He said he would do this if I came between he and his buddies, men he didn't care about the before. I am not sure where the insecurity even came from. We had both had a few to many drinks and I had taken a shower and got into my PJ's. Absolutely nothing was going when he said it. He looked me right in the eye and said it very slowly. We had been out with friends and co-workers and I realized we both had probably had too many drinks and went home. He has only known these mean for a couple of months and has never felt drawn to even have a super close relationship with friends or his family. The only thing I have ever seen him care deeply for is me and getting through school. I have two little girls from a previous marriage and I worried about making a decision to leave will affect them. Occasionally, he has gotten angry and stubborn when he was drinking and followed me around, but he has never threatened me. He said he would cut my throat! How incredibly graphic!
2007-08-09 09:05:41 · 19 answers · asked by rarecountrywaterbug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well if its an isolated instance
u can take one more chance
but you say that u are the only thing he ever cared for
so its kinda scarry
if u feel it coming again or if this is a part of a lot of other small things happening
then just quit
u deserve better
good luck
best wishes
2007-08-09 09:13:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an alcoholic and becomes very mean when he's drunk. I would suggest you attend some AA meetings for spouse of alcoholics I think it's called alon or something like that. I would be concerned about myself and the safety of my children. People think an alcoholic is someone that drinks everyday and the truth is an alcoholic is a person that can't stop drinking after one drink...they drink until they pass out or black out. When he's sober I'm sure he's kind and mild mannered but get the booze in him and he's a totally different person. He needs to get help and you need to get yourself and your girls out of there. If you for whatever reason you think you can't leave him at least let the girls go with their dad or grandparents...who knows what he'll do next time his drunk or as they get older he could sexually molest them because honestly he doesn't even know what he's doing. Get out it's an unsafe environment.
2007-08-09 16:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he can't handle his alcohol very well. You had better be extremely careful with him. When people are under the influence they can be out of their head and not even realize what they are doing. If his mind was capable of going there, don't think for a second that his hands wasn't. The people you hear about in the news didn't think their loved ones were gonna kill them either or they would not have been there. Think about it, you hear it all the time and you probably think something like that couldn't happen to you and your children....those people didn't think that either. I had a very close friend whose boyfriend was drunk and shot and killed her, then buried her in a shallow grave. He had even called his father and he helped him bury her body and they went about their lives for several days before workers found her body. Cathy was SITTING on the couch when he shot her.
She didn't know she was gonna die that night either or she would not have been there. When the police went to the home to question the father, he walked out on the porch and gave a full confession, his wife had no clue that Cathy was even missing. You need to think about this for the safety of your daughters and yourself.
2007-08-09 16:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by CINDY J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever take those threats lightly! If a man thought that concsciously and then verbalized it, you better believe he thought about more than once. Being drunk is no excuse to say you want to kill someone. Do you really want this guy around? And with your children???? Get a restraining order and get the hell away from him. He's psycho!
Trust me, my love of my life told me he was going to "rip my f**king head off". Guess what? Within the next two years, he choked me twice, threw me into walls, held me hostage and keep me from dialing 911 repeatedly, and then started abusing my kids. He's now the ex...and my family has a normal life again without him in it.
2007-08-09 16:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by Forgot How 2 Show Him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive gotten drunk a few times years ago, and i know that when a person is drunk, they feel FREE to say or do whatever is on their minds. My mother was an alcoholic 15 years ago, and being FREE is what she was. Yes you should be concerned, because you never know, what a person is thinking. My ex was suicidal, but he always talked about God, and never showed signs. So it dosn't matter if he's [your man] a nice person or not. The devil can use anyone, who has a weak mind. Maybe your man is a strong minded, god-fearing person, but his friends maybe a bad influence and he's weak to them.....well glad i could help, and just pray about it
2007-08-09 16:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by λngelicϐeauty Ƹ̴Ӂ̴Ʒ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not only really graphic, but really scary! If I was in that situation, I would pack up my stuff and the kids and immediately leave! I would be afraid that if and when he gets drunk again, he might actually try to cut your throat. he sounds like a violent drunk. I would leave and not come back.
2007-08-09 16:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him when he is sober!
If he refuses to stop drinking or drinks agian you need to get out of that relationship.
Even if it is just a few drink he is obviously an angry drunk. He could be the nicest man in the world but marrigie is about sacrifice and he either has to sacrfice the few drinks.. or you.
2007-08-09 16:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by Haylea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it was just cause he was drunk, He probably doesnt even remember what he said. You should bring it to his attention what he said to you and let him know how it made you feel. And maybe the both of you, especially him should go a little easy on the alcohole.
2007-08-09 16:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by Shadster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You husband has a problem with excessive drinking. He may have to choose between you and the booze. I had the same problem. I am celebrating my 14th wedding anniversary and have been off the sauce for 2 years.
2007-08-09 16:14:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you spoke to him about this when he is sober? if not, I seriously would. Drinking can cause some people to be happy...others to be violent. if he is being this violent to threaten your life, he could possibly harm you if pushed while drunk. He needs to stop if that is the case.
You need to make sure you put your little girl's safety first. if he gets that violent, it could lead to hurting them as well. Definitly talk to him and tell him what he is like when drunk.
2007-08-09 16:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋