why do some men not go down?

Question

Why is it that some men dont go down on the woman they have been with for years but they want that woman to go down on them?

Answer 1

ah. . .selfish.

Answer 2

Damn whats wrong with that guy? Its rude, selfish and down right unacceptable. The only reason why I would never go down, would be as I made my way in that direction there was an odor that was not pleasing. Sorry to be gross, but there are times when its good and times when its not good. I know there are times when I personally dont want the favor to me cause I dont feel too clean, but if they've known each other for years, that is a hell of a long time to not invest in something to make it appealing for him. He's a chump, move on.

Answer 3

Some men have probably had some bad experience with going down. (hygiene issues), and it left a bad impression, that they're scared to do it.
sometimes talking about it may resolve the problem which may be fairly simple at its essence.
OR, I would concur with the previous post, that some men are just selfish, but I don't believe that this is normally the case.

Answer 4

I don't really think its about being selfish, I think its more of them being self-conscience. Maybe they don't really know how to...it's not like there are classes out there to teach them or anything, or maybe it just grosses them out. It's a preference thing. Or maybe they had a not to pleasant experience and can't get over it. The only way to find out is to ask him. Or give him some reasons he can admit to but not have to actually say it, like "don't you know how or what" or did you go down on a girl and she smelled bad" It sucks too, because it can feel so awesome. You always have the choice of not going down on him anymore.

Answer 5

No doubt there exist more people who like to have it done than who like to do it. This goes for females as well as males -- in other words, people.

Why is it so? I don't know. I guess each person has his or her own reasons. I can imagine that pretty much everybody likes the way it feels to be the recipient.

All I can think of as reasons why someone might not like to be the recipient, are 1) religious or moral belief, 2) inability to have an orgasm in this manner and therefore is shy about it.

I can think of more reasons why a person might not like to be the doer, though. In addition to religion or morality, I can imagine that some women do not like the idea of a flesh poker jamming into their mouths, period. I can also imagine that some woemn do not like the having one ramming into their throats. Some women might think it's a bit brutal. Others might have problems with the sanitariness, or with the load at the end. Furthermore, the taste might not be appealing. And I can imagine that some men do not like the taste of women's pubic areas in general. Also, women taste differently from one another. Sometimes it's just ther particular taste. Another thing is that soime men migght find it unsanitary no matter what cleaning is done first. Also, women almost never wash off the urine before being the recipient of oral sex. This might not taste good, and not everybody is interested in the "dirtiness" of doing it regardless of the taste and bacteria associated with human waste.

This is one of those things that seems unfair. If you do him but he won't do you, and you want it, it's frustrating. You can't make him do it. If you like doing it to him, then why stop though, if doing him in fact turns you on.

Ask him if it has to do with taste.

This talk about it boiling down to selfishness and being an asshole, is out of line. Some people just don't like it! Men and women alike. But who wouldn't like how it feels? To assume that somebody is an asshole because they like a sensation but do not want to put their mouth there, is as silly as saying someone is an asshole if that someone likes to have her hair cut, but doesn't like to cut other people's hair. Most people like to have their hair cut, but less people like to cut hair.

To tell the truth, I do not like the taste of urine. I think it's disgusting. I prefer the taste to not be there. It took me years though, to get up the nerve to say something about it. If I go through a phase with a woman during which I do not want to give oral because of the foulness, I do not expect her to do me orally. But this does not mean I suddenly do not like to receive it!

Giving it and receiving it are two different things. It is preposerous to think that if a person does not like the one they automatically have no right to like the other. And to assume that if somebody does not like the giving of it and the receiving of it equally then that person is an asshole, is to be an asshole.

Answer 6

Some guys dont like the taste, texture and smell also some see it at being put into submission or domination. Same goes for the women. It can be labled lazy or selfish and in some cases it is.

Answer 7

Sometimes women are just plain not clean down there. Sometimes there is an odor. The odor gets trapped in the pubic hair. I love to go down but only if my woman is clean and bald down there. It smells good, looks good, and tastes like heaven.

Answer 8

mostly selfishness, but some guys just feel yucky at the thought. Sometimes a shower and some powder or cologne just before bedtime can help.

You will probably need to discuss it with him.

Answer 9

My ex used to try and use his chin and pass it off as going down. It was bad.

Im the same way though. I dont like going down. I think its boring.

Answer 10

Those men are the typical macho-man with a lot of ego.Those guys are not a real partners in bed.I think those are losers.

Answer 11

Because they are really selfish or they are afraid they will mess it up somehow, or maybe his first time was with a "rotten" kitty and that's still in his brain, either way, it's not fair, he either gets help or you get what you want from a man who wants to.