haven't seen him since graduation and we weren;t on speaking terms then but I want to be at least civil so we can have some closure. reunion is next week
2007-08-09 05:00:41 · 17 answers · asked by smiles 4 u 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you are still looking for closure after 10 years, something is wrong. I'd avoid him, and get youself sorted out.
2007-08-09 05:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, you are not the same person you were 10 years ago...and neither is he. I say after 10 years if you are still harboring bad feelings, get over it! Be polite, make small talk, etc, only to the extent of your comfort zone. Ignoring people in a social environment like a class reunion is petty. Show your maturity by being classy.
2007-08-09 12:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by anselina1 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Just take the high road. Even if you still resent this person, act really thrilled to see them and smile big. Congratulate them on anything good happening in their lives, and compliment them on something small. Be pleasant and charming, but make sure you find a way to graciously remove yourself from the situation before you start to get that urge to tell him off. You'll feel so much better for it if you can walk away from 10 years of bitterness with your grace intact.
2007-08-12 01:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try with "hello, how have you been? It's been so long since I've seen you..." But I really don't know. I have an ex who dumped me 14 yrs ago. I've run into him a time or two and he just ducks his head an avoids me. It makes no sense, it was so long ago. But if you get the opportunity, you should at least begin with a little light, friendly conversation.
2007-08-09 12:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lillith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just act as if it's a big nothing now. It's 10 years ago. Just say, "Hi Bob (or whatever)! How are you?! Nice to see you! What's it been? 10 years? My god how time flies! What have you been doing?" Then have some chit chat and a drink, and say how nice it was to see him and you'll talk to him soon, and you're going to mingle with some others who you haven't seen yet. Done.
It's water under the bridge.
2007-08-09 12:04:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My ten year reunion is in two weeks,
Honestly who cares, It's been ten years, that is closure.
I'm sure there willl be people at my reunion who i do not have a good thought of, But i won't be saying anything to them, Only if them talk to me then maybe i will.
2007-08-11 15:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by the d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 10 years, that is the closure, say nothing.
2007-08-09 12:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by Angelina N 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he talks to you, be polite and make small talk - but nothing too eager or effusive. If he chooses to avoid you, ignore him. Don't try to catch his eye or anything if he chooses to avoid you. If you talk to him, just ask him how his life has been, what he's doing now, etc.
2007-08-09 12:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by HooliganGrrl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You say "Hi! How are you? I know we went out for a while, but what's your name again? Sorry, I should know it - it's on the tip of my tongue. How embarrassing - I can't believe I've forgotten your name!!"
Or something along those lines. Then, when he starts talking to you, just kind of zone out, and mid sentence, get someone else's attention, and excuse yourself from him.
That's what i'd do - would be fun.
2007-08-09 12:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by MJF 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Take the high road. Say hello and at least pretend you are glad to see him.
2007-08-09 13:12:45 · answer #10 · answered by Kabu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋