My aunt has 5 kids (one on the way) and she lives in the getto. She is also on welfare with no job. she sits and watchs soap opreas all day. every kid has a different father, 2 of them are in jail and 1 is dead (he was in a night fight, he killed someone and others didn't like that so they killed him.) they all said they cared about her and loved her and she claims that she was using a codanm all 6 times and they all break. i need help to help her, if that makes sense. i have this small bungallow, i am renting to different people, but right now no one is using it. i said she could live there before instead of the getto somewhere in califorina, but she said no. anything i can do or say that might change her mind and get her to live with us, or should i let her screw herself and her kids. HELP
2007-08-09 12:13:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
first of all, the 2 bedroom bugallow is better than her 1 bedroom apartment. And all of the fathers have left her after she got pregent. they all don't care about the children.
2007-08-10 08:46:28 · update #1
You cant help someone who doesnt want it.
2007-08-09 12:25:22 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't prevent her from screwing up her own life, but maybe you can get her kids straightened out. Every kid has a different father. O.K. let's start there. Are any of the fathers still supporting? If so, try and establish a relationship there and see if they can be more supportive of the situation. You are right about moving her out of the ghetto and away from the guns and the drugs. Don't try and rescue her by letting her live in your bungalow. It is probably too small for her family anyway. Get her in a rehab would be best, and you talk to her counselor if you can get a chance. It's the best way to find out how to help her.
2007-08-09 19:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by green3ch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful! Your aunt is old enough to make her own decisions and old enough to pay the consequences. You have no responsibility to make life easier for her.
We all need to want help before we can accept it. It doesn't sound like she wants it. The lady said, "No". She does not want to move into your bungalow.
Everyone has the responsibility to achieve their own potential. Few can do that while worrying about and taking care of others.
There are laws and social service professionals to protect the welfare of your aunt's children.
Some mothers choose to "make do" with the welfare received for the children they cannot afford.
2007-08-09 19:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by maslo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's not willing to move, try to talk her into letting the kids live there [if someone will be able to watch them]. if she wants to live that way, it's her choice, but she shouldn't make her kids live that way too.
2007-08-09 19:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by Kristabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she is content to live as she is presently. You have offered her help and she apparently does not want it.
2007-08-09 19:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's really not anything you can do in this situation except pray for her, which is actually doing quite abit.
2007-08-09 19:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, ask your mom or dad. have them help out. but at least try and dont give up. after all she is your family. and i bet some of your other family members would help out.
hope it all works out :D
2007-08-09 19:38:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋