I was talking to this guy. Sex came up because he knows I'm a virgin, and he basically said he wouldn't let me sleep with him until he thought I was ready. Since when did it become his choice? Was he saying this to show that he wouldn't take advantage of me? I was kinda taken aback when he said it, because I couldn't understand when it became his choice. What do ya'll think? Please gimme your advice.
2007-08-09 04:10:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You make it seem like an insult... He was being nice! He said that so you know that he wouldn't pressure you to have sex with him. The worst thing is when sex destroys a relationship because of ultimatums on virgins...
2007-08-09 04:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think because taking a virginity is a big step. He wants to make sure you do not regret it and that it is something that you really want to do. If anything I think he has very good respect for you. Many guys would jump at the fact to take a virginity....because there pigs. Be happy that you are with someone that wants you to be sure.
2007-08-09 11:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sales Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's actually both of your choices, and obviously he isn't ready. And he's hiding by saying you're not. Or maybe he is a control freak trying to establish some kind of an authority with you.
Anyway, it's both of your choices...it takes two to tango ;)
2007-08-09 11:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by Beach Bum Wannabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I really think he was just saying that because he wanted to let you know he has no intention of letting you have sex with him until he thinks you're ready. He isn't making it his choice. It isn't YOUR choice either. What he is saying is even if you make the decision that you want to have sex with him, he isn't going to unless he thinks you really are ready.
2007-08-09 11:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by Phil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definately your choice. Don't ever let a choice like this be held by someone else. If he's taking charge with this, imagine what else he will start taking into his own hands.
2007-08-09 11:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a two way street. You are not the only one who gets to choose if sex does or doesn't happen.
2007-08-09 11:15:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys aren't horny 24-7 (though it usually seems so), we're just more open with our thoughts of that sort (its pretty obvious that my girl is as horny as me, its just our social restictions that dont allowwomen to speak as openly about sex, even to their partners) so maybe he just dosent have much libido right now. he dosent see you as a sex object! there'll be another time when he'll want to sleep with you.
2007-08-09 11:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl i would confront him dat it ain't his choice when he can have sex with you.You tell him dat you pick when ya'll have sex ok u don't have to listen to me dats just my opinion!
2007-08-09 11:17:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just being responsible. If he knew you well enough, he wouldn't want to hurt you if you weren't ready.
2007-08-09 11:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by Mallory R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's the controlling type. Stay away from him.
2007-08-09 11:13:49 · answer #10 · answered by comeundone4162 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋