I work a pool as an attendent where a I met a lady who I have house sat for while she was on vacation. She also had asked me if I would be intersted in looking after her elderly mother who was in a home, just so she could have company. Yesterday she came to the pool and let me know that her mom had passed away, so she would not be calling me about the job. We had a really nice and long conversation where she told me about her mom, the funeral, and I let her know how sorry I was for her loss. My question is, should I send a letter of condolence even though I have already talked with her? I would love to send her a letter with a donation made in her mother's name to a charity or something but I have no money (litterally). So please let me know what you think. Thanks
PS-I actually have got to know her a lot though seeing her and her kids for the last two summers so it's not like I just met her a couple times.
2007-08-09 10:07:09 · 11 answers · asked by pditty 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
aw, you sound so sweet...xox
yes, send her a note. no money is needed.
2007-08-09 10:12:05 · answer #1 · answered by dali333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others who have responded - it is very thoughtful of you to think about sending a note. I think that's a great idea.
And you definitely do not have to send money, either. Many times there's a charity that's recommended where you can give money in the person's memory. If you don't have any money, how about volunteering an afternoon at a charity, maybe at a nursing home? That way you can honor the deceased's memory, but it won't cost you any money.
Julie
2007-08-09 18:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by Julie R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you don't need to send a card but a little cheery note is OK. Just keep your message short. Some people like to save these sort of cards when a loved one dies. She must trust you to talk about such a personal matter. Don't send money.
Another idea would be to give her a bunch of home grown flowers next time you see her.
don't get embarrassed if she cries. instead give her a hug. I love to give and get hugs.
2007-08-11 05:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by i love my garden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is so good when we are kind to one another. A card will touch her very much. No money is needed especially since in reallity you don't know here all that well. The card will be even more than she would expect.
2007-08-09 17:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A card or note would be nice. It's just nice to know you are thought of when you face a tragedy.
2007-08-09 17:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by John F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that you talked to her, and sure send a card if you like. Don't worry about anything else.
2007-08-09 19:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she would really appreciate a well thought out note. The world should have more people like you.
2007-08-09 17:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Card is always nice, even without money, stay in touch even she doesnt need your service anymore
2007-08-09 17:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by Inna D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should send a card and flowers too.
2007-08-10 01:28:27 · answer #9 · answered by nimesh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that would be very nice, and I'll sure she would appreciate the thoughtfulness.
2007-08-12 22:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by sugarbee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋