traditional christian lifestyle?

Question

could somone explain? i read about this with "the man as the head" "only dating with a chaperone" "women=homemaker" could someone explain this, and how it works in a teenagers life
i hope this makes sense to someone...
no christian bashing answers PLEASE

Answer 1

I am in a Christian marriage, and my husband is the head of our family.. That in NO way means that I am a doormat, and I hae no problem telling hubby if he's about to screw up. Dating with chaperones might be a bit impractical in this day and age, but it is done to protect the teens from getting in over their head, and protecting their reputation. (No one ever cried date rape) on a chaperoned date.

Answer 2

In Genesis 3:16
So, some have argued that part of Eve's punishment is that

This is actually not introduced with a 'curse' formula--only the ground and the serpent are stated as being 'cursed' (3.14,17).
God's actions are limited to the first half of the verse--the discomfort in childbearing (e.g. physical, mental, emotional, or some combo of these)

***The 2nd half of the verse looks more like a prediction or observation as to how the future will unfold.***

The word for "your desire" and "rule" , and the exact set of prepositions and word order occur in Gen 4.7b: But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it.". Cain will face a struggle for self-mastery with sin. The obvious import of the 4.7 passage is that sin desires to 'dominate' Cain, but that Cain must 'fight back'.

So, if these forms/structures are indeed identical, and if 4.7 is generally accepted as a "must try to rule" and "desire (to rule)", THEN Gen 3.16b becomes something like this:

You will desire to rule over your husband;
And (at the same time) he will struggle diligently to rule over you
-- a perpetual power struggle...
There is no indication that there is a 'winner' in this struggle, but history has shown us that all have been losers.

Also, anthropological research indicates that in addition to biological sexual distinctions, the nature of the environment in which a society develops influences male and female roles. A hostile environment readily leads to male domination, whereas relative equality between the sexes is most frequently found when the environment is beneficent. Indeed, in the biblical narrative, human sin results in both a hostile environment (a cursed ground) and male dominance.
What this would mean is that the struggle of Gen 3:16 would result (early in history) in more male dominance--due to the harsher environment. [However, other studies indicate that in 'pioneering' environments, such as post-exilic Palestine, women's status IMPROVES.

What this would make Gen 3.16 say is that, as a result of the Fall, men-women relationships are problematic--each is tempted to dominate/manipulate the other, and, like a cursed ground, relationships will require more 'work' to see the original desired fruitfulness. In any event, the text is CERTAINLY not clear enough to build a case for "prescriptive, pervasive, and punitive subjection" as part of the Fall(!)...

Answer 3

Tradition encompasses a 2000 year summation of behavior.

1900 of those years,

Christians did not ride in automobiles or airplanes
Did not talk on telephones
Did not listen to radio, or television
Did not use computers
Did not buy shoes or clothing made in factories
Did not use products produced in foreign countries

Clearly living in the traditional Christian lifestyle is no longer a priority among Christians

Answer 4

It does make sense. It's a confusing world out there, these days. And there are so many people making Christianity sound so confusing...
Did you know that Christian men are told that they must love and respect their wives, even to the point of giving their lives for them? That they are to cherish their wives as their own flesh? The "man as the head" puts him in the position of spiritual leader in the home...which puts him directly responsible to Jesus. I know these verses have been abused by male-dominated societies for centuries, but anybody with half a brain can obviously see that the idea of loving one's wife as Christ loves the church would put him on his knees with a basin and a towel... It also puts her in the position of loving him and respecting him to the point where it is no burden to her to give him the responsibility of leading. A man who leads as Christ leads would be a joy to follow.
To see what a woman's role actually is, try looking at the Proverb about the virtuous woman. She is a business woman. She dabbles in real estate, and in commodities. She is a hard worker, who contributes to the household both financially and with the work she does at home. But she is by no means the chief cook and bottle washer. Nor does her husband expect her to be. While she does cook and wash bottles, one expects that the husband of this lady is quite aware that his hand also fits a frying pan, and a dish rag, quite as well as hers does...nor is he too proud to take some weight off of her delicate shoulders...
I have not seen any verse in the Bible that discusses dating, with or without a chaperone. But I have seen where people were expected to save their physical intimacy for the one they intended to spend their lives with. And I do see where men and women respected one another more because of this. There is nothing "special" about sex with someone who is available to anyone who wants them...and this is equally true for men and women alike. Teenagers who expect to have long and happy marriages would do well to realize that, while people do make mistakes, it is much better in the long run to keep oneself pure outside of the marriage bed. So many STDs, so much unwanted pregnancy...why would anybody willingly go there? It is also wise to realize that marriage is about more than sex. Any dog, and any b#tch can have sex, there is nothing particulary special about going to bed with someone...but there is something very special about getting up with that person throughout a lifetime...about knowing that, in spite of babies, and bills, fights and fusses, that person will be there, always. Merely being "lovers" is so over-rated, and everyone knows by this time that the rush of passion doesn't last. What is precious beyond the price of rubies is spending your life with your best friend...
So, in the long run, God's way is not only the "right" way...it is the BEST way...

Answer 5

Easy...

The man is the head of the household......meaning that he should have the final say in big decisions. It doesn't mean that he should rule with an iron fist.

Christians teens should not find themselves alone with one another while dating. This can lead to sex........pretty obvious.

As far as the "homemaker" thing.........most women work now so......I don't think that applies.