What's the best way to find your soulmate?

Question

Should you wait or use a dating service? I want to know how you guys' relationships started and if they truly last.

Answer 1

Finding love online


We have become a society of high-tech people. The internet has changed the way we do business, how we learn and how we find love.

Jacquelyn Hansen, a 39-year-old mother of three, has been dating online, on and off, for a couple years. She does not care who knows.

"People who don't understand that it is part of our new world are like, 'oh, you're doing that?'"

Today millions of people are "doing that," trying to find their match online. In fact, online dating has become so main stream it's even part of a class taught at the University of Minnesota.

"We don't have the same connections that we used to have through church or family or neighborhood," Wayne Caron, U of M Social Science Professor said.

There are plenty of sites on the internet that cater to those looking for love. Each one works a little differently. Most sites charge a fee, make you fill out a profile about yourself and then help you find people with whom you are most likely to be compatible. The rest is up to you.

Dr. Elizabeth and Ryan Gaida met two years ago on www.MillionaireCupid.com.

"I did it for about four or five months before I winked at Ryan," Elizabeth said. "I went on a lot of first dates, but I guess Ryan was my only second date." Two weeks ago, they tied the knot.

Certainly not every match ends up in marriage, but for a budding industry, the number of success stories might surprise you. It's estimated that anywhere from 8 - 10 percent of all marriages are the result of people meeting online.

There is a downside to dating online. It's hard to tell someone's tone in an email. Also, you have to trust that the people you meet are being truthful about themselves.

Not a problem, says Vince Turk. He met his wife Karen on eHarmony.com.

"As somebody who is looking at profiles, you know the people who have invested time in it and put some money into it are pretty serious about wanting to meet somebody."

Karen couldn't have been more honest.

"I lived in a small town. I was approaching 40 and I had six kids," Karen said. "There were just not a lot of options for me."

Vince lived in Minnesota. Karen lived in Iowa. But after a push from their combined eight children, the two decided to move from the cyber world to the real world.

"We have two 15-year-olds, two 13-year-olds, a 12-year-old, 10-year-old, nine-year-old and a five-year-old."

This month, the Turks are celebrating their one-year anniversary.

Answer 2

SIMPLE SOLUTION- What does a soulmate relationship mean, and how do you find yours? Here are 21 guidelines for understanding how to listen to your soul’s seeking of the one who is just right for you-

Guidelines for Actualizing a Soulmate Relationship

1. Stop focusing on your partner’s faults, and start asking that your own be revealed to you.
2. Learn to listen for the voice of your guide in meditation.
3. Be willing to face the truth, even if it seems terribly embarrassing or disappointing.
4. Gracefully release relationships that are no longer fulfilling.
5. Face your mistakes with compassion and take the necessary steps to correct them.
6. Consider the possibility that there is a source of wisdom within you that knows better than you do which partner will be most likely to make you happy.
7. Don’t be discouraged just because your attempts to find true love have not worked in the past. A new approach may produce results beyond your wildest expectations!
8. Stop listening to your ego, and start listening to your soul and your guide.
9. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you really want.
10. Don’t hold out for perfect certainty before being willing to move forward with your relationship.
11. Focus on one relationship at a time, giving your partner every opportunity to respond as you hope she or he will.
12. Look elsewhere if your present partner doesn’t want to share the kind of relationship you have in mind.
13. Your soulmate won’t necessarily share your background, or look the way you expect.
14. Your guide may bring you together with your soulmate repeatedly, but it’s up to you to decide whether to accept the introduction and pursue the acquaintance.
15. If your guide encourages hope, wait patiently to let the true possibilities of a relationship emerge in their own good time.
16. The people who make you swoon may be precisely the ones you would be best to avoid.
17. It’s wise to proceed cautiously when you are blinded by infatuation.
18. True love is never blind.
19. Don’t be so sure you can tell someone’s soulmate potential at a glance.
20. Take periodic vacations from your ego’s thoughts, in order to contact your soul’s feelings.
21. Relax! You’ll meet your soulmate when the time is right for both of you.
22. Remember that your soul won’t be satisfied with anything less than true love. Accept no substitutes!

I hope this helps:)

Answer 3

A soulmate is simply someone we have a strong connection to, almost immediately. Sometimes it's as if they know our thoughts and dreams w/o us verbalizing them...as if we knew each other in a previous life.

Soulmates come in all types though. They can be our age, much younger or much older...same sex, or different sex. They are often not romantic partners or lovers for us, but they can sometimes be. Some people meet none in a lifetime, others may meet many.

When you cross paths with one...you'll know it. ☺

If you actually mean a good romantic partner, they can be found many places...open yourself up to meeting people (online and offline) and eventually you'll meet someone with whom there is a mutual desire to date and see where things go.

Answer 4

Well, I think it's different for everyone, I mean, If you know where to go to look for him, it would take the fun out of it wouldn't it. I know some people who have met on dating sites, those who grew up together, and those who met on the street one day and just fell in love. Mine's kind of wierd though. I met a guy when I was 14, and I had a crush on him untill I found out he was married, but I still liked him. Then one day he came in and ask me out, saying him and his wife split up. I think deep down I knew all along.

Answer 5

When you are truly ready, then picture in your mind what it is that you want (example...type of guy, color of hair, but most important are the feelings you have when you are with him).

Then, just know you will run into him in a short time. It's truly a spiritual thing, and it works. There is a lot more to it, but at least get started. Good Luck.

Answer 6

I found my boyfriend [who calls me his soul-mate] in the library...lol if I didn't have to go and do research there i wouldn't have went in...lol. Honestly, sometimes i feel that we are soul-mates because he knows some much about me that i don't tell him...he finishes my sentences and tells me what im really feeling and want to say to him....sometimes its so annoying but i like it because he already knows what i want and need.
my advice to you...brighten your horizons...go places you really wouldn't go.

One more thing sometimes opposites attract...well in my case it happened that way...he's a huge nerd--i love nerds and I'm well not so much of a nerd...lol

Answer 7

OMG soulmates,the one,mr right,ms right isnt real they are jus phrases made up to give u a reason to love someone so much u will never find that one person who is perfect for u cuz everyone fights in a relationship u will never find a "perfect"relation ship im sorry but if u do fine that "someone"its jus someone u gonna spend the rest of ur life with its not "the one"..

Answer 8

Don't look, it comes across as desperate, love finds you when the time is right

Answer 9

Just wait. You shouldn't go looking for the love of your life, he/she should find you in the most unexpected way.
~~MP

Answer 10

Just wait. Rushing into a relationship is never worth it.