I am only asking because I thought a bridal shower is usually for more personal items for the bride only; lingerie, perfume, jewelry, etc. This one is for the couples household items, kitchenware (pampered chef). I feel is is silly to go and purchase an item from this catalog and then buy yet another household item for the wedding. So giving a combined $50.00-60.00 gift is what I wanted to do. I am not trying to be cheap, but out my husband's 2 nephews and 4 nieces , there have been 2 weddings and 2 graduations in very close proximity and it is getting expensive. And there will be yet another graduation and possible wedding soon.
1. I have never met her
2. Don't know if she will be registered anywhere, Wedding invitations have not been mailed.
3. She is marrying my husbands nephew
4. The Grandmother of the groom (my M.I.L.) is also doing the same thing
5. Husband is clueless on this subject
2007-08-09 04:18:43 · 12 answers · asked by Ami P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You only need to give one gift. Since the shower is first, just give the money there. Then at the wedding the bride and groom know you have already done your part. No stress.
2007-08-09 14:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I just went to a Pampered Chef shower on Monday and they have wonderful tools for the bride to start off with in her new kitchen. The nice thing is that they have a huge price range of products. Over 50% of the items in the catalog are under $20. I would order her something off of her kitchen wishlist and spend $20-25; you can get her a nice gift that way. Then for her wedding just give her a card with a check for the remaining amount of $. When I got married cash was truly the BEST gift we recieved because we needed it more than all the other random gifts given to us at the wedding. Even $20 was appreciated! This way you will cover all your basis but not me out more money than you planned on spending.
Good Luck!
2007-08-09 09:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by Noah & Sarah's Mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not attending the shower, then I suppose you could combine the gifts and give them at the wedding but, I would opt to get a gift certificate for the shower (from a store like Linens and Things, Bed and Bath, etc.) I would give a separate gift for the wedding. I know it is expensive when you are going to many events that require that you bring gifts but, these things happen in your life when many of your friends or relative's children begin having weddings, graduations, etc. We have a large family and it seems like some summers are non-stop celebrations.
2007-08-09 04:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by turkeybrooknj 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get something small for the shower like dish towels or something, and then give the cash or an item from the registry for the couple at or send before the wedding. You could also do a joint gift with someone if you want to do a little more for the wedding.. like your MIL maybe.
2007-08-09 05:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you'll be attending both the shower and the wedding, you should take a gift to each event. If you're low on funds, just take something very small to the shower and give your real gift at the wedding. Ask a family member (like your MIL) where the couple is registered so you don't get them something they already have or don't need.
2007-08-09 04:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would take a $50-ish cash gift or item to the shower... maybe take a pretty picture frame and card to the wedding. I just got married... we didn't open anything that we got on the wedding day until after the honeymoon. several people purchased two gifts, but most did not. I would say that putting a personal note in the card would be special
2007-08-09 04:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're attending two events, you really need to give two separate gifts. You are right that the purpose of the shower is to give gifts, but there's nothing that says the gift can't be money or a gift card. Also, because you need to give two gifts, doesn't mean you have to double your budget. Figure out what you can afford, get her a small shower gift with some of it and give the rest as a wedding gift.
2007-08-09 04:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many people do. At my shower most of the people were those that were unable to come to the wedding and were giving me their gift then. In fact, if we want to go by strict etiquette it is required to give your wedding gift prior to the wedding. It is in poor taste to bring it to the wedding, which is why showers were started in the first place. To "shower" the bride with her gifts.
Recently our society has deemed it necessary to get a gift at each party but that is simply not the case. You are suppose to be intelligent and not go into debt for someone elses wedding--especially in big families. As you said, you've never met her and your husband hardly seems to know her. I think that sounds quite appropriate and is in fact about what I budget for weddings of non-immediate family.
2007-08-09 04:30:54 · answer #8 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not give the gifts combined. For the shower, give 25, for the wedding give $35. Two separate events, two separate gifts, still the same amount of money.
2007-08-09 08:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would think that would be fine! You could get her a box of chocolates or a little bath set for the shower, and then a small gift card for the wedding- gift cards are always appreciated!
2007-08-09 04:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋