I am dating a woman (15 months now) and we decided to have sex last month. Both were virgins and we have had sex probably 20 times since then. I knew it would hurt her the first time. But it still hurts her, always in the beginning. Last night I gave her over an hour of foreplay, the bedsheets were wet because of her yet it still hurt her. After about 3 or 4 minutes the pain went away and she gradually started to enjoy herself more and more. By the end of it all she was moaning with pleasure and orgasmed more than once. My question is why does it always hurt her in the beginning, we waited so long last night that neither of us could control ourselves once we started. She is a smaller person and I am a good deal larger but I just don't know what to do. I love her but cannot stand sex while its hurting her, I only begin to enjoy it once she starts enjoying it. (By the way, having sex was her idea last night, so I know she wanted to). Can anyone help me? Why does it hurt her at first?
2007-08-09 11:00:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are so caring that is very wonderful.
I am not sure why she hurts when you guys have sex. It could be that you have a large boy compare to her girl or could be something else more serious. I think you guys should go to see a doctor.
My friend used to be hurt when she had sex. She went to see the doctor, she found out some things was wrong with her and had to have an operation. She could not have a baby after had an operation.
Good luck :)
2007-08-09 11:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by Hope 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her body is still adjusting to having sex. Sometimes it takes a woman a few months before she is stretched out. Don't worry, it's a good sign if in the end she is enjoying herself.
2007-08-17 04:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you, 12?
2016-05-18 02:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by jordan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how it feels I am 5' 10" and my woman is 4' 11" so go figures. Simply put you are too big for her. No need for alarm though. The vaginal walls to expand and stretch to a size pleasant for any woman, hell they push out babies throught there. Just be nice and gentle and do positions with her on top, so she can control the depth and speed. After a few months her canal will be adjusted to your size and she will no longer feel pain. It took me a few months too. Enjoy!
2007-08-17 09:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because she aint streched. It may take a little while in the beginning but once it dont hurt no more keep on going.
I was the same way in the beginning!
2007-08-17 03:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, good job on making sure to include foreplay. i can pretty much speak from your girls perspective as i am the same way. the best way to stop sex from hurting is to have sex fairly consistently (as often as possible) that way she can get used to you and vice versa. go down on her. make sure that you always start out slow (don't go all in until it stops hurting), buy lube - even if you go down on her, putting lube on yourself helps, and let her try being on top. this way she can control how much is inside her at any given time.
make sure you tell her how beautiful she is and how comfortable she is so that shes always relaxed.
2007-08-09 11:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by Court 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you might try some extra lube to help out also try different positions like her on top so she controls the rate of penetration.fore play is great good man keep it up
2007-08-17 10:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by panthor001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty there are probably medical conditions involved and she needs to see her ob/gyn for help. there are ways to help, but not just by keeping doing what you are already doing. Good luck
2007-08-09 12:56:27 · answer #8 · answered by vegasrob89118 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it always hurts whenever ever u first start out then eventually u will loosen up and then it will begin to feel good
2007-08-17 10:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by Latoya G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could just b an anatomical thing lik u suggested
i wouldnt think too much of it especially since she obviously wants it
whats a few minutes of pain when its followed with pleasure lik that anyway
2007-08-09 11:08:38 · answer #10 · answered by roniloveu15 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋