ok so my last bf was really confident in our relationship. Confident meaning he has done this before and knew how to show me he cared. My new bf is really shy and has not had a girlfriend (i dont think). I need tips because i have never had to be the person to show the other person what to do in a relationship. Im used to the guy coming to me. Please give me tips on what to do.
2007-08-09 09:32:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It takes a confident lady to bring a shy person out of their shell Communicating your feelings and your wants and needs will give him some clue about how to make you happy and he will try to do them. Get him around your Friends a few at a time so he gets the feel of who you are and the friends you make. I was shy until I got a job working in a store where I had to reach out beyond my boundaries in serving customers, and working with women taught me that I didn't have to fear them. Rejection is the killer of shy peoples confidence. If you show him that you really want to be with him you will draw him out
2007-08-09 09:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach him and show him what you want. Most guys are experienced and know how to treat a lady but others are struggling in that department. The ones that struggle are not bad people, they just need a little help in determining what to do and what not to do. There is nothing wrong with pointing things out that he does right or wrong. This is actually good because you have chance to teach him about the things you like and you don't like. This will give you the opportunity to shape him to the point to where he is most suitable for you. You should not have to change his character but just help him get to know you and learn the do's and don't's of a relationship. He will appreciate you for this.
2007-08-09 16:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by dencur02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to show him that you care (if you do) and he will eventually open up, it always took me a while to warm up to a girl that I hadent really spent good time with! he will come around give him some time! Maybe you should find out what some of his favorite interests are and take him out for a night of good fun! Give it a shot! Good Luck!
2007-08-09 16:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by Goes Without Saying 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You learn from what was given to you from the previous relationship.. now you show this new guy and yourself how to be confident, controlled and happy with one another.
2007-08-09 16:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by slither22a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change who they are. The only thing you can do it to give him the confidence, make him feel like he is doing things right, tell him what you want and need, etc. It will take time, but he is who he is.
2007-08-09 16:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once he dates a pretty woman and she falls in love with him. He will begin to be confident, then all of his girl-friends will want him. because they want to know what made you want him. Then his head will get too big, he will try to fulfill some of his fantasies he had once of being a player. You'll break up, he'll regret it, and lose his confidence again.
2007-08-09 16:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by The Mrs. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe just give him a little time maybe your rite he might never had a girlfriend just talk to him and let him know how u feel and maybe he will grow out of his shyness
2007-08-09 16:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be shy but now i noe what to do and what has to happend is he has to get dumped and then he will learn from that so yea he cant learn while he is with u but u can break up with him and let him get another gf and then when they break up get back with him
2007-08-09 16:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by Darko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You learn, and make a fool out of yourself and realize it's okay.
2007-08-09 16:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im a shy guy too
2007-08-09 16:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋