I saw my man as an old man and thought how nice it would be to grow old with him.
2007-08-09 03:43:54 · 19 answers · asked by stellavision100 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We met at 15 and dated. It definitely wasn't love at first sight--which I dont even believe in. But he was interested in my best friend and I was interested in his. High school relationships shouldn't last more than 30 days anyway. We both went out once with the best friends, it didn't work and we started dating. We both had big dreams for the future and marriage with only a high school diploma was NOT it. We were so young and had no idea if he was "The One". After all how can you discuss the important matters when you don't even know what they ARE at 15. However, we went to college, dated other people and remained close friends.
Through that we realized that we had quite a list of requirements. The man I would marry had to skip in the rain with me, love to travel and want to see the world, be up for trying new things, have ambitions and the same view on money that I have, my same intense loyalty, know how to cook and on and on the list went. He needed to compliment my often blunt nature--which means he needed to be the diplomat.
After we both graduated with our masters, we were both single at the same time and got back together. We realized that every item on our list of what makes a successful relationship was fulfilled by this person. We can talk about everything and are completely open and honest with each other. We truly know each other (its been over 10 years since we were 15), and love each others flaws as much as wonderful traits. I hate when couples think each other is perfect b/c you are bound to be disappointed and miserable when you learn the truth. No one is perfect. I love his idiosyncrasies. We also agree on everything important--money, children, where to live, whats important in life. We even have the same birthday!
I like how you phrased it with "decide" he was the one b/c I really am a logical person and I did "decide". He meets all my needs and I spend each day trying to meet his. We were both mature enough to wait and know that if it was meant to be, it would still "be" 5-6 yrs later when we had degrees and were self-supportive. I am an independent woman. I don't need him to be complete. But I prefer the person I am around him.
2007-08-09 04:24:51 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
He immediately got along with my family so well. There was a brief period of time when we thought he was going to have to move away (back to NY from SC) if he didn't find a new place to live like immediately, because his roommate had left him hanging. We had only been dating about six months and he had physically recovered, but was still getting back on his feet after a really bad car accident left him in a wheelchair for about 6 months. He couldn't put down first months rent, deposit, and all that stuff on such short notice since he had just started a new job and hadn't gotten any settlement money from the accident yet, not to mention the hassle of finding a new place to live to begin with. I called my Dad crying like I've never cried before (My dad can't stand it when I cry). When I realized I had the guts to tell my super protective father that I loved this man and needed his help to make sure that he didn't have to move away, I knew it was something special. My dad had never liked any guy I'd ever dated before. But he liked this guy and actually wanted to help. That sealed the deal for me and I knew we would be together forever. That was almost 4 years ago and we're still going strong.
2007-08-09 04:29:18 · answer #2 · answered by tehuskey513 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been dreaming about him since I was a little girl, when I saw him I inmediatly recognized him. He smiled so big and didn't stop smiling. Light went through his eyes and it took my breat away. He was here, at last. WE couldn't wait to play any dating games, so we exganges phone numbers the same day and went on a date the same day. We've been together ever since. We are a perfect match, we have odd tweeks that most people wouldn't understand, but it was like finding the sock that was missing from the dryer. He gest me and I get him completly, no need for explanations and no misundertsandings, I simply know, because we are so much a like.
It hit me like a bus the same day I saw him. I've never have had to flirt (he neither, he's a very handsome man) but I just cut to the chase, he was MINE, I found him and I was not going to waste any time playing hardball.
Good luck
2007-08-09 04:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We'd been best friends for about a year before we started dating, and it wasn't long after we began dating that we realized that this relationship had the potential to be for keeps. But I think I really saw how I could be with him forever in small things: I had a little health scare and he was the first person I wanted to contact-without taking the time to think about it, I dialed his number. When I saw him with his six year old half-sister, how good he was with her, I saw the father he could be. He had always been very forthright about where our relationship was heading. But one of the most obvious signs was I realized that my relationship with him is very similar to my own parents' relationship, and they have been in love for the last 25 years going strong...it only confirmed that he and I have a love that can last.
2007-08-09 08:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Constellation 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd been dating my hubby a little less than a year, and I was 95% certain this was it, when my father became very, very ill and was rushed to a hospital over an hour from my house. It was late at night, and my mom asked me to please just stay at her house until morning, and come up then to bring her home (she rode in the ambulance with him).
My now-hubby sat on the couch with me while I waited for a phone call, and ended up falling asleep on said couch with me, just so I wouldn't have to be alone.
My dad was diagnosed with a terminal illness and passed away less than six months after this night. My hubby was there, every single day to support me, my mom AND my dad. I didn't know this until after we were engaged, but Hubby told me that he promised my dad before he died that he'd always take care of me.
I knew that if he could be there for me through what really IS the Worst Case Scenario - (trust me, family is all you have. Everything else is details) - that there is not one thing on this earth that we couldn't get through together.
2007-08-09 04:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by sylvia 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Kim. There wasn't this one moment or one thing that made me decide he was *the one*...just soon after I met him I couldn't imagine my life without him. I feel like I've been waiting for him my whole life. We compliment each other and no one has made me happier. This is also the first relationship I've had where my first priority is to make him happy over myself. That's not to say I just bow down to him...it's not that at all. But, I'm not selfish when it comes to him. I always take his feelings into consideration and he does the same for me. That's true love and one of the big reasons why he's my "one".
2007-08-09 04:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by Natty 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I met my future husband on a plane-he was on a business trip, and I was on holiday in Spain. My flight took me through Frankfurt, and I sat right next to him. We exchanged E-mails for a long time, and he asked me how many children I wanted. I responded 10. When I asked him the same question, he said 3-2 with American names, 1 German. That´s when I knew. We fell in love during our conversations, and I just knew some day we would marry. We did-this past May, and it gets better and better every day.
2007-08-09 08:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's been in love with me for over three years, we have been best friends that long, except a window of time after he told me he loved me, and I pushed him away. We went back to being best friends after a while. He has never left, no matter what. Even after that window of time, HE initiated the friendship because he knew he couldn't live his life without me in it, even if all we ever became were friends. he stayed....I haven't had a lot of that in my life. I always loved him. But It wasn't until recently that I knew I was IN love with him, and that he was the one. I had just gotten out of the WRONG relationship, he had just gotten out of a relationship (with his "transitional" person...the one he dated after I broke his heart several years ago) We were at field days hanging out with my friends, his sister, and niece, and I just walked up and planted one on him.....Caught him very off guard.
The transition from friends to dating was akward at first....but now it's better than I EVER thought it could be!!
2007-08-09 04:47:55 · answer #8 · answered by Princess_Baby_Bird 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't know right away....it wasn't a love at first sight. But over time, I realized that he made me a better person. He made me see how important I was and he showed me how to be a little more carefree (to not let the little things get me down). Together, we compliment each other well. I don't think I decided that he was the one... I just couldn't imagine not being with him forever.
2007-08-09 03:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by Kim 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I married. divorced. married again.
I knew the first one wasn't "the one". I was in over my head as an 18 year old kid. I knew that the second one was "the one". I was old enough to see character qualities, integrity, love and personality. I made a choice to love him with all of my heart. So... there's no easy answer.... I too visualized my "man" as an old man. I can't wait to grow old with him. If you saw the Wedding Singer with Adam Sandler - that song... Grow old with you.... i had that played at the wedding reception - cheesy or not - i enjoy every day.
now that i've rambled... good luck on your "one". :)
2007-08-09 03:49:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋