okay, my bf and i broke up which isnt a bad thing, but now hes making me feel guitly and said that i was in my "own little f***ed up world" and that i hide and dont have the guts to stand up for myself. yet he started out by saying "y cant i forget u"
im so confused and pissed and i've already moved on, b/c i started to move on weeks b4 we actually broke up...
???
2007-08-09 06:46:17 · 27 answers · asked by Lydia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I won't state the obvious here (in that you did the right thing).
I can try to give advice for moving on though. Have faith in your ability to make decisions as a christian. Learn from your past experiences--including your past mistakes--and above all respect others (even your now ex-bf deserves respect but never stoop down to the level he brought himself to).
You're not confused although he's trying to make you feel so. Best of luck to you. Take care and God Bless!
2007-08-09 06:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sin™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that if "your own little ****ed up world" is so messed up, why does he want back in so badly.
He is playing with your feelings and his own guilt for being the way he is. Since you made a start at moving on, continue to do so and don't fall into the web of guilt he is trying to weave.
2007-08-09 13:51:47 · answer #2 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep away from him, move on. Why should you feel guilty? For what? I think he is messed up and tries to blame you because he feels soo crappy. Enjoy your new singleness!!! Don't be confused, there is so much more in the world to be explored than to deal with little relationships gone bad.
If the feelings weren't there, then no reason to beat the dead horse.
2007-08-09 13:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by Mary Laurita 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he hasn't moved on and is hurt because you can and have. So it is a normal human reaction that they want to lash out at you. He is hurt. Just take it with a grain of sand and don't let his inability to deal with it all make you second guess yourself. It wasn't meant to be. You broke up and it's done.
2007-08-09 13:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, if you have already moved on and the two of you are not going to be together, ignore him. He is saying whatever he has to say to get you to take him back. If it's not a good match, keep moving. He will heal. I wish you both the best of luck!!
2007-08-09 13:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same situation u are except he tells everyone i am a hoe and that i need a life but i am still trying to forget him
but he still calls me and tell me he misses me and he wants me back lol
well act like u dont no him anymore likeu used to and jus keep the guy u have now cuz if u go back yall are gunna get into this wholo thing again
well later
2007-08-09 13:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by roxy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue moving on...heartbreak is tough but the best is to move on. my ex bothered me for 2 years after we broke up and i had moved on. everytime i talked to him i would cry i felt so bad then he would get mad at me then call me kissing my *** FINALLY i said DO NOT CALL ME you need to obviously forget me because friends will not work. evetually not only did he move on he got married and had a baby. i went through a tough time with him because all our friends would call and ask me why i did it and that we were meant...but in time it was true we werent and we ended up both happy. so just move on and dont feel guilty
2007-08-09 13:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by toolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women actually deal with the break up before they actually break up. Whereas guys deal with it after they break-up, that is why they are all torn up and upset weeks and months later. However, dont let him guilt you or make you feel bad... move on sister!!
2007-08-09 13:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you moved on then what he says should not affect you anymore.. and do not let it.. if it helps then the two of you can still be friends and that would help since you can talk about things and you do not have to let go completely.. sounds like you are missing him also.. a bit so that is why i suggessted the being friends so you two can talk about things.. :)
2007-08-09 13:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by Chiv D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be the bigger person and tell him strait up that the two of you are already broke up and he doesn't need to make a bigger deal of things. he still likes you but must be very mad that you two broke up, thats why hes treating you like this. but you have to tell him that you have moved on.
2007-08-09 13:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by SmLv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋