reveal himself.
Just realize that every guy is different and this one can genuinely be a nice guy. Give him the benefit of the doubt but still be on guard at the same time.
2007-08-09 19:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by christyn79 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a mans veiw. Most women that have been treated like (crap) like you say, get used to being treated like that. When a nice guy comes along, its hard to get in the groove with being treated (right) Stay with him, you will come to like, and miss the way he treats you, Good Luck!!.........
2007-08-09 19:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by Danny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are feeling confused about the guy who really like you. If he is treating you kindly, you should delight in this. do not worry about whether he does like you, just accept it. you ar ejust not used to be treated nicely by someone. go for it. let him do the worrying about whether yo will stay with him. but it looks like that will not happen. Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-08-09 19:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by karen kremer smith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a new situation has you confused, follow your heart, also sounds like you may not be mature enough yet for a man to sweep you off your feet like that, its all about being on the same page with someone. my advice is just keep it real
2007-08-09 19:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by intimadatein 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His kindness takes you to another state of mind....and when he isn't around it returns you to another place that you don't associate him with....gradually connect the two and you will find out that dreams can come true.
2007-08-09 19:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not just keep seeing him??? dont over analyse and just enjoy being with him and maybe see about spending more time with him then you wont have to worry about not feeling anything when you are apart ---- best wishes
2007-08-09 19:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this is how i felt a couple of months ago!
i've been with my bf for a year and 4 months.....
i promise you that you'll fall in love with him and then when youre apart you'll miss him a lot...
thats how i feel now....
2007-08-09 19:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by cute as a button!.♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋