3 years ago a member my boyfriend's family was killed in a car accident. Last night, one of the families that was most helpful and supportive (that of a girl my boyfriend and I have been friends with growing up) lost a child in their family from a car accident. This friend and her family truly were compasionate and caring during my boyfriend's family's time of need, they even comforted me when I felt that I just couldn't be strong for my boyfriend anymore. I intend to return the kindness by doing anything I can for them at this hard time. I know that they will need meals and snacks, help with little things around the house, and a shoulder to cry on, but when they were lending their hand things were such a blur and I can't think of other things that will help them out. I would really appreciate any thoughts or ideas of what I can to do better help their family. I want to show them that, like they were there for others, I am there for them.
2007-08-09 03:50:49 · 8 answers · asked by ♥Infatuation 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think that you should try to just be of service anything you see that needs to be done...mowing the lawn, washing cars, helping with funeral arrangments, making food for the funeral, picking up things, but don't be too pushy...I am sure that you will know what they need as time goes on...but the best thing is to be there for them AFTER the funeral...thats when it is the hardest...good luck and I am sorry for their loss
2007-08-09 03:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by <3<3<3<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you know, this is going to be a terrible time for them. It's going to take a lot of time to heal from their loss. You can be there to lend an ear without trying to say things that you think will comfort them. I know you're going to want to help and sometimes the first thing you do is offer comforting words, but some times when people are in that situation all they want is to have someone listen to them.
Also, as you know, after a period of time things have to get back to some sort of normalcy. This is really important for the healing process. It's going to be hard for them.
2007-08-09 11:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by Not quite perfect 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First stop and think, what how and why. What did they do for you. What you you like someone do for if it ways you and what can you do for them. How did they help you, how would you people help you if it was you and how can you help them. Why did they help you, why would you want someone to help you and why do you want to help them. OK 3 questions and the 3 are almost the same, they were just to focus your mind. Be yourself and treat them with loving care, but treat them the same as you before this awful accident and be there for them when they need you and let them know you will be there for them until they feel they can cope and long after-wards, because sometimes you think you can cope, but you can't.
Hope this helps, my thoughts are with the family.
2007-08-09 11:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would contact them, thank them for their kindness during a trying time, offer your condolences, and let them know if there is anything you can help them with, they should contact you.
And yes, you can bring them something to eat.
2007-08-09 11:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by VeggieTart -- Let's Go Caps! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already hit the nail on the head, with all the things you mentioned.
The best thing you can do is be there for them.
2007-08-09 10:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by 99% Tater says: TAX THE RICH! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bake them ZITI and bring it over with some salad and bread. food will help nurish them and their family dring this difficult time.
2007-08-09 11:16:38 · answer #6 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue to be supportive and try to encourage them in any way you can.
2007-08-09 11:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by sexy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you want my advice pray for them. everyone loves to know they are thought of.
2007-08-09 12:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by megsta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋