When sending text msgs, I rarely select phone #'s from my cell phone book as I type it in if I know the # by heart. I was txting my boyfriend last night telling him that I'd come meet him in an hour and texted my ex-bf on accident not realizing I typed in his number instead of my boyfriend's (their cell #'s start w/ the same prefix). My bf saw his # as I was going through my sent txts and is really upset with me. I can understand where he's coming from in that it looks as though I tried getting in touch w/ him, but it was an honest mistake & I was upfront w/ my boyfriend that I did that on accident w/o even realizing it until I was going through my txts. I haven't spoken to my ex since our break up and have no desire to have him in my life as I'm in love with my boyfriend. I just typed in his number on accident - I typed his # every day for the 6 yrs of our relationship! It was a habit. Any opinions would be appreciated. I feel so bad that I hurt my boyfriend...
2007-08-09 03:53:06 · 4 answers · asked by Rosey45 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him what you said here.
it was an accident.
if he can't deal with that, i suppose he has trust issues.
2007-08-09 03:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if this helps, but my husband sometimes calls me by his sister's name in casual conversation like "Hey Linds, can you pass me the milk?" ... I highly doubt that means he secertly wants to be married to his sister. The brain plays tricks on people all the time. People forget what a complex maching the brain is ... with billions of synapses every day, it's bound to make a boo boo every now and then.
Have you contacted your ex-boyfriend to tell him it was a mistake? Or is the poor guy thinking that you wanted to meet up with him again? What would be going through your head if you got a text from your ex that said "Hey -- wanna hook up in an hour?" ... If you haven't corrected the mistake, I suggest picking up the phone, instead of texting. But tell your boyfriend that you're dong this ... call the ex while your BF is there if you have to.
I totally understand that you made a genuine mistake. Our bodies are often on auto-pilot when doing routine things (like typing a phone number, or driving to a frequently visited address). So, if a total stranger (me) can believe you made an honest mistake, why can't your boyfriend? Sounds like he doesn't trust you ... maybe you've done something else to lose his trust, or maybe he was burned by someone in the past. I find that mistrust is like a rock chip in a windshield -- one day it's a tiny little rock chip that you don't even notice, but in time it will become a huge crack that you can't even see out of. Sorry -- I have strange analogies sometime :)
My suggestion (and this is going to sound strange, but hear me out) ... Face your boyfriend directly and put your hands on his upper arms (like if you were about to shake him). Look directly in his eyes and say something like "You're being crazy. You know that I love you. I made an honest mistake. I would never do anything to hurt you. Please try to see that." If he finally cave and agrees he's being silly, give him a hug and move on. If he doesn't, then you'll probably have to have a bigger conversation about why he doesn't trust you.
I know what I just suggested sounds silly, but here's why: People rarely actually HEAR what other people are saying. They have their own thoughts going through their head. His are probably "Why did she call him? Are they hooking up? What else has she been doing behind my back?" or maybe "When is the football game on? Do I need to change the oil in the car this week?". If you connect with him physically (by touching his arms), he can't have those other thoughts running through his head because he is now thinking about you touching him -- which means THIS time he might actually hear what you're saying, think rationally for a moment, and realize he has nothing to worry about.
2007-08-09 04:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by C S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drunk or not he shouldn't have said that to you if he really didn't mean it. He is still in love with his ex probably and will go back with her. But breaking up with you just because you don't speak russian ISN'T an excuse to break up with someone. He was honest with you at least and didn't keep going out with you. Yes breakups are rough hard and are hard to get over at times. But for the friends with benefits relationship? DON'T do that because that will just hurt you more emotionally and will make you feel attached to him. He just wants to take advantage of you and when he finds a girlfriend it will hurt you. You don't want or need that. What you need is someone who respects you for who you are no matter what language you speak. This guy isn't worth your time so tell him NO and move on to someone better.
2016-05-17 22:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was a mistake!!! ive dont that b4 and so has everone else. tell your bf what happened, if hes still mad then oh well. you told the truth, the ball's in his court to forgive you... if this one thing messes him up then he must be very insecure.. not good
2007-08-09 03:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋