i have an isane temper?

Question

i was with a girl who i love but when she mentions other fellas i get so jealous and go into a rage i am not proud of myself but i hate of think of her with other fellas she is lovely but i think she quite likes the attension last week i received some really nasty texts from her and went looking for her in early hours of the morning she came with me but she told me she was scared of me and i dont want that what shall i do would it be better to let her go

please dont get me wrong i would never hurt her but i get so bad tempered and really angry as i fell i am so lucky to have her and dont want to loose her to no body else

to mantastic - i really do have a very bad temper

to angels_among_us....i am from a very violent family and if medication was the answer i would take it the thing is i love her so much i cant think of her wih no-one else

Answer 1

wow, at least you can say you have a temper, there is med. for it, ask your Dr, my son had a temper, and he did not mean to he is such a good kid but he still had a temper ...
and they gave him some med and in a year he was off and he does great,

you have to learn to control it and trust her, that's important, tell her what you told us and she can help and she will see how much you are so much in love with her, and that's hard to find these day to find someone that loves us that much ...

be honest and tell her..

take care and god bless :))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Answer 2

Maybe you should let her go for a little while just to prove to yourself that you can, and that you'll be okay. It's not in your best interest or hers having her fear you. Have you ever seriously tried to determine where those negative feelings in you come from? I know on the surface you don't like the thought of her receiving attention from other guys, but if you were to nail that down more specifically than that, what exactly about that do you find threatening? I have a feeling once you confront and conquer that situation to where it's no longer an issue for you, much of your life will be healthier and more fulfilling for you. (This is going to sound a bit infantile and I don't suggest it as a strategy for living but as a motivational adage: Strive to make your life vibrant to the extent that SHE is jealous of attention you're receiving from other women!) Then having done so, play it off with grace. A little confidence goes a long way. Before you know it, you won't have an "insane" temper at all. We only feel that level of rage when we feel things are beyond our control. You can beat this with a little bit of introspection and honest self-examination. Good luck.

Answer 3

Gary--the first step to solving a problem is to admit you have a problem--which you did!! It takes a real man to have that courage. Then you have to ask why a person has friends and why that makes you angry.Why are you so insecure??? So what if she has friends or exes or anything else--that is HER business--NOT yours. And if she goes off with another guy--so what---find another girl !!! The key is courteous communications when you have an issue. Sit and explain that you would prefer NOT to hear about other guys and then you will be a better man--not all jealous and mad. If it is truly an issue that you cannot handle and she continues to do this behavior--you would be better off without her--why be miserable and upset?? That is NOT part of a real satisfying relationship. You should be happy. But again--people have friends--that is natural--would you want a girl that got mad all the time over your friends?? No not at all--it is silly and not at all attractive. Cool off--you already scared her--that is NOT good and I really think this relationship is over--if the horse dies--get off. Get my message?? You need to rethink this stuff---you can't get angry about silly stuff--you will be a lonesome old man if you keep it up. Find a girl that suits your idea of a nice girl--this one may NOT be the right one---that's life--it isn't always easy. Keep on the right track--remain cool--relax, smile and good luck !!

Answer 4

INTERESTING , AND ALL TOO CLASSIC!!!

But -->> Do you REALLY have an "insane temper"???? Or do you only have an "insane temper" when a WOMAN is involved?

You know . . . there are alot of guys out there who are perfectly OK on their own. Every day goes by without a hitch. He maintains an even strain. He keeps everything together, but when a WOMAN comes along . . .

ALL HELL BREAKS LOOSE!!!!!!!!!!!

LOL!!!

You are NOT alone. And women will deffinitely try their BEST to make sure you feel like there is something wrong with YOU. Check this out . .

"I'm a quiet living man,
who prefers to spend the evening
in the silence of his room,
who likes an atmosphere as restful
as an undiscovered tomb,
A pensive man am I,
of philosophical joys,
who likes to meditate, contemplate,
free from humanity's mad inhuman noise,

BUT!

Let a woman in your life,
and your serenity is through,
she'll redecorate your home,
from the cellar to the dome,
and then go on to the enthralling fun
of overhauling YOU...

Let a woman in your life,
and you're up against a wall,
make a plan and you will find,
she has something else in mind,
and so rather than do either
you do something else that neither likes AT ALL.

Let a woman in your life,
and patience hasn't got a chance,
she will beg you for advice, your reply will be concise,
she will listen very nicely,
then go out and do precisely what she wants!!!

Let a woman in your life,
and your sabbatical is through,
in a line that never ends
comes an army of her friends,
come to jabber and to chatter
and to tell her what the matter is with YOU! . . "

- MY FAIR LADY
Best picture 1964

http://www.allmusicals.com/lyrics/myfairlady/imanordinaryman.htm

THERE'S A REASON WHY IT'S A CLASSIC!!!!

:)

Answer 5

Get help dude. Or you're gonna be slapped with so many restraining orders you'll make Brittany Spears proud.

Answer 6

Be very careful when it comes to things like this. Do not abuse women in any way, we are meant to look over them not down on them. Just take it easy ok.

Answer 7

you have answeres you own question your sulution is to let it go its better to love and lost than not to have loved at all but get you temper under control you may do some thing you may not have entended to do get help..

Answer 8

You are jealous and possessive. Bad combo. I was doing that too. You need to trust her more. but if things doesn't work between you two, it is better to split. But trust me, being jealous and possessive is very bad combo. You might need to work on that.

Answer 9

when she meantions other dudes, dont get mad. just think that you're the one with her not them. take big deep breaths in but dont let her know you're doing it. honestly i'd be really freaked if you acted like that around me too. i get jealous a lot too but it's not to that extent. just try really hard to understand that she has dude friends too. you're the one with her though buddy. just remember that.

Answer 10

Let her go before you physically abuse her. She is right to be scared of you with your horrible temper.