It seems like, every guy that I take a genuine interest in is married (obviously his wife sees the same qualities I do, that's why she snatched him first!). I met this guy that I think is the most beautiful creature, and he wears no ring. He is always "eyeing" me, so I'm like, "Ok, maybe I'm not alone in this attraction. This one might be a winner". Come to find out (AFTER the fact), he's married. If a couple decides to not wear rings (which is fine, if they decide that), the man needs to "act married", meaning, if he's NOT wearing a ring and if he is "subtly" flirting, its inappropriate and misleading to the single woman--not to mention very frustrating and disheartening. I meet guys all the time (half of them not worth the skin they're in), but when I take a genuine interest in a man, he's married. Its like I have this chemical in me that subconsciously draws me to them, when I would NEVER cross the line with a married man. What's the deal with these men not wearing rings?
2007-08-09 04:37:52 · 16 answers · asked by Honey Bunny 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I never said I was attracted to men that weren't worth the skin they were in. Pay attention--before you make a rude comment. I said those were the kind that I meet, but I unfortunately find out later on that once I like a guy, he's usually married. This has only happened twice, but they are the only guys I really liked from all the rest.
2007-08-09 04:50:28 · update #1
FYI - THIS GUY HAS AN OFFICE JOB AND HIS HANDS DO NOT GET DIRTY.
2007-08-09 04:57:40 · update #2
Maybe the flirting in this case is just wishful thinking on your part. The problem with flirting in general and why it's stupid is that no one can really tell when someone is actually flirting.
And it goes the other way also. You only need to read the questions here to see that people are constantly hinting and flirting (or at least thinking they are) and yet no notices them.
I have a few friends both male and female who are married and never wear a ring. Like the woman changing her name it's an outdated and absurd notion.
The best thing is to ignore anything that you think is flirting because chances are it isn't. Stick to real communication. There's nothing at all wrong with asking someone if they're married. I get asked a couple of times a week and I don't mind at all.
2007-08-09 04:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by elurle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some married men do not wear a ring due to safety reasons where they work. However, this actual need for this affects only a very few.
I am married and I never take my ring off. It is my opinion that men who don't wear a ring with out a legitimate safety reason are doing so in hopes of finding a woman on the side. I really don't see any other reason for it.
Here's a suggestion for you. When you meet a person for the first time and are interested in them, simply ask them... Are you married? Follow that with ... Are you in a relationship with anyone right now? Now this doesn't mean they won't lie to you but at least you can narrow down the problems some.
Hope this helps!
2007-08-09 04:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by wrkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from experience, my husband has put on a few pounds since we married and his ring no longer fits. With 3 children we don't have extra money to purchase a larger ring. However, a ring helps people identify who is available and who is not. I didn't want anyone assuming we were having problems with our marriage in our gossip filled small town, so I got him an inexpensive silver band for now. There are many flirts out there, married, single or in a so-called 'committed relationships'. A ring won't automatically turn these snakes into better people. It sounds like you have great instincts regarding the opposite sex. Hang in there and trust your instincts. There are many good men out there and you deserve the best. Good luck.
2007-08-09 04:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father never wore a ring. He worked in the construction industry and wearing rings on the job is extremely dangerous. I saw a painter jump off a scaffold and his wedding ring got caught on the scaffold. Not a pretty sight. If the person works around machinery, same issue.
I am not married now, but when I was I wore my ring out with my wife or to my office job. But if I was working in the yard or with tools, the ring was off my hand. So I didn't wear it 80% of the time.
2007-08-09 04:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't wear my ring most of the time. When I'm at home, there's really no reason. And I work in a factory, so I don't wear my ring there either for safety concerns (both to avoid having my ring snagged in machinery and rip my finger off, and to keep the ring from getting all banged up).
I wear it on weekends though.
2007-08-09 04:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by P.I. Joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did YOU ever stop to think that maybe the problem is YOU. Two or three married men I can understand but if all you attract is men not worth the skin their in and married men then maybe you need to do a self assessment. Its seems like you're the common denominator. Just a thought.
2007-08-09 04:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by ROBBY R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm really not sure, actually. i've never seen a married man who didn't wear a ring. not that i'm doubting you, it's just an unusual occurrence.
of course, it could simply be that they have a ring, but are not wearing it in public because they're not happy in their marriage, and a wedding ring is an obvious hook-up killer.
my guess would be that they are aware of an attraction, like the attention, and stow the ring away to bask in it once in a while.
2007-08-09 04:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guys still want to know that they haven't lost that ability to attract other women. And I know my husband does not wear a ring for work purposes, because if it ever got caught in the machinery, there would go his finger. But I truly believe that men really want to feel attractive to other women besides the one their with. They pretty much know they have unconditional love there, why not test the waters and see. And the other men, well their just pigs.
2007-08-09 04:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he doesnt wear a ring and flirts, then why the heck be married , come on men you need to get a clue about this, if your not ready to commit dont put woman thru the marriage. As for your problem ...umm you could ask ARE YOU MARRIED...but then he could lie and say no, when really he is!!...MEN!!..cant live with em cant live without em!!
2007-08-09 04:42:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know?? Maybe they feel that they don't want to loose them so it is more of a keepsake. Other men may just don't like to wear them while others want women to think they are available? Who knows the real reason why some men do this?
2007-08-09 04:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋