Every time I invite someone over to my home it is fair to say that 100% they will either call and cancel at the last moment or not even show up. This applies to friends AND family. Either I'm just an easy target or they're all just jerks who are inconsiderate. Out of everyone in my life I'm the one who makes time for everybody. I work full time, have a busy social life through my church, and I volunteer at various places. I like my life and what I do with it. I don't understand. My schedule is very busy(matter of fact this is my one day off ;)) How is that only I can make the time? I've considered not extending invites to anyone ever, if they want to spend time with me then they will have to arrange it themselves and ask me. Is this a good idea?
2007-08-09 08:00:24 · 7 answers · asked by allu_sedup 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
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Thank you for your perspective. My home is clean, much cleaner than that of any family or friend of mine. I am always prepared food/drink-wise when I am expecting company so...not quite sure what their deal is. It's not like I make them take their shoes off or give them a list of do's and don'ts when they walk in the door. I'm puzzled still by them.
2007-08-09 09:03:57 · update #1
Have you considered the condition of your home ?
Is your home clean?
Are you a good host?
Do you offer your guest a drink or a snack when they arrive?
Entertaining is not about having a big fancy home is about making people feel comfortable in your home.
Maybe the reason people don't show or cancel is that your just not a good host.
I am not trying to been mean just trying to offer a different perspective
Ok It sounds like your a good host maybe its time for some new friends
in the mean time I would stop extending invites
2007-08-09 08:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course its rude if you invite someone to your home and they are a no call/no show. If this happens again, I would just say, Hey Bob, was there a reason why you did not come over last night? The give him a chance to answer and then say something like, Well in the future if you cannot make it, please call me so I can make other plans.
2007-08-09 08:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by tnbadbunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had to deal with this. First, I tell them how upset I am without blame. I'll express to them clearly what you stated above: My time is valuable, and I keep a commitment because their time is as valuable as my time.
I give them one more chance, then don't issue an invitation again. Seriously, my life has been much easier since I keep in my circle people who respect my time.
2007-08-09 08:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by Buttercup 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, wait for them to call or invite you, and them maybe cancel on them a couple of times. Kidding!
2007-08-09 08:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, many people are like this and YOU can not change it. One thing you can do is to not extend yourself so much.
I won't go so far as to say they are jerks, but many people are inconsiderate. Still, you can not change anyone else's behavior. The only one you can change is yours.
2007-08-09 08:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for them to make the plans from now on since they are notorious for being no shows. i feel ya honey!
2007-08-09 08:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for them to call you...
2007-08-09 08:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by Kabu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋