my ex boyfriend beated me up!?

Question

he left town after I finally broke up with him, but now he's back in town, I'm scared to go to work, I want to stay inside all day, my boyfriend that i have now, doesnt know whats wrong with me, and he think its something that he did, but its not, I cant tell my dad, even thou he's in the police, and the other day I was in the gas station, and he saw me he winked and nodded, put on his evil smile, I nearly cryed there I was so scared.. what should I do, this is a small town, so I cant just go to another place to shop or get petrol.. I dont know what to do....!!!

taser, mase, peppersprai is illegal in this country, and also I'm not allowed to carry weapon of any kind, the police doesnt carry guns... and a restraining order, that just makes it more difficult, cus i work in a public place, and also this is a VERY VERY SMALL TOWN!!!! and many women here get beaten up, or raped at least once in theyr life,, so its just easyer if I move out of the country, and never come back.. cus they take his side.. not mine, they rather belive him than me, cus he is of a better family than I am.. so I'm doomed..

Answer 1

Tell your father. Even though this seems like it may be difficult, that is the best thing to do. If he does something to you, you definitely want others to know who it was. Also, get a restraining order against him. Document the threats whether implied or otherwise. Try not to go anywhere alone for a while. You cannot take this too lightly, there are too many women who have been badly beaten or even murdered who did take it too lightly. This is not your fault, you have no reason to be afraid to ask family and trusted friends for help.

ADDITIONAL COMMENT TO YOURS: You do not say what country you are in. There are people that will help you, you just have to decide that you want help and stop making excuses. You say that your father is a police officer, turn to him first.

Answer 2

First of all, don't let him know you are afraid or intimidated by him. If you see him, do not make eye contact and avoid looking his direction at all.

Next, sit down and explain what happened to your boyfriend and your father so they know what is going on. Then go file a restraining order anyway. You probably didn't make a police report when he beat you up and that is your first mistake.

You are only beat if you lie down and admit defeat. In the future when anything happens, get a police report on file immediately and if necessary, take pictures of any bruises and go to the hospital for treatment as back up to your report. If you have witnesses (he probably won't let that happen but just in case you do), be sure and list their information on the report for future reference.

If you have to move away to stay safe, do it, and get out of the small town defeatist atmosphere so you don't have to live in fear all the time and anyone you give your new information to, tell them you do not want that shared with anyone without your prior approval.

If someone is trying to reach you through someone in town, have your family take a name and number and you call them back, hopefully with your cell phone so they won't be able to trace your new location.

Take a self defense course so you can learn how to protect yourself in the future. Talk with the police and ask them what your rights are and what to do in the future.

Good luck to you ~ stay strong and look strong, even if you are trembling inside. You can always collapse once you get home and gather your wits about you then :)

Answer 3

Well it seems as though you have decided what your course of action will be. I think the best thing you can do is to tell your father and go and see the police and tell them what happened. You can't live in fear for the rest of your life and even if you moved are you going to lie to your family as to why you need to move. Bullies rely on you being scared and intimidated, perhaps you should show a brave face and not be scared. If you were brave enough and in a public place you could confront him right in his face and tell him he does not frighten you and if he intimidates you or threatens you then you will go to the police. That might scare him enough to leave you alone and he probably doesn't want any police trouble.

Answer 4

You had better get ahold of yourself and tell your father, the police, press charges against his ***, let your boyfriend know what's going on. Your ex is doing this because he KNOWS he's got you buffaloed, and you aren't doing anything about it. Yes, I can speak fr: experience, because I was in your shoes. You have to stand up for yourself, if you don't, he's going to continue because he knows he can get away with it. Quit playing victim, become proactive and put his *** away, as he can get some major time, for the beating and harrassment...You have heard of the stalking laws, right?

Once you stand up to this s.o.b. you will feel so much better. Don't lay down & play dead, do some beating of your own, with the available resources that you have: the law!

Answer 5

Don't be scarred. Don't ever give someone the upper hand on being scarred. Pray about the issue and then if you are to the point you think he will hurt you, go and get a restraining order against him. Don't just hold this in, tell another close friend or get the courage to tell you present boyfriend, I'm sure he would want to know this. Find a close friend you can trust and let them know what's going on. tell somebody.

Answer 6

You could always shoot him

JUST KIDDING..God please dont kill him lol

Ok seriously though, tell your current boyfriend and file a restraining order. That may not be too effective though so I'd get a small knife to keep with me when I had to be solo.

But definitely contact the police or if u dont want them involved, talk to a family member or friend that you can trust to find other options. But whatever you do, dont let him be aware that he has this much control over you. Thats what he wants

Answer 7

Oh dear god learn to spell, then go to the Police.

Its "beat me up" beated isn't a word! Neither is peppersprai.

For crying out loud get some backbone and an idea whats happening around you, just because loads of women in your tiny town get beaten up doesn't mean its ok. Where the **** do you live anyway it sounds ****. Go to the Police, they won't beleive him over you as the law is in your favour!

Answer 8

Your dad is a cop tell him get a restraining order and carry around some mace or a taser. and take some self defence courses besides guys all have a universal weakness if he attacks you just start kicking for 2 round things even one hit should make it possible to run away. But get your dad involved cops generally haveguns and very bad attitudes about people attacking thier family

Answer 9

Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/bKEMp

Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 10

File for a restraining order. That guy must be a real jackass to assault a daughter of a police officer. Tell your father, there is no need to protect this scumbag, and I am sure after your dad and his buddies are done with him, he won't be hitting any ladies anymore.