When my bf and I started dating... we would talk all the time and he insisted we get everything out in the open right from the start. His last girlfriend had lied to him a lot i guess and he just didnt want to have any surprises with me.. Is it wrong to get everything out immediately? Its been 8 months and I still feel like he thinks im hiding things from him...will he come around?
2007-08-09 09:52:37 · 12 answers · asked by jace 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its fine to give sum1 time.
what is important is not what happend in the past,
he may hv reasons fr not being able to come clean but that shud not bother u
what is important is is he comfortable with u now and clean
the past is best forgotten, unless uve sum special reason to recall it
this works both ways
so its better to thrash it out then start sumthing with scars all over
2007-08-09 09:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds, or so they say. He will probably be distrustful of any girl for a while. You have a tough job, Undoing something someone else did to him. He may never really trust you because he now expects you to hurt him by lying to him. Don't give him a reason to doubt you.
2007-08-09 10:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as partial trust. You are either trusted or not, period. As to telling him EVERYTHING, I don't think so! There are always things that do not affect others in the relationship if they are not told! Tell him everything you feel is important for him to know, the rest, keep to yourself.
2007-08-09 09:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by SexRexRx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to lay ground rules for him, and the first one should be:
Don't punish me for things that happened in your past.
I was not there, i did not do it, and I don't know how to fix it.
So, leave me out of it, if we are going to have a relationship, you need to let go of the bad memories, and start over fresh with me. If you continue to make me feel like I am a burden on you, or a liar, then we can end it now. period.
2007-08-09 10:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by *HOT*GHETTO*MESS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely i would be common with you, he's being shady. Why do adult adult males try this? they attempt to no longer harm your thoughts with the actuality so as that they lie, and then it hurts you ten circumstances worse once you detect out approximately it interior the long-term. It makes you ask your self what else they have lied approximately interior the previous and if ya'lls relationship is a lie. i think of you will possibly desire to confront him approximately this undertaking with the aid of fact there isn't any experience in you feeling this form. remember he's YOUR boyfriend so which you will possibly desire to no longer be scared to speak to him approximately your problems with this. tell him to be thoroughly common with you approximately this bc its hurting you.
2016-11-11 21:24:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You betta recognize that it is not you but him. he is the one with the trust issue not you. he is always going to feel that you are hiding something from him b/c he was hurt in the past. he must learn to let go of the old pain. let the past stay in the past. otherwise he will do that to every girl he deals with.
2007-08-09 09:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by CRAZYC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he will come around it will just take him awhile because of his last relationship and how his girl friend was...just be patient and show him that you can be trusted.
2007-08-09 09:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by drunken_monkey1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah awww im so sorry ! well yeah i think he will but you will need to talk to him about it ask he why?? really it feell so much better when you ask him and he tell you the truth you know but really it feel way much better that if you do ask him but he will come around!
2007-08-09 09:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by chick41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me the honeymoon period is over. You need to come up with fresh ideas.
2007-08-09 09:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, unless he is hiding something. If he isn't, tell him to cool it for a while.
2007-08-09 09:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by Hitch™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋