2007-08-09 12:26:07 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ask her parents if it CAN work....
2007-08-09 12:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by Shooting Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many factors with this question:
1. The law. 23 year old will be in deep trouble in a majority of states. As the saying goes, "15 gets you 20".
2. Family. The chances of the girl's family being okay with the age difference are slim to none. In most cases, they may file a restraining order against the guy or take matters into their own hands.
3. Age difference. You two are in two COMPLETELY different phases in life. She's at the age where she's fresh in high school, and he's at the age where he should be finishing up college. The experiences each go through are significantly different and y'all will potentially clash. Maturity dramatically differentiates, obviously. Many 20 something's have much better ways of dealing with problems than teenagers.
4. Public opinion. A 16 year old doesn't have to care as much about what other people think than a 20-something. Her rep's gonna skyrocket. Your rep's gonna crumble as bad as it would having a one-on-one conversation with Chris Hansen on "To Catch a Predator".
5. The answer? I'd rather be safe than sorry. Look for someone who's at least 18, or wait till she's 18 if you like her that much.
2007-08-09 12:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by superlyrical124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not the age difference so much (theres 11 years between me and my partner and he's the younger one - I'm 35 he's 24!!) but the maturity of each partner.
A 16 year old girl is still a child to all extents and purposes. She's still at school still living with her parents, whereas a 23 year old man will be out working, maybe living on his own.
Its only a difference of 7 years and if you were 35 and she was 28 it would be entriely normal and natural. But as she is only 16 I don't think it is going to work. Shes too young. Find a woman of your own age and not a little girl!
2007-08-09 21:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id say no, and id never recommend a 23 year old to try it. Girls are very immature when they are only 16, even though a girl may seem more mature than others.. she may not be emotionally stable to cope in a relationship with a man who is much older. When i was 16 and had a boyfriend for a year and a half...i was so sure i was in love, but really looking back i was just a child..the relationship wasnt serious because i wasnt old enough.
2007-08-09 13:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by xoxcutiepiexox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly, if you're serious, ignore the immature idiots who are telling you it's gross or wrong. If you truly like each other, a seven year age-gap will turn out to be nothing in a few years. It will, however, be more complicated. Presumably you live very different lives, have different interests, different levels of maturity and experience, etc. You would both have to be very patient and understanding, and to make the relationship work would undoubtedly require dedication and perseverance.
Additionally, if you live in a country where the girl is under-age, it would certainly be inadvisable to start a sexual relationship, or would at least have to be something you talked very carefully and seriously about. Nevertheless, I live in Britain, where the Age of Consent is 16, and I don't see anything 'wrong' about a 16 year old girl having consenting sex with an older man.
Obviously I have no idea about the specifics of the relationship you're asking about, and, above all, you need to take into account the girl, how she feels, and what's best for her. However, to answer your question generally: It might be difficult, but yes, it can work.
2007-08-09 13:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by jfofnian 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well my husband was a bit older then you when we got married and i was 16. Before we split (cause he cheated) it had been 6 years we had been together. We was i admit very happy. When i look back he we were happy (that is until the split) but i would say that only you two will know if it would work. You must want to try or you would not be asking. I would say give it ago. Everyone put us down when we got together and it was even worst when we got married. Always remember no matter what you do in your life everyone would have a view, and you yourself will have doubts, but in todays society you have to give it a try (if the law permits)
2007-08-09 12:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by yasmineloy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a fortnight maybe. Don't expect much more than that from a girl that age.
Besides, in most states, that's Statutory rape. Look it up. If I were her mother, I'd slap a restraining order on you and/or have you arrested. But that's me.
But then again, about 100 years ago it was considered commonplace for a 14 y/o girl to marry a 25 y/o man. MY great-grandmother is the perfect example.
2007-08-09 12:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by jobie023 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy I am seeing right now is 40. I am only 25. Its working out good for us. However, he does not act like the typical 40 year old. He had a baby with a 16 year old when he was 23. They did get married, but he told me that if it was not for her having a baby that probably would not have gotten married.
2007-08-09 12:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
gross no!!! she is a lil girl no matter how you look at it. no matter how old she acts she is still a teenager and a lil girl. why cant you look for someone your own age? why dont you let her live her life and have her own teeage life. you are ruining it for her. you think you are doing this girl a favor ,you arent . she is young and it wont last. once she reaches 21 she is going to want to go to the clubs and you will be 28. you will be old and she will be ready for the club life. you are already grown out of that. i think you will not find happiness in a child and if this gets out you will be forever marked as a sex offender. get away from this child now and find a woman. you are too old for a teenager and it is sick to think this way.
2007-08-09 12:34:05 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. No matter how hot she is and even if you think you love her, she is still a kid. Not to mention underage. You will be surprised how much you will change between 23 and 30, and she will be only
the age you are now. Let her go.
2007-08-09 12:31:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends how mature she is. Personally i would let her live her life a bit before she gets into a relationship with someone who is 23
2007-08-09 12:30:01 · answer #11 · answered by berryred 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋