At what age would you let your daughter color her hair?

Question

My almost 12 yo wants to put blonde highlights in her hair, but being a victim of high priced hair myself, I know what a costly commitment this is. I see other girls her age with weaves and highlights, and I feel they are just too young to be changing their color already. Am I out of touch and being too strict? BTW, her current hair color is a beautiful shade of auburn that I have never seen duplicated from a bottle.

Answer 1

i wasnt allowed to wear makeup or color my hair until i was 16 and until i paid for it myself. 12 is way too young to start altering hair colors.

I have custody of my 14 year old sister, and i pick my battles with her. She is a good kid, and does well in school, so i dont have an issue with her coloring her hair, experimenting with makeup or wearing what she wants...with what her and i call "Jayme Approval"
She has a job, makes her own money, and she is a straight A student in high school.

I choose the battles i fight with her.

I would rather have her experimenting with hair color or makeup, then out with her friends, experimenting with drugs or sex...

Also, i read something online the other day, how 12 and 13 year old girls alter hair color, and wear tons of makeup, making them seem older then they are, and they are targets for sexual predators...

use your best judgment.

Would you have been allowed to color your hair at 12 years old?

Answer 2

I have told my daughters 16. For one I agree it is expensive to maintain and I just think they should be older before they start messing with it. I started at 14 and still do at 34 and wish my parents had been a little stricter in that area. She would need to be careful with Auburn hair anyway, the highlights could turn out very orange if the person does not know what they are doing. maybe let her buy the temporary wash outs that change the whole color, but are temporary. I would not let mine at that age.

Answer 3

My daughter is 14 and has very blond hair so luckily I haven't had to deal with this yet. I did notice a lot of the girls seemed to be highlighting their hair when they started 7th grade. Personally, I think it looks kind of trashy. To me it just seems like they are young girls trying to look older. These also seem to be the girls who wear too much makeup and dress too skimpy. I don't think that you are being too strict if you tell her she has to wait until she's in high school. Maybe by then she'll realize she has naturally beautiful hair already.

Answer 4

I am 21 and have NEVER had any kind of permanent chemicals in my hair. Because of it i ahve such BEAUTIFUL, healthy hair. Its so healthy that i dont even have to brush it because it doesnt even tangle. I think you are the mom and if you really dont want her to get it doen becaue of money than have her wait until she is 15-or 16 so she can get a job and pay for it herself, teaching them responsisbility at the same time. My neighbor is 13 and she was dyign her hair and highlights and all that last year at age 12 and i thought it was too young. I'm only 21 and I agree with you, your not tryign to be to overprotective ro strict, your just being a good mom.

Answer 5

Isn't it always the way? A person with beautifully colored hair naturally wants to change it? I have a 16 yr old niece with gorgeous chestnut hair and she's always dyeing it--blonde, black, red, purple, whatever.

I would point out to your daughter--I know you're mom so she may not listen--exactly what you put in your question. It is costly, and it's a long term commitment. Most kids that age don't get long term, in their minds it's like long term is a few weeks. But ultimately you control the purse strings and if you have reservations you should probably say no.

Answer 6

I had my daughters hair highlighted when she was 15. I think 12 is a little too young to do it. Kids these days want to be older than what they are so young. And they really don't have anything to look forward to later on. If she waits and get's a job and help pay for the hair treatment later on. Let her wait a while longer.

Answer 7

i'd be lots extra probably to enable my daughter dye her hair a wild colour at a youthful age - like green Kool-help which will finally wash out - yet highlights, and so on? Hm... sign of her becoming up and getting attracted to clothing, makeup, boys, her visual charm and appearances in maximum situations... 13 or 14. purely after having a verbal substitute along with her approximately what she thinks dying her hair potential.If that is purely for relaxing, no situation. i'd enable my daughter have blue hair at 5 if she wanted.

Answer 8

When she can pay for it. I was never allowed to dye my hair and I had such a great color that I never even wanted to. Specially after a cute boy told me I had the loviest hair and to never dye it. Even the hair specialists admire the quality of my hair when they see it. I have never permed or dye'd it so it is pretty much intact. Why would I want to become attached to such an expense, once you get in, you can never go back! PLUS! Now that I am a mom, my daughter has better haircolor than I do, if she wants to ruin it, it will not be with my money, so she will have to be old enough to work for it.
BTW! I am 30. You will almost never find someone my age that has never touched her hair color, so I feel very special. :)

Answer 9

I think she's way too young, why let her start putting chemicals in her hair since now, I'm sure she has beautiful hair, and at that age nothing needs to be altered, they just have this natural beauty that needs to additional help, no tweaking required. Why mess with what was created so beautifully. Make her wait a few more years, until she is old enough to decide to do something because she wants to do it, not because every other girl around her is doing it.

Answer 10

No, I don't think you are being to strict, lol. My daughter is two & I hate the thought of her getting her ears pierced. I think her ears are perfect already. I would at most let her put a rinse in, nothing permanent. I always wanted auburn hair, I bet that's so pretty!