im very religious
but my opinion on this changes regularly
my parents say i should wait for my first love
but as a kid i would always say no marriage
but now i think love again..
i wouldnt be like all the other people having sex as a pleasure
so anyways what do u think?
2007-08-09 10:28:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
it's true. You should wait untill you're married. Sex before getting married isn't any better and will make you cease from being "religious".
2007-08-09 10:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sniper of Goth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until marriage. Sex before marriage bonds you so close to a man, and when you two split, it feels like divorce. It hurts WAY more than if you hadn't had sex in the first place.
Sex is a beautiful gift, so precious, so special, that we should take the most care of it. First, it should be opened only within the holiest of settings, which is in marriage. To open such a gift within any other kind of setting would not be treating the gift or the Giver with much reverence. It would be like opening a gift of precious jewels out in skid row, or like giving precious jewels to swine. Would you ever open a nice gift out in the ghetto? No way, that's never the right setting, for someone may steal it. Even the giver would ask, "What were you thinking?"
Ah, but to save it for the most holiest of settings, what a beautiful thing to give to one another! What a beautiful gift that God has given us, the gift of sexuality!
2007-08-09 17:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Dolores G. Llamas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't recommend sex prior to marriage. At all.
If you are even remotely a person of faith then there will come a day when it is regretted that you did not wait.
I have yet to know anyone who believes on the promises of God that is pleased and satisfied with their decision to have sex before they married - those who were believers prior to losing their virginity or those who became believers afterward.
Your first time is something that only happens once. Having sex is a commitment to all the risks associated - std's, pregnancy, emotional issues. Wouldn't it be a blessing if you were able to share that gift and responsibility with someone who was committed to a lifetime with you vs. someone who just "loves" you for now?
That's what I think.
2007-08-09 17:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should wait.
You should respect yourself enough to wait until the right man comes along...you are worth that, and the right man will think you are worth it as well.
Giving the gift of yourself, and your body, to your spouse is special. It cannot be special if you've given that gift to other men first.
God asks us to wait. There are many good reasons for this. First of all waiting allows you to know if you really love someone...sex (lust) can get in the way and mask true feelings. Another good reason is that you learn to express your love in non-sexual ways. This is important, once married these non-sexual ways of showing love can help get you through low times in your marriage. Also, when you wait it gives you time to become true friends, another trait that keeps marriages strong.
Loving God, loving yourself and loving your intended enough to wait for sex shows the depth of your committment and love and the true self-respect you have.
Additional remark: Giggly Giraffe.......what the heck do you mean by the "disease of pregnancy?" A child is not a disease...when a woman gets pregnant it means that sex worked the way it's supposed to! Women get pregnant through sexual union by design...divine design at that.
2007-08-09 17:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by Misty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any young lady who thinks sex before marriage is a good thing evenually loses her self respect and she feels like shes been ripped off. One reason is there is nothing left for the true marriage and she is the one at total risk and the guy walks off without any after pain that the young lady feels later !!!
And God says don't for go reason !!!
2007-08-09 17:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by rapturefuture 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your life will be so, soooo much better if you wait to have sex after marriage. That's why it's stressed in the Bible.
Sex of any kind out of marriage is a sin. How much more simple does it need to be, for people who believe the Bible?
Godspeed.
2007-08-09 17:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by jimmeisnerjr 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
They have created medicine to cure the disease of pregnancy. They have created devices to protect you from pregnancy & STD's. They have created a culture where sex is taken from special to disposable.
They still need to find a way to protect the heart from heart break and merge feeling so that one does not get hurt (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) ... and this is where listening to those who've biffed it before you comes in. The Bible is full of people who've biffed it ... learn from thier pain before taking the pain as your own.
2007-08-09 17:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm not religious, AT ALL, but it's a touchy subject.
people say wait until marriage just to be safe, but it's a metter you need to deeply think about. it depends on the person's feelings.
do you love the person you're with?
do you think you'll stay together?
will you possibly feel hurt afterwards?
can you trust the person you're with?
will you be safe?
are you comfortable?
if you can answer those questions confidently, then you're ready. just be sure to know what you're about to do and be safe!!! condoms i mean ;)
2007-08-09 17:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex without the COMMITMENT of marriage means the couple is mutually using each other.
2007-08-09 17:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by Thom 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Wait, you will feel better about it after you are married if you've waited. Just make sure you also marry someone who waited for you.
2007-08-09 17:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by Cre8ed2worship 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋