Okay so my parents have been divorced since i was 2. I have lived with my dad, but see my mom too. My dad started dating a girl a year ago. And i dont really like her, she is 29 has a 5 year old son. My dad is 38, very hard working and never really brought girls around when i was growing up. So i have never been exposed to him dating. Well i was home watching t.v., and all of a sudden i heard some DISGUSTING noises coming from my dads room while him and his gf are up there. obviously i knew what they were doing and screamed his name and started getting really mad. His gf just left the house, and my dad tried to lie about it. But it had been 1 month now, and im still not over it. His gf hasnt even apologized to me. And i just feel really disrespected. Now everytime she spends the night i always think that things are happening. And i just want my dad to be happy and i want to like her, but i jsut cant get over this! Please help me!!!
2007-08-09 08:19:44 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first thing how old are you? how did u think u came about? did you think you dad was practicing abstinence? seriously you have to give ur dad some room to have his fun, he raised u from the age of two, now ur grown n he wants a life of his own.. but in regards to the issue u have with the noise that happened talk to him about it, but u already said they dont make anymore noise.. p.s. when ur dad's girlfriend spends the night stop thinking about them having sex, thats just sick?!
2007-08-09 08:27:40 · answer #1 · answered by antoinio i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an embarrassing situation for all three of you. Your dad should have used better judgment and save that to do when you aren't around. I don't think that his gf necessary needs to apologize to you, she probably feels pretty awkward. Although you think it would be easy for an adult to say "Sorry we shouldn't of done that while you were around" actually saying it can be a hard thing to do. You have to let go of this, otherwise it will haunt you. It's natural to imagine what they are doing when she spends the night, but you can't torture yourself with this. If you are scared to hear them again, sleep with a radio on or something. You don't mention your age, but you have to realize that your dad is in a relationship and obviously they arent' going to use the sleeping arrangements that you want.
2007-08-09 08:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to your dad about how you feel. Tell him that you aren't a baby anymore and that while you want him to be happy that you just feel like you are being disrespected. As far as him and the girlfriend doing things.......it's going to happen.....dating people do those things......married people do those things........they happen.....just try to let it go and get to know her and try to find a way to be her friend. If you make your dad choose, you could really be missing out on someone who would be great with you and make your dad really happy so please don't do that.
2007-08-09 08:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by mouthygirl20012001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OVER IT!! Your father has every right to have sex as often as he wants he is an adult. I hope you are very young and that is the only reason you are asking this question. Why should your dads girlfriend apologize she didn't do anything to you or disrespect you. if it happens again just turn up the TV and mind your own business.
2007-08-09 08:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look kiddo, you should be happy for your dad. He's moving on in life. It's not his girlfriends fault you heard them having sex. I know it sucks, I have been in that situation when I was younger. It is hard, but it's a fact of life. If you are uncomfortable with it you need to express that to the both of them. maybe then only then will they tone it down. you need to try a little harder to like this person if not for yourself, then do it for your dad. You will always be his one and only. Don't ever forget that..
2007-08-09 08:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by diablo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What bothers you in particular? This particular woman, the age difference, the fact that he is dating, that they sleep together?
Why do either of them owe you an apology?
You should want your dad to be happy! If she makes him happy, maybe you should give her more of a chance. Odds are, your mom & dad will not get back together so your dad is going to continue to date.
2007-08-09 08:25:54 · answer #6 · answered by Matt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what is it you do not like about her? maybe sit down and try and talk with her. just tell her it is hard to accept her right away because you don't know exactly know how you feel about the whole situation. give her a chance to get to know you.
it's good you want your dad to be happy and maybe he is. it's a little weird to hear either of your parents doing stuff that we don't ever think of them doing. so it might be just as hard on him as it is on you.
what do you want his girlfriend to apologize for? you say you feel disrespected but this is your father's house, right? he is allowed to do what he wants to do and unfortunatley in this case, it is doing stuff you find disgusting, in a sense.
so try and talk with her, with him or both.
it's hard to accept your parents dating someone. give it time and if she really is a good person then you will come around.
good luck
2007-08-09 08:25:03 · answer #7 · answered by baby_sunshine_4eva 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK girl get over it, let him be happy if you love him as you said. Try to ignore what ever maybe going on . Be happy for him. For the sake of your dad try to love the new girlfriend and am sure she will do same if she loves your dad
2007-08-09 08:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by happynews 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is horrible and I can understand how and why you feel the way you do. But, if she is a good woman, consider your father's happiness. Just consider it.
As you get older, you will learn that the way to true happiness is considering the feelings of the people you love before your own feelings.
2007-08-09 08:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that I would never get over either. They DID NOT have to do that why to were there. It seems really selffish, but they are adults. His girlfreind seems really stuck up for not apopligizing to you, and explaning what happen to you. You should talk your dad about it. Just hope he doesnt marry her!!!!
2007-08-09 08:25:56 · answer #10 · answered by Jenna. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋